Female Sexiness

[Bboy100]

Thinking back, I've noticed that most the girls I've really lusted over weren't necessarily the most physically attractive. Rather, they had an energy about them which screamed "I'm very confident, and I'm REALLY good in bed". And I started to wonder...what were the physical manifestations of this energy. Then I realized...it's tight fundamentals! They have the female equivalent of what we on this site would consider "being sexy". Their general demeanor lead me to believe that they have a lot going on in their lives and that they're very desirable people. ...But once I got to know them, I learned that this isn't always the case. Many of them have the same insecurities less sexy girls have, and their lives aren't always as exciting as I assumed they would be.

Conversely, I've met some more physically attractive girls who on paper, are actually more desirable than their sexier counterparts (i.e. the have personality or character traits which I value more), but I'm actually less attracted to these girls.

So now this leaves me wondering...does male sexiness give women the same feelings and experiences? Or does it manifest itself in a different way?

 

[Skid]

Yeah! I've definitely noticed this as well! That the girls you lust over are the ones with tight female fundamentals. They can move their hips in a sexy way and are really good at flirting. Chase has an article which covers this really well and he uses the analogy of wrapping paper and presents all of these superficial things that draw people to you (wrapping paper) such as your fundamentals is classed as wrapping paper. And things like goal motivations interests hobbies and values are the classed as the present inside the wrapping paper. I think that it works the exact same for both sexes and makes you realize that men and women aren't as different as they first seem. Lots of girls meet bad boys which are all wrapping paper but don't have any sort of long term value. So basically you have to look at your life and be like I can only focus on these 2 things so much , but both are important : wrapping paper for attracting people and present for keeping them around. So if you want to meet more people (or sleep with more girls) then work more on your wrapping paper , if you want better deeper connections with people then work on your present and find things that interest you , hobbies and values. I think a lot of the guys that come into pickup are tons of "present" but have little to no wrapping paper and so they don't really meet new people or girls or have people people interested in them very often. Which is why the first step on gc is : work on your fundamentals. So really you just have to match the levels of wrapping paper and present of the people you want to spent time with.Generally if you want deep connections with people but you also want people to think your cool and social-able you should be like 40% wrapping paper and then 60% present for best results.

Skid

 

[Chase]

Bboy-

Here's the article Skid mentions:

The Wrapping and the Present

Sexiness is a learned quality. Both men and women can learn and exhibit it. Typically though, more women put more energy into developing their sensuality than men do, so you'll generally encounter more women who are able to be sexy than you will men.

But yeah, sexiness screams confidence, experience, frame control... it creates the impression that you are confident of your sexual value and demanding of quality (whether you actually are or aren't). There are sexy men and women who do have pretty put-together lives, and there are also plenty whose lives are a big mess. The impressions men have of sexy women and women have of sexy men generally seem to me to be the same ("Wow, this person is top notch").

Although there's variation among how people view sexy people. Some go into insta-auto-rejection, some see through the sexiness and aren't impressed... but most seem to have that general, "Wow... top notch" impression.

Chase

 

[Bboy100]

Thanks for the replies guys! This is kind of what I began to suspect. That article put what I was starting to intuitively feel into words very nicely.