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So i tried to kiss this girl, but her face went super red, grabbed her stuff and run away? Any reasons why? She has been giving me IOI for 4 days.
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It sounds like she's pretty young. It's hard to tell without much context given.
Were you on a date? Were you sitting alone together somewhere? Had the conversation been leading up to it in anyway? Were there some pregnant pauses (just staring at each others' eyes admiringly)?
Anyone that knows me on the boards, knows that I'm a big proponent of the Spontaneous Kiss now. Ever since I read this article, it has changed my life haha. I love the Spontaneous Kiss.
How to Kiss a Girl like No One's Ever Kissed Her Before
Were you on a date? Were you sitting alone together somewhere? Had the conversation been leading up to it in anyway? Were there some pregnant pauses (just staring at each others' eyes admiringly)?
Anyone that knows me on the boards, knows that I'm a big proponent of the Spontaneous Kiss now. Ever since I read this article, it has changed my life haha. I love the Spontaneous Kiss.
How to Kiss a Girl like No One's Ever Kissed Her Before
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Were both 21 and in Uni. We were working on a project together as usual. I was working and she wasn't just trolling facebook therefore she had no real business being in the office we work. I noticed she wa fixing her hair alot, sighing alot and looking for excuses to get into my personal space. She also kept making fun of how my fly was unzipped. So when we were both about to leave i tried for the spontaneous kiss, but she backed off. Her facial expression was a mixture of surprise + a smile and then she had to go home and pack to go to her real home and she just ran off and I stood there feeling awkward.
What do you think man?
What do you think man?
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Nah bro. I am from Canada
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One side of me thinks it was like a 180 flip to her. She saw you as a friend in a friendly environment. The other side of me just sees her as young/shy/reserved because she blushed bright red at the end.
Women are naturally more touchy-feely with their friends, so it's difficult to understand the signs correctly as interest sometimes. Was she touching you? Touching your arms, back, etc.?
Did you ever compliment her on your looks before the kiss? Create any sexual tension?
Example of good interaction. The keys in this type of situation are strong eye contact, the slow bedroom voice, and pregnant pauses with locked eyes.
Girl: "Here, let me show you how to do that better."
*She reaches in front of you*
Guy: "Hey! Are you trying to seduce me? I'm just trying to work on a project here." (Said playfully.)
Girl: "Haha. Shut up! So, you see if you do this and this that it's a lot more efficient."
Guy: "Ah, yes. But, wonder if I do this and this."
Girl: "Yeah, you can do that."
*Pause; look at her eyes deeply*
Guy: "You know..."
*Pause; she is staring at you now; locked eyes*
Girl: "Yes?"
Guy: "....I never realized how exquisite you look....before now."
*Pause; strong eye contact while she responds*
You're just feeling it out. Saying things to probe out her true feelings. Does she blush or voice pitch go higher? Does her facial expression change, etc.?
If it's really good, then you can go for the kiss around there. Else, you can keep creating some sexual tension (with strong eye contact, slow bedroom voice, and locked-eye pauses). Then, if it seems good, go for the spontaneous kiss. When you're new, it'll be hard to feel this out though, so don't feel bad if the girl refuses your kiss and thinks you're weird; you're just learning.
Also, if you kissed in the above example, that would be more of the romantic kiss. The spontaneous kiss is usually never a miss. You're just talking about something, and then you plant one on her real quick, and then go back to talk about whatever. But, for any kiss, there needs to be some type of build up....whether that's verbal (she knows that you're attracted to her) or non-verbal with lots of sexual tension or both (best).
I think that it's good that she blushed. She may be pretty reserved and shy. I think you need to warm this up more, using the above tips. You have to preheat the oven
Actually ask her out on a date; tell her your interest. If she says no, no big deal.
Women are naturally more touchy-feely with their friends, so it's difficult to understand the signs correctly as interest sometimes. Was she touching you? Touching your arms, back, etc.?
Did you ever compliment her on your looks before the kiss? Create any sexual tension?
Example of good interaction. The keys in this type of situation are strong eye contact, the slow bedroom voice, and pregnant pauses with locked eyes.
Girl: "Here, let me show you how to do that better."
*She reaches in front of you*
Guy: "Hey! Are you trying to seduce me? I'm just trying to work on a project here." (Said playfully.)
Girl: "Haha. Shut up! So, you see if you do this and this that it's a lot more efficient."
Guy: "Ah, yes. But, wonder if I do this and this."
Girl: "Yeah, you can do that."
*Pause; look at her eyes deeply*
Guy: "You know..."
*Pause; she is staring at you now; locked eyes*
Girl: "Yes?"
Guy: "....I never realized how exquisite you look....before now."
*Pause; strong eye contact while she responds*
You're just feeling it out. Saying things to probe out her true feelings. Does she blush or voice pitch go higher? Does her facial expression change, etc.?
If it's really good, then you can go for the kiss around there. Else, you can keep creating some sexual tension (with strong eye contact, slow bedroom voice, and locked-eye pauses). Then, if it seems good, go for the spontaneous kiss. When you're new, it'll be hard to feel this out though, so don't feel bad if the girl refuses your kiss and thinks you're weird; you're just learning.
Also, if you kissed in the above example, that would be more of the romantic kiss. The spontaneous kiss is usually never a miss. You're just talking about something, and then you plant one on her real quick, and then go back to talk about whatever. But, for any kiss, there needs to be some type of build up....whether that's verbal (she knows that you're attracted to her) or non-verbal with lots of sexual tension or both (best).
I think that it's good that she blushed. She may be pretty reserved and shy. I think you need to warm this up more, using the above tips. You have to preheat the oven
Actually ask her out on a date; tell her your interest. If she says no, no big deal.
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Also, I wanted to add 2 common techniques I read about in PUA-land. I don't personally use these, but just giving a different perspective:
1. Keep looking at her lips or around her mouth (with slow eye movements) and back to her eyes; I think the idea is that she either consciously or subconsciously becomes aware that you want to kiss her
2. While you talk with her, imagine that you're having hot, steamy sex; this is more "mental game," and I think the idea here is that your thoughts mirror your facial expressions (e.g., when you're happy, you smile -- so when you think about sex, you'll look "horny" in some way)
I just think it was completely unexpected to her. You need some type of buildup (and this doesn't even require words! just strong non-verbals are enough if do them correctly).
1. Keep looking at her lips or around her mouth (with slow eye movements) and back to her eyes; I think the idea is that she either consciously or subconsciously becomes aware that you want to kiss her
2. While you talk with her, imagine that you're having hot, steamy sex; this is more "mental game," and I think the idea here is that your thoughts mirror your facial expressions (e.g., when you're happy, you smile -- so when you think about sex, you'll look "horny" in some way)
I just think it was completely unexpected to her. You need some type of buildup (and this doesn't even require words! just strong non-verbals are enough if do them correctly).
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i see. You made a good point. There wasnt alot of sexual tension. It tried and kissed her out of the blue. I might add I am not skilled in building sexual tension. I havent been on the prowl for like 3 and half years now.
Also i dont think she sees me as a friend, she has invited me back to her place 4 days ago and invited me to her room nothing happened because i was too nervous. She also invited me to watch a movie in her bed a year ago. Nothing happened because i was too nervous.
Also i dont think she sees me as a friend, she has invited me back to her place 4 days ago and invited me to her room nothing happened because i was too nervous. She also invited me to watch a movie in her bed a year ago. Nothing happened because i was too nervous.
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Developing_Man said:
It sounds like you missed escalation windows and got auto-rejected. I'm learning at this as well.
I say move fast. Ask her on a date today or tomorrow. Again, it's just 1 girl out of a million, so don't get bothered if she says no. If she says yes, follow a date template and don't miss escalation windows.
Example:
0. Text/call and tell her that you like her and want to date and ask when she's free this week
1. Meet at your place
2. Walk/drive to local grocery store to buy food/wine
3. Go to park (or somewhere) and have a picnic together; deep-dive about her life and her desires; give her compliments; try building sexual tension (we're all learning here, no big deal)
4. Go back to your place for a light dessert and a movie (buy dessert before date)
5. Within 10-15 min, kiss her
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Thanks man, you've pretty much simplified the whole thing and I have tendancy to over complicate the situation in my head. Although deep diving seems difficult now a days. We've known each other for like a year and half and have had alot of deep conversations with each other.