Thanks. But, don't you think it would be better for me to assume that I'm already cool, rather than make a statement where I admit to being wierd?
Never lie to your brain. It will reject any and all attempts (unless you're able to delude yourself which takes a shit ton of time).
Instead, go with the growth mindset: "Hey, I'm weird now but I'm doing xy and z to get better. Hell, I just had a great interaction the other day which is proof that I'm getting better!"
Accept where you are currently at and work to get better. Then, anytime a negative thought floats into your brain try to catch it:
"I'm weird"
"True brain, true. I am a little weird. But I'm learning to become cool. Also, other people started out where I'm at now and look at how far they've come! I can get there too, probably even easier than them because I'm learning from other cool people who are able to teach this stuff. I'll get there in no time"
Eventually, you'll grow into that cool person you're trying to become. As long as you stick with it. Just takes time.
First you gotta learn something mentally/intellectually. But then you have to learn something on a gut/instinctual level. Just takes experience. Knowledge helps a lot though because it gives you a road map to follow.
Following a map is a lot easier than just bumbling around in the dark.
Quick Edit:
The four stages of learning comes to mind:
1) You don't know what you don't know. In other words, you're stupid and don't know that you're stupid (a lot of League of Legends players are like this... sons'a bitches ruining my games)
2) You know that you don't know a lot. In other words, you're stupid and you know that you're stupid (this is me in regards to this damn game... really need to stop playing it lol)
3) You know a few things, but you have to stay on top of it in order to be good at something. In other words, with a lot of effort you can be dangerous
4) You've forgotten what you already know (I forget how to word this actual stage). But in other words, you know stuff that you don't know that you know. Kinda like a fish trying to explain what water is. Or like how you try to explain what reading is to someone born without eyesight. Here's an even better one: try to explain colors to blind people who have never seen anything. You know what the color red is, you recognize it, you can point it out and even come up with examples of other stuff that's red. But good luck explaining what it is (without cheating).
--> Another fun one; try explaining how the internet works to your grandpa. I have enough trouble explaining how his desktop operates...
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