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Field report 15/30 - Halfway, reflection, test of resilience night
Met 6 sets tonight
4 one sets
2 two set
Tonight was rainy like many of the nights going out. Around 20-25% of the nights were rainy, cold weather in the 15 days.
I was thinking, when we choose to do something in life and commit to it, only I, myself, can prevent myself from keep on going. It’s not what happens to us in life. It’s how we react to what happens to us in life that makes the difference.
Tonight at a chill bar having around 15-20 people, I met a 2 set early on who got hooked. I was pretty chill and the girls were laughing, giggling to nearly everything I said. One asked my name again which I’ve learnt is a clear indicator of being sexually hooked. Unfortunately they weren’t my types and I didn’t have the drive to be more leading and persist.
Then I went to another place that had around 50-70 people. There were 3-4 sets that were my type. All the sets didn’t hook. I was a little slow and not flowing and the girls slowly and quickly left the interaction.
Although the sets didn’t hook, there were other sets who were open to me with body language and also 1 or 2 sets where a girl was clearly looking to hook up.
On my way home I thought for a moment that I was cursed to have this body and being attracted to these type of girls. I’m doomed to have this challenge of meeting cuties just my type because normally I’m not their type look-wise.
I love a challenge though. It is what it is. I also love myself very much the way I am because I’m taking action every day and doing what I said I would do.
Sometimes it’s easy to forget what I’m doing is rare. With that in mind, I came from the perspective of keep doing what I wanted to do, despite the sets not hooking. So I reminded myself that it’s my actions that’s turning me on and keep being my focus, not the low interest from the girls. This gave me the stability to keep opening sets more my type.
I do felt less self belief today and it was for sure a reason for the lack of interest after I opened. Slept extra last night and today skipped my usual gym+mindset training I usually do for 30-75 mins.
Anyway...
Three things I did well:
Three things that I will do better next time:
Focus next time when having an outing, not feeling strong self-belief, try to fake it after open OR try the other way with curiosity follow up or just a direct follow up
Focus next time when entering a new venue, open the first set I look or open the first set I notice is noticing me. Just use the 3 second rule even if it might seem they are with some guys
Focus next time do some spikes and continue keep talking and plowing till something sticks. Remember it’s not her reaction that’s the focus, it’s what I can control
Halfway, let’s keep moving towards the gunfire… Leeeet’s goooooo!!
Met 6 sets tonight
4 one sets
2 two set
Tonight was rainy like many of the nights going out. Around 20-25% of the nights were rainy, cold weather in the 15 days.
I was thinking, when we choose to do something in life and commit to it, only I, myself, can prevent myself from keep on going. It’s not what happens to us in life. It’s how we react to what happens to us in life that makes the difference.
Tonight at a chill bar having around 15-20 people, I met a 2 set early on who got hooked. I was pretty chill and the girls were laughing, giggling to nearly everything I said. One asked my name again which I’ve learnt is a clear indicator of being sexually hooked. Unfortunately they weren’t my types and I didn’t have the drive to be more leading and persist.
Then I went to another place that had around 50-70 people. There were 3-4 sets that were my type. All the sets didn’t hook. I was a little slow and not flowing and the girls slowly and quickly left the interaction.
Although the sets didn’t hook, there were other sets who were open to me with body language and also 1 or 2 sets where a girl was clearly looking to hook up.
On my way home I thought for a moment that I was cursed to have this body and being attracted to these type of girls. I’m doomed to have this challenge of meeting cuties just my type because normally I’m not their type look-wise.
I love a challenge though. It is what it is. I also love myself very much the way I am because I’m taking action every day and doing what I said I would do.
Sometimes it’s easy to forget what I’m doing is rare. With that in mind, I came from the perspective of keep doing what I wanted to do, despite the sets not hooking. So I reminded myself that it’s my actions that’s turning me on and keep being my focus, not the low interest from the girls. This gave me the stability to keep opening sets more my type.
I do felt less self belief today and it was for sure a reason for the lack of interest after I opened. Slept extra last night and today skipped my usual gym+mindset training I usually do for 30-75 mins.
Anyway...
Three things I did well:
- Despite the sets not hooking, I didn’t let it fluster me. I didn’t react to when the girls left and instead thought in a non-emotional way, why was it easy for her to walk away?
- I kept looking for sets with girls that were my type after the last girl just left not being hooked. Not feeling “down” because my focus was on my own actions, not the girls reactions.
- There was soccer earlier and there were many guys. On floor they were more pushy and I actually enjoyed it. They were only a bit distracting.
Three things that I will do better next time:
- I was lacking an oomph after the open. I could sense on most of the girls, that they weren’t happy talking to me. There was no oomph. Not exactly sure why this happened since they were my types and usually it helps summon the purposeful energy. Could be the lack of belief in myself actually.
Focus next time when having an outing, not feeling strong self-belief, try to fake it after open OR try the other way with curiosity follow up or just a direct follow up
- When I entered the club with 50-70 people, I noticed lots of girls noticing me and I didn’t capitalise on those moments because I had doubts, thoughts about the girls being with other guys. I would stand and walk around a bit. This resulted in some of them losing respect therefore also making it harder to open them later. Not a big club and everyone can basically see each other around the floor area
Focus next time when entering a new venue, open the first set I look or open the first set I notice is noticing me. Just use the 3 second rule even if it might seem they are with some guys
- When I sense the girl isn’t very happy talking to me another time
Focus next time do some spikes and continue keep talking and plowing till something sticks. Remember it’s not her reaction that’s the focus, it’s what I can control
Halfway, let’s keep moving towards the gunfire… Leeeet’s goooooo!!
