Fiance I Didn't Know About Over a Year Later Harassing Me

Regal Tiger

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Yo! So October I believe in 2019 (oops, before edit I accidentally said 2018) I met a girl and we hooked up a few times. After a while she stopped responding so I deleted her and moved on.

Fast forward to last Saturday and I'm getting phone calls from multiple numbers. Pick up one of em and it's a guy claiming to be her fiance who is pissed at me. Threatened me and all that.

From a small understanding it's my basic impression that it's just all talk, but it's still annoying. I've blocked two numbers so far but now I'm getting phone calls from other numbers.

Anyways, he knows my full name and even the fact that I'm a felon now. Not sure how he got all that from a phone number, or why the fact that this girl even kept my number from so long ago but whatever.

My main concern isn't my physical safety, but the fact that he could potentially fuck up my probation.

Thoughts? Other than the fact that I need to get the hell out of this country already... I really hate America... just barely over 2 years to go
 
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Anyways, he knows my full name and even the fact that I'm a felon now.
Unless he has an influence on the judge, lawmakers,

I don't think it's a problem.

It happens. Men are pissed even if she is not engaged. Just how it is with women they like. Curious as to how he know your full name.

Save the numbers, for your protection. Screenshot it. Record the phone call too if possible.

z@c+
 

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I'm just going to change my number. And as for the name, I talked to a gaming cop buddy and he thinks it was through the phone company. So as a warning to everyone out there: try to see if you can somehow make that shit private

But the main problem is I just blocked his two previous numbers (I'm assuming one was hers and one was his). But now I have no idea if he's using one of those number generator apps or not :/

Like I said, I'm not at all worried about my physical safety. He's probably just talking shit
 

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There are sites that let you look up who the phone belongs to. If they have your name and general area (from area code), they might be able to also find your current location or your previous places of residence. There are sites that list that as well as other pertinent information.

Not sure how to make it all private, but you can use fake phone numbers (ex. Google Voice) to avoid the name lookup at least.
 

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There are sites that let you look up who the phone belongs to. If they have your name and general area (from area code), they might be able to also find your current location or your previous places of residence. There are sites that list that as well as other pertinent information.
If you're not listed in the phone book, which websites are you talking about? Do you mean apps like truecaller that have a community type phone book? Although not sure it has address, so I'm guessing you mean a different website?
 

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If you're not listed in the phone book, which websites are you talking about? Do you mean apps like truecaller that have a community type phone book? Although not sure it has address, so I'm guessing you mean a different website?
The only one that seemed to work consistently was spydialer. You can do name look ups that way. But you may get whoever owns the account and not the actual person.

But once you have the name and state from the area code, you can google the two together and find more links with further information.

Some sites like mylife also list associates/neighbors/etc.

Some people are hard to find but others can be found in a minute. I've seen one guy find a girl's full name and work from Tinder info.

I don't want to deviate too much from the thread, but hopefully this is helpful for anyone in the same situation as OP.
 

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I'm just going to change my number. And as for the name, I talked to a gaming cop buddy and he thinks it was through the phone company. So as a warning to everyone out there: try to see if you can somehow make that shit private

But the main problem is I just blocked his two previous numbers (I'm assuming one was hers and one was his). But now I have no idea if he's using one of those number generator apps or not :/
You can record and screenshot the phone number.

All handphones can mostly do it. You need tangible evidence to protect yourself. Talking to me about how powerful you are won't change anything 200%.

Saving the screenshot, recording phone calls while let him talk for awhile, and you laughing at him, might help you with law enforcement.

z@c+
 

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There are sites that let you look up who the phone belongs to. If they have your name and general area (from area code), they might be able to also find your current location or your previous places of residence. There are sites that list that as well as other pertinent information.

Not sure how to make it all private, but you can use fake phone numbers (ex. Google Voice) to avoid the name lookup at least.

That's a good idea, thanks! I'll be looking into that

If you're not listed in the phone book, which websites are you talking about? Do you mean apps like truecaller that have a community type phone book? Although not sure it has address, so I'm guessing you mean a different website?

Well he has my address because of my legal bullshit :/

The only one that seemed to work consistently was spydialer. You can do name look ups that way. But you may get whoever owns the account and not the actual person.

But once you have the name and state from the area code, you can google the two together and find more links with further information.

Some sites like mylife also list associates/neighbors/etc.

Some people are hard to find but others can be found in a minute. I've seen one guy find a girl's full name and work from Tinder info.

I don't want to deviate too much from the thread, but hopefully this is helpful for anyone in the same situation as OP.

That's extremely valuable to know. May do the same thing to him, thanks for the info! I'm highly interested in stuff like this now lol

You can record and screenshot the phone number.

All handphones can mostly do it. You need tangible evidence to protect yourself.

Saving the screenshot, recording phone calls while let him talk for awhile, and you laughing at him, might help you with law enforcement.

z@c+

Unfortunately law enforcement won't do shit. Even with stalking (example if I was an ex girlfriend instead of a man) they don't do that much, honestly.

As for laughing at him, that only enflames the situation and ignoring is likely the best outcome. If he keeps trying to get a reaction and gets absolute silence, that's the worst in my opinion. Like, so far beneath me that I can't even be bothered to answer. That's my thoughts on it anyways, plus on the first phone call I already did kinda mess with him a little bit. If anyone's ever seen a stand up comedian (I think his name is Jay) talk about getting a call from a business in New York and talking about the budget. I asked him where we were with the budget and explained where the reference was. He didn't find it as funny as I did though lol

Though depending on how far he goes with it, I may describe what his little angel and I did in EXTREME detail. That'd be pretty infuriating as well. But that's a ways down the road and I highly doubt that it'll ever get that far (assuming of course I remember the right girl. 99% sure that I got it right though, otherwise that'd be embarrassing lol).


Damn... really glad I moved out of that town. Ever since moving and interacting with people here I can say with absolute certainty that there's something wrong with the people who live there (men and women). The difference is like night and day. Must be something in the water or something.
 

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@Train Thanks! I got his info now lol

And with Google I now have where he works and even his address

Good god... Google is scarier than I thought
 
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I have find out people's personal data before. Super interesting. I'm going to read TRAIN'S comment again.

Going to be a GAWD, twice. :XXX

Lol yeah... it's scary as fuck. Lots of verifying to do, but... still... if even half of what I'm finding is accurate
 

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@Train Thanks! I got his info now lol

And with Google I now have where he works and even his address

Good god... Google is scarier than I thought
Hahaha, yeah Google is scary powerful if someone knows how to use it.

Doesn't help when people put their info out there for all to see as well.

Extra bonus, duckduckgo may show more things that Google may not. Think of it as Google's less capable but more sketchy cousin hahaha.
 

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Hahaha, yeah Google is scary powerful if someone knows how to use it.

Doesn't help when people put their info out there for all to see as well.

Extra bonus, duckduckgo may show more things that Google may not. Think of it as Google's less capable but more sketchy cousin hahaha.

Will do! I appreciate your information!
 

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I dunno about you fella's, but I think this guy seems stressed and needs to have some fun in life. I think I'll sign him up for cat facts and a few different porn sites. He needs to de-stress
 

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Well he has my address because of my legal bullshit :/

If you move, would that fix him knowing your address?
There's a few things like truecaller and also hiya was it? I forget, and another one call control. These are apps that you can have a blacklist and also a whitelist and you can make the phone not even ring at all if someone not on the whitelist iirc.
 

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If you move, would that fix him knowing your address?
There's a few things like truecaller and also hiya was it? I forget, and another one call control. These are apps that you can have a blacklist and also a whitelist and you can make the phone not even ring at all if someone not on the whitelist iirc.

Sadly not... :/

And it's all good, it's only a short phone call and a 15 dollar charge to change my number. I've already done it and I've got a Google Voice Number set up as well that will be the number I give out from now on. So no big deal really.

And yeah, I don't think this guy is going to do anything. But if he does I have just about everything that can be found on this guy. Including some of his family members. If he wants to take it further then I can too.

But for now, he's out of my hair.
 

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At first I thought this was going to be about a fiancée you didn't know you had from some sort of The Hangover-like forgotten engagement.

"Ah, @Regal Tiger, still getting into tricky situations with women I see! You'll have to tell her the engagement is off and you've met someone else."

Sounds like you shagged her while she was already with this dude, I guess?

I've been there. Always a surprise to get a call from the boyfriend or husband you didn't know existed.

Not sure what you've said to him already but the best approach is not to tell him anything he doesn't already know (since you don't really know if this guy is who he claims... and you don't know what he might do to the girl if you tell him something he didn't know), and play it off as casually as possible.

Me personally, also, just going to throw this out there, looks like he's out of your hair now anyway, but if I was a felon and someone I knew was calling me up harassing me about it, I think I'd be telling him something like, "Look dude, I don't know you, or anything about you, this is a girl who came to me over a year ago, I never heard anything about anyone else in her life. And you're right, I'm a felon, and you are calling me up and harassing a felon, who doesn't really have a whole lot going for him and a lot less to lose at this point. I don't know what your game plan is here but it doesn't sound well thought out."

Thoughts? Other than the fact that I need to get the hell out of this country already... I really hate America... just barely over 2 years to go

Just keep that dangled in front of yourself as the carrot.

Two more years in a sort of prison. But it's better than a regular prison.

Then you're out. With a whole wide world to explore.

Chase
 

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At first I thought this was going to be about a fiancée you didn't know you had from some sort of The Hangover-like forgotten engagement.

"Ah, @Regal Tiger, still getting into tricky situations with women I see! You'll have to tell her the engagement is off and you've met someone else."


Lmao. That would be me I feel like haha
Sounds like you shagged her while she was already with this dude, I guess?

I've been there. Always a surprise to get a call from the boyfriend or husband you didn't know existed.

Not sure what you've said to him already but the best approach is not to tell him anything he doesn't already know (since you don't really know if this guy is who he claims... and you don't know what he might do to the girl if you tell him something he didn't know), and play it off as casually as possible.

Me personally, also, just going to throw this out there, looks like he's out of your hair now anyway, but if I was a felon and someone I knew was calling me up harassing me about it, I think I'd be telling him something like, "Look dude, I don't know you, or anything about you, this is a girl who came to me over a year ago, I never heard anything about anyone else in her life. And you're right, I'm a felon, and you are calling me up and harassing a felon, who doesn't really have a whole lot going for him and a lot less to lose at this point. I don't know what your game plan is here but it doesn't sound well thought out."
That's what I'm assuming... but he was kinda vague about it. Not sure someone would be angry about it otherwise? But the guy doesn't sound too stable in the first place though...

Yeah, that's a fair point and I'll keep it in mind if something like this happens again. I was honestly so bamboozled I couldn't think of much beyond the "wrong number Jay comedian stand-up bit" because I'd just watched it with a girl I'm seeing at the moment lol.

I haven't told him anything about the particular girl and I, nor have I told him anything of anything. And now that I've changed my number I don't think of him much.
Just keep that dangled in front of yourself as the carrot.

Two more years in a sort of prison. But it's better than a regular prison.

Then you're out. With a whole wide world to explore.

Chase

Yeah... I try to keep it in my mind. As a kind of update on me in general:

I've learned a lot about state control/hypnotism and stuff in the past few years (if I'm being honest it wasn't for the purist of motivations, but luckily I kind of learned to heal before I caused any damage). I've managed to clear out a lot of stuff I've carried around. It's just that I've got this one last thing that keeps biting at me and refuses to allow the wound to heal in the form of weekly/monthly/yearly stuff I have to do, if that makes sense.

So once that's over, I think I'll be just fine :)

But overall I'm getting by!
 
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