Fetishizing Body Parts

[Howell]

Do most girls prefer you to go crazy over their bodies, or is it better to just be cool and like it's whatever; appreciate it the same way I do a sunset? I personally don't fetishize breasts or asses or anything, and only with girls I like beyond a physical level do I get a high sex drive and want to bed them multiple times a day. When a girl is predictable, unintelligent, and unconfident, even if she's pretty, I can't stay with her for more than a round of sex or two before I lose interest. Even that is often stretching it.

It's one thing to cooly compliment a girl on her nipple hue compared to the rest of her skin color, it's another to oggle and idealize specific body parts. However, it does seem that some girls I sleep with expect that kind of behavior from guys; they expect guys to value them for their image, and this makes them outgroup me and even sometimes disappointed. They thought I'd be all excited and perhaps even supplicating, but I act just the same, and they may fear that I won't stick around or that I'm not attracted to them.

Is there a compromise here? Do you guys fetishize specific body parts? I act pretty much the same way I do with clothes on as with clothes off. Is this what most guys are doing, or am I an outlier? It's probably different from culture to culture, come to think of it. Perhaps this is a thing mostly with Americans then?

Howell

 

[Thedoctor]

Howell,

I don't think I've met a chick that isn't self conscious of at least one part of her body, particularly when she is naked.

Do most girls prefer you to go crazy over their bodies, or is it better to just be cool and like it's whatever; appreciate it the same way I do a sunset?

No need to go crazy and start acting like you've never seen a pair of tits in your life, but a few specific compliments about what you like about her can go a long way. I probably wouldn't go so detailed as to the "nipple hue" you mentioned. I'd recommend starting more general with something like "your tits are fantastic."

Think about how you'd want a compliment in return. Would you rather hear a chick say "I love your huge cock!" or would you rather hear "I love your huge foreskin!"

-John

 

[ray_zorse]

As always, calibration.

Chase recommends to mainly avoid verbalizing stuff while escalating and I think this is good advice, especially with a new girl where lots can go wrong. It has also been said that sometimes they need a flow of instructions or sex talk to give them "permission" to get turned on and/or come etc, paradoxically this is useful with conservative girls as it helps to prevent them getting stuck in their thoughts or becoming logical while you are escalating. So a balance and some judgement is necessary to get it right in my experience.

In this context I think in appreciating her body it's good to be in the moment and to give genuine compliments... use a very sexy voice tone and say things like "I am just looking at your sexy little body/tits/etc"... but don't go overboard, like Thedoctor said, it's good to get some appreciation, but I personally hate,when she starts acting like a bad pornstar because it seems insincere and cheapens the moment for me. Some things just defy description and are best appreciated.

Ray

 

[Howell]

I probably wouldn't go so detailed as to the "nipple hue" you mentioned. I'd recommend starting more general with something like "your tits are fantastic."

Lol, this was actually a joke. I wish there was some way to punctuate tongue in cheek comments. Maybe an emoji: :-#

As always, calibration.

Chase recommends to mainly avoid verbalizing stuff while escalating and I think this is good advice, especially with a new girl where lots can go wrong. It has also been said that sometimes they need a flow of instructions or sex talk to give them "permission" to get turned on and/or come etc, paradoxically this is useful with conservative girls as it helps to prevent them getting stuck in their thoughts or becoming logical while you are escalating. So a balance and some judgement is necessary to get it right in my experience.

In this context I think in appreciating her body it's good to be in the moment and to give genuine compliments... use a very sexy voice tone and say things like "I am just looking at your sexy little body/tits/etc"... but don't go overboard, like Thedoctor said, it's good to get some appreciation, but I personally hate,when she starts acting like a bad pornstar because it seems insincere and cheapens the moment for me. Some things just defy description and are best appreciated.

Ray

Ah yes, the good old middle way. Gotta love it.

 

[Franco]

Howell,

John has a good point about not getting overly excited in a "oh my god, it's my first time seeing tits! Yaaaay!" type of way. You don't want to do that.

However, I like to be very "animalistic" when I'm with a girl and be all over her body with intense enthusiasm. Basically, think of it as if you had been rescued after being trapped in the desert for 5 days, and they've just put a giant piece of steak in front of you. You just want to ravage it.

You don't always have to be this way with a woman (if you're seeing her regularly), but nothing communicates "I'm desired" to a woman than raw sexual enthusiasm from a man. You can still communicate this while appearing to know exactly what you're doing -- to her, maybe you've fucked six other girls in the past two weeks, but THIS girl... her body just gets you ROCK hard like no other!

That's pretty much the vibe you want to give off with women when you're having sex with them. It gets them extremely wet to think of such a strong, sexy man craving their bodies with such intensity.

- Franco