Feeling Escalation Windows

[Zoro]

I approached a girl the other night and was received very warmly.
After only a few moments of introductions we decided to walk and I suddenly felt very strongly an urge to bring her close. There were a few other urges to touch her that I acted upon also and was thinking, "wow, I've never experienced such obvious intuition about escalation windows."

I could not stay much longer than a few minutes with her and I could tell she was disappointed. I decided to take care of my business and then meet up with her later in the night. She was very receptive and agreed to meet up. I was on fire with good moves.

So since I was thinking about the "clear feeling of escalation" I was excited for the date. However during the date I didn't experience the same obvious urges and ended up not making a move. I kind of lost a bit of attraction to her (which I think might be vital to the "urge" of escalation Windows) and she told me she was a bit religious which threw me off for a moment.

Have any of you experienced something similar? After reading Chase's articles on love at first sight, I definitely think there was a moment of strong mutual attraction when I approached, which allowed for easy sailing and strong desire. After my drop in attraction towards her perhaps the threshold for obvious escalation windows dropped below noticeable levels.

Just wanted to share this experience because if I hadn't decided to let my emotions lead the way and instead had a better balance of emotion and process, maybe the night would have been more enjoyable for the both of us.

The emotional part helps with spotineity and intuition and the process helps you stay on track. All being said I'm unsure if I would have changed anything about the night because I'm less attracted to her than when I first met her. So maybe the balance was just right.

 

[Rusty]

Your intuition is based on a combination of your previous experiences and how familiar or similar something feels to you and also your emotional and subconscious mind responding to your environment. This can definitely be trained, and it takes a lot of exposure to get it sharpened. It also takes trust and confidence to act on those instincts.

You feel something, a natural spike in emotion or a mutual attraction. The only way to strengthen this intuitive sense is to trust it and make a move. Of course, it doesn't always mean she's going to respond well to it. She may be self-conscious because there are a lot of people, her friends are watching, you're in public, she's nervous, etc. So calibrate according to the situation.

I definitely resonate with Chase's advice about putting off kissing and intimate/sexual touch early on, because if your logistics are bad or the situation demands that you keep her temperature "simmering", then you can peak her emotional state and end up peaking too early and not ready to capitalize.

That intuition has to be developed by taking some risks and then you'll begin to trust them more and more. What I realized is that we all have this sense, this instinct, and it's like a muscle that has to be trained and developed through exposure and repetition. Our minds are wired to connect, and when your brain is telling you subconsciously and you start feeling that intuition kick in, you have to respond accordingly. It becomes positive reinforcement.