FR Fairgrounds II

[AsianPersuasion]

Out of the 10 or 12 new interactions I had today at the fair, 3 notable ones come to mind:

1) Originally, I was invited by my wing-man to the fairgrounds because a girl he had been crushing on had invited him. She has a boyfriend, whom he considers a douche. Unfortunately for him, he has yet to shake himself of the white knight mentality, and kept pursuing her only out of a conviction that he could potentially save her from this "douche." (She's definitely pretty, and because she wore a very interesting style shirt with no bra, I found it difficult to stop staring at her breasts... However she isn't worth this much trouble.) I tried my very best to avert my eyes from those bouncing boobs so that my wing could do his work and focus on her friend instead, whom I was told was shy.

She complimented me on my pink shirt very early on when we met, and I believe I complimented her back. She was definitely a quiet girl... However she had the habit of going off on her own alone and walking ahead of the group by a few yards. A few times, I had a chance to banter with her for a bit... She says she's adventurous and likes to make herself look dumb in public. She likes people but is not very good at meeting them, which I responded to by offering to show her how it's done... I never outright said that I meet girls in random places though, only that I had the habit of walking up to strangers randomly.

The whole interaction was lots of flirting and banter, some nudges, and one hug, but eventually, my wing's crush got a call from her boyfriend indicating that he was there. Since she wanted to hang out with him, my wing didn't want to be a third wheel and left discouraged. As we were walking away, I turned back and ran back to her.

Me: "Hey Tasha, before we go, do you think I could have your number?"
Her: "Um... Do you want it?"
Me: "Yeah, you seem like a really interesting girl and I'd love to hang out with you sometime!"
Her: "Sure!"
Me: "Awesome "
Her: *types in her number in my phone*
Me: "Um.. What are you doing this weekend?"
Her: "This weekend I'm at my dad's, so I won't be able to hang out. Just text me!"
Me: "Alright, I will! Bye "

So far, our text conversation is at

Me: "Hey tasha, it's AP "
Her: "Sup man"
Me: "Not much bro we're a little lost... Lmao"
Her: "Aha we are at the beach playing soccer"
Me: "Well I hope you aren't walking off on your team for your own adventure again... Trouble-maker "
Her: "Haha yeah. I tend to go off anywhere. I like to wander"
Me: "I noticed lol... But so do I my friends often suggest someone puts a leash on me"

This could be fruitful if I play my cards right

2) The older girl (No number close):
This one was walking alone when I approached her, and she was by far the most beautiful of the girls I had interacted with that day.

Me: "Hey, um, do you think it'd be okay if a stranger gave another stranger a sincere compliment?" *feigning nervousness*
Her: "Sure!"
Me: "Well alright then! Give me a compliment " *smug*
Her: "Haha, I really like your pink shirt!"
Me: "Thank you! I like your pink shirt! ...Well, I'm not sure if it's actually pink... Everything similar to that color gets labeled as pink because I'm a guy... I see all the similar shades as RED, and BLUE, and PINK"
Her: "Hahahahaha!"
Me: "What's your name?"
Her: "*name*"
Me: "I'm AP!"
Her: "Nice to meet you! Is this your first time at Market Fest?"
Me: "Yeah, I was actually here with a group of friends that live around here, but I wandered off because I saw a pretty girl... I'm a bit of a weirdo."
Her: "Hahaha!"
Me: "I take it this is most definitely not your first time then?"
Her: "Oh yeah, I come here all the time! There's shopping places over there and places to walk... And there's a bar too.. Are you over 21?" *buys lemonade*
Me: *shake my head*
Her: "Getting there?"
Me: "Yep!"
Her: "Haha, well I am! Doesn't always seem like it does it?"
Me: "Haha, I guess not! So um, besides great alcohol and hanging out at Market Fest, what do you like to do?"
Her: "There's lots of things I like to do! Hunting, fishing... Um... Recently I got into wake boarding?"
Me: "Are you a dabbler then?"
Her: "What's a dabbler?"
Me: "Where you sort of pick up habits as you go, play around with them for a bit, and then drop them to pursue new ones."
Her: "Mmmm... Nope, not really."
Me: "Ahhh okay, dabbling is what I do. Do you like coffee?"
Her: "I do!"
Me: "You seem like either a caramel cooler type of person... or turtle cooler?" (These are just very commonly liked drinks and I always guess these two. 99% will say yes.)
Her: "Hahaha, oh my god, yes!"
Me: "Awesome Do you want to grab some coffee with me sometime?"
Her: "I'd love to! Unfortunately I do have a boyfriend though... Sorry. It was really nice meeting you though!"
Me: "It's fine. It was nice talking to you!"

Though it wasn't a number close, this interaction just reinforces the observation that the most beautiful girls are the nicest and best to approach. The warmth in her personality really put me in a good mood afterwards, regardless of whether or not I got her number.

3) Lydia: I approached her towards the end as her and her friend seemed to be laughing at something across the road.
Me: "Hey, um... Do you think it'd be okay if a stranger gave another stranger a sincere compliment?"
Her: "Um... Sure!"
Me: "Well alright then, give me a compliment "
Her: "Haha, um.. I really like your style?"
Me: "My style huh? How so? "
Her: "Your shirt... Your hair..."
Me: "Haha, I'm AP, what's your name?
Her: "Lydia!"
Me: "Nice to meet you!"
Her: "Nice to meet you too!"
Me: "So uh, I take it you two go to school around here?"
Her: "Yep! We're from White Bear!"
Me: "Ahhh.. Everybody I meet from there seems to hate it!"
Her: "Haha, well I like it!"
Me: "Do you know someone named Lisa *lastname*?"
Her: "Umm, I'm not sure."
Me: "Asian girl... Wears black mascara..."
Her: *shakes head*
Me: "I only mention her because she's one of the only asian girls I think is cute."

Just then, my wingman came in and all four of us had a group conversation... He, I, her, and her friend. When I asked what she liked to do, she mentioned xBox among other things, and my wingman enthusiastically insisted that they all exchange gamer tags.

Me: "He wants your gamer tags. I came here to see if you wanted to go grab some coffee sometime, if you're open minded like that.... You seem like a caramel cooler type of person... Am I right?"
Her: "Whoa! That's awesome! Are you like magic or something?"
Me: "Oh yes, all Asians are magic, haven't you heard? "
Her: "Haha, sure then!"
Me: "Awesome what's your number then?"
Her: *enters number into my phone*
Me: "And give yourself a cute nickname*
Her: "*friend name* calls me Lyd-myster"
Me: "Lyd-myster it shall be then... What are you doing... this weekend?"
Her: "Um... I'm not sure. I'll need to check. Text me!"
Me: "Will do."
Wing: "Can I have your number too? I honestly would love to have your number too."
Her: "Sure!" *puts her number in*
Me: "Alright, I'll text you tonight. See ya!"
Her: "Bye!"

I did not text her the whole time at the fair, but my wing did and found out she was going to be a sophomore and that she was too young for me. He must have pointed out that we were both 17 and 18.

Here is what the text conversation is currently at:
Me: "Hey lyd-myster, it's AP "
Lydia: "Hey AP!"
Lydia: "Hey, um just so you know, I have a boyfriend. And I'm going to be a sophomore this year so I'm not sure if my boyfriend would want me to hang out with you! Sorry"
Me: "Ahhhh okay lol. In which case you couldn't be anything more than just my friend anyway hahaha. You still seem like a cool girl though.. Do you wanna hang out at a mall sometime with roman and me? Your boyfriend can come along too if he wants, I really don't care hahaha"

Oh well, maybe I can turn her into a wingwoman

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2 for 10ish today... Getting better 1 is a potential date candidate, the other a wingwoman candidate... Plus the bonus of an uplifting conversation with someone new.

 

[AsianPersuasion]

We hung out once more with the shy girl and the girl with awesome boobs along with one other guy and his cousin. The Tasha did not seem into me, so I jumped ship and decided that I should just go and hit on someone regardless of whether any of the girls saw me... The big boobed girl, Jaycee ended up cock-blocking me in mid-interaction, but it seemed to earn me some respect points in the group anyway... Even with Jaycee and Tasha, which was kind of odd. The guy, Noah, said he had mad respect for me after he saw me do that..

But now, long story short, my wingman and the girl with the awesome boobs that I tried so hard not to flirt with got into a big fight where she just wanted to be friends and he got all mad about it and started cussing her out....

On that note, it made me free to do as I please.

The following is a facebook message conversation between the two of us. Note that since I was not trying to get a date with her at the time, she had seen me approach someone once before.... The girl happened to be her neighbor...

Me: "Hey Jaycee "
Her: "Hey"
Her: "I suppose you haven't talked to roman eh? He's got a lot of mean shit to say about me suddenly"
Me: "Lmao yeah I heard, but I'm planning on staying the hell outta that... What's up?"
Her: "Hanging out with a 22 year old model I met" *sends me a picture of him with his shirt lifted*
Me: "Atta girl I suppose one of you walked up to hit on the other randomly then? Lmao"
Me: "MY date got cancelled "
Her: "I'm sorry. No we met on hot or not."
Me: "It's totally fine Using the internet for that kind of stuff is so boring though!"
Her: "But I found a gentleman using it so I'm happy"
Me: "That's like saying I met a good girl lol. Good girl... Promiscuous girl... Gentleman... Asshole... Pretty sure you've seen as well as I have that we can all be both whenever we want to be "
Her: "True but he was absolutely perfect today. I couldn't have asked for a better date"
Me: "Haha, good for you I won't pry because I believe what happens between two should stay between two... I'm just hoping I have that kind of fortune on my dates this week... I go to Morris on sunday, so I'm hoping mine go well too "
Me: "Are you a playette by any chance?"
Her: "What's a playette?"
Me: "Basically a player, but with boobs and a vagina."
Her: "No. I want to find someone to spend the rest of my life with. That's it."
Me: "Lmao I was wondering because you give off a really cute vibe. I knew roman liked you, so whenever the four of us hung out, I was trying really hard not to flirt with you... It's difficult as shit haha"
Me: "It's the same vibe as those that my playette friends have"
Her: "Oh well I just want one gentleman and that's it. I don't like playing games with people's feelings"
Me: "Haha, well you wouldn't be bad at it... I'll give you that. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with being a playette... I've grown to respect people who know what they want and go for it unapologetically... That includes girls that are manipulative"
Me: "Or as you would put it, girls with small boobs" (She had previously stated while we were hanging out that small boobed girls were manipulative out of over-compensation)
Her: "Manipulative girls are the worst"
Me: "Lmao hey, small boobed girls need love too. I feel it depends on where you put them in your life... As a close friend or girlfriend you're just asking for trouble... As more of an ally or friend with benefits though, they ain't so bad "
Her: "I feel like you are really fucked up"
Me: "I never denied that lmao"
Me: "Best part about being fucked up is that you're pretty much open minded to everything... Nothing anyone can say really tops you"
Her: "I suppose"
Me: "Most people I meet don't normally have the brass to tell someone they're fucked up this early in lol... You might be one of the boldest girls I've met so far."
Her: "I'm brutally honest"
Me: "Were you always brutally honest, or was it something you picked up along the way?"
Her: "I've always been this way"
Me: "Brutal honesty was something i developed after i decided lying was too much work... of course i go about being honest in an entirely different way than you do lol"
Her: "How so?"
Me: "It's complicated... but it's the reason I say a lot of the things I do"

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Me: "Hey Jaycee "
Her: "Hey"
Me: "What's going on? Meeting more interesting gentlemen I assume?"
Her: *accidentally sends a completely black picture*
Me: "Damn, he's fucking dark"
Her: *Sends the actual picture of her with a white guy. Turns out I hung out with him with her when we last hung out.* "He's the baddest nigga in the game"
Me: "Holy shit, he did an MJ... what happened to the model then?"
Her: "He's busy. This is noah do you remember him?"
Me: "Oh yes! I do! Haha he is a cool cat isn't he"
Me: "Unfortunately I didn't get to talk to him much last time we hung out"
Her: "Yeah well noah thinks you're a stud muffin so lol" (Noah saw me hit on Jaycee's neighbor as well)
Me: "Oh I'm a total novice compared to you "
Her: "He is a master of all stud muffins that's for sure"
Me: "Master stud muffin who answers to nobody except you... madame stud muffin"
Me: ""
Her: "Hell yeah nigga"
Me: "How many stud muffins exactly do you have in the palm of your hand?"
Her: "Lol wut"
Me: "Nevermind haha Anyway, I was wondering if you wanted to hang out again after I come back from Morris"
Me: "Unfortunately, I'm all booked until I leave this sunday"
Her: "I work tomorrow all through the weekend"
Me: "Yeah, I'll be booked all the until then too... I'm talking about waayyyyy later... I leave this sunday to go to college early for free credits and come back on the 16th for about 10 days"
Me: "It's a bit far in advance, but it's all I've got for now lol"
Her: "Okay lol we'll see how that goes. I'm assuming you're going to tell roman?"
Me: "Don't get me wrong; a bit of conflict in life makes it interesting, but I think I've got enough of it at the moment lol. No need to go looking for more"
Me: "If he asks, I'll tell him. If he doesn't, I don't see a reason to"
Her: "I think you should mention it at some point. He deserves to know"
Me: "How so?"
Her: "Well considering you are his friend and he used to like me. . Idk I just feel like you should"
Me: "It's not a respect thing lol the last two summers were some very crucial times for me, and he's been there since day one... It's more of an "I don't see why someone needs to know what you're doing if they aren't involved" kinda thing..."
Me: "I think I've mentioned my thoughts on this before lol"
Her: "All you said was you werent getting involved. But by hanging out with me, you are getting involved."
Me: "I meant that I refuse to take sides on the issue lol ...But I also said that what two people do is the business of those two and those two only"
Me: "If you really want me to, I'll tell him, because I don't really care either way lol... But I am saying that shouldn't be neccesary"
Her: "I think you should eventually tell him. Not today or tomorrow but closer to the actual date" (I was expecting to hang out as friends considering I had already hit on someone in front of her, but hey, if that's what she wants, I ain't complaining
Me: "Fair enough. And if by that time I can convince you that it doesn't really matter one way or another, we can save me the trouble. Deal? "
Her: "Deal"
Me: "Lol to see that you still care about how he might feel even after all this... You really are an interesting one"
Her: "I don't give a shit about him but if he were my friend and I was fucking my friend over I'd tell my friend"
Her: "Just joined a party on xbox with him and he called me a fucking bitch. Seriously. Wtf did I do"
Me: "I never quite saw it as fucking him over... Lol I'll figure it out by then. For now though, I'll still say what doesn't involve a person shouldn't bother them. I'd be the same way no matter who it was... Don't worry. No matter what you did, it'd been impossible to please everyone anyway"
Her: "True"
Me: "But yeah. Once again, not taking sides "
Me: "Laptop's gonna die. Night Jaycee "
Her: "I don't expect you too"
Her: "Night"

Okay, so looking back at this conversation, I can now consciously pick out a couple of things I was doing throughout the interaction... Implying that I'm a guy with lots of girls in my life without explicitly stating so, implying that I keep my life exciting, framing her as a playette, framing being a playette and going after what you want isn't a bad thing, framing that only two should know the business between two, and as a result implying that I don't kiss and tell.

That's what I picked out. There might be more, but I'm not at the level where I can consciously see what I'm doing and why I'm doing it a whole lot... So between frame control, implicit communication, and everything else I might have done unconsciously, what did I do well, and what could be improved?

Once again I wasn't planning on getting a possible date from her, but that's what makes this interesting. I'd greatly appreciate any input from anyone