Nisha dude-ette!
The issue ya have here isn't that men aren't dominant it's that society has tamed them an typically teaches guys to conform an be submissive. Especially lately with the feminist movement and the PC agenda. This isn't anything new it's been going this way for decades. This means there's no role models for guys or even for girls with the whole gender blind shit. It's ironic but that's something else entirely.
Some of these women will seek high quality men, others won't because they quickly find their dating level, or perceived level. It depends on a lot of influences in their life but they may not acknowledge the reason they're unsatisfied with their decision due to their desire to lead. Yes they're with a weak man but that's justifiable to them in order to maintain power. If they met a guy who could lead they would be super attracted but might auto reject out of fear. Or they realise the guy can't be tamed and cut it. Another issue is if they have a great deal of penis envy and look to lead they'll have less feminine traits an that makes them less attractive to real guys.
The weak guy they choose will say a lot about them and the underlying reason. Is he a provider? An entertainer? Or simply a bitch... is he attractive so all her friends are jealous? Is he a place holder? Each relationship is different.
Female domestication relationships are mostly problem free because they're on the same page. When the girl kicks off he'll submit and apologise. She'll lose attraction but she never had that real desire anyway. Without any conflict of interest it's plain sailing. She wants power and he's willing to give it. In every relationship there's a one up an a one down. Everyone wants to be one up, the most satisfying puts the guy in one up but the girl will fight and resist this.
This happens in shit tests. There's a lot of factors that build up the big picture of what's going on an why it works. The way society has changed changes how people act an what's expected of them which changes the roles.