Fast Talking

[r3volv3r]

Hello, I have managed to make some approaches but I have a thing that I don't know how to handle it.

When I go out day or night I am very enthusiastic, sometimes the girl fells into this and others we just cann't commnunicate. The thing is that I feel there are situations that I have to slow down my energy lets say if I am in a class but every day when I wake up I want to be all out and make some noise, I don't know if it sounds silly but I have this in my mind and cann't let it later.

Also I lack of conversation skills so I speak too fast. I really don't know to make it keep going when I start it and when I feel it will be awkard and cant keep it I ask for the phone number or for a kiss just to end things fast. And it does not ends well as you can imagine I have read some articles for conversation but I am struggling to make it good. I still have tons of approach anxiety so when I stop a girl to talk to I am still very tensed. The thing is that when I am home and think back the interaction there are times that a girl investing back in me and asking me questions that I can keep go from there but when this happened I am so in me that can't see them.

 

[BlackBolt]

Hey man, I think its more to talking too fast than poor conversation skills. I'm a natural extrovert and always was able to make friends and bond with people easily and get called a great conversationalist a ton yet, I still talk way too fast from time to time It does suck because it can be embarrassing, and once you realize you're doing it you try to control it and it just makes it worse and you end up feeling more self conscious about it =(. One theory on why I talk too fast is cause I get excited VERY easily especially in social situations. I just love being around people so when I get too excited I start to go a mile a minute. One thing that helps me slow down is too try to make my voice sound boring and deep. To do this I also make my face appear more relaxed and let my eyes droop a little like George Clooney here

Another thing you can do is add more pregnant pauses when you talk, talk in a sing song like matter (think Captain Kirk but not as animated, maybe a bored captain kirk), and even say a sentence in your head before you say it aloud. Hope this can help.

 

[Man-O]

As long as you remember to do slow down every 5 mins you'll eventually learn to never talk too fast.

I saw sasha daygame making a video about it. His advice was to smoke an imaginary joint very slowly -> Inhale slow and exhale slow. Then when you're done you say these words very slow; "Yaah, maaan, prettyyy hiiigh". Worked for me some times and it's fun

 

[r3volv3r]

Haahahhaahaa thank you for the advice guyz I will try to follow some