The mistake is to listen to what women say, 95% of it is simple fantasy. Of course they want everything that excites them at the thought of it. But almost all of the time they won't actually develop a plan to get it, or even actively pursue an opportunity presented to them. And they will go right in and take an opportunity that is far more realistic.
In life there is reality and there is fantasy. Most people separate them completely, they live in a very substandard reality while maintaining a fantasy in their minds that has no connection with reason. Men dream about having a million dollars but won't do anything to get it while working a bum job. Women dream about some outrageously successful and wildly satisfying guy but keep dating office drones. The mind cannot escape its sense of self, in which it finds security.
The happiest people are those who find small ways to connect the two. A touch of fantasy in a realistic, comfortable setting. Seducers have a lot of success by short-circuiting the part of the mind that grapples with these two, by creating something that ambiguously combines an understanding of the everyday reality of women with something of what they want to explore or strive toward.
The most enjoyment in life is always one step outside of one's comfort zone. A hundred steps out lies nothing more than complete loss of control for 99% of people and they know it. A good seducer in my opinion pays very little attention to what women say, but learns how to understand where the boundary of their comfort zone lies, and stands just outside it offering their hand to the women they want to take with them. And it works.
It's also the best way to keep a relationship healthy.
