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Field report 17/30 - Limiting beliefs surfacing
Met 9 sets tonight
5 one sets
1 two set
2 three sets
1 five/six set
Tonight I could really feel some of my limiting beliefs. I got aware of them and it will push me to go harder next times because you can’t change what you don’t know.
I have too low expectations of myself and that’s why I’m only getting the kind of experiences and results I’m getting. I should be fvcking ashamed of myself. Honestly. It is hard to really feel ashamed although I’m trying. The standards are set so low that I’m only touching the bottom of what is possible and we are talking about a mountain here.
Can’t believe how more boss I was back in the days, although not as stable emotionally that I am now, I was more boss and baller.
Don’t know what the fvck happened to me in those years passing after getting in a 4-5 year relationship. I got fvcking soft, developed bad habits of comfort seeking and lowered my standards for game.
I need to push myself much more because no one else can do it for me. To actually see the mountain and to find a path to get climbing.
It’s not supposed to be easy. It’s supposed to be HARD. I’m being too easy on myself. Walking around the bottom of the mountain, maybe climbing a foot sometimes and then jumping right back down.
Anyway..
Three things I did well:
One thing happened in my mind though which was unfortunate, I thought all the girls were Americans at a point and I had a negative expectation. Then I saw this really cute blonde but it looked like she was with a bigger group like most sets tonight. Anyway, I went in after a bit and she was open and cute as fvck. That point my mind was like.. great.. a better experience.
Three things that I will do better next time:
I was thinking too much, wanting to judge if she was my type. I should have met at least 13 sets tonight with that many girls out.
Focus next time keep using the 3 second rule. When I look at a girl for more than 2 seconds, I go in
Example: the cute blonde I opened and danced close and sexually with was very happy I opened her and took the lead. (One of the first things she asked me was where I live. I tried to kiss her but she said she doesn’t kiss on the first date/meeting. I tried again a bit later, nope) I qualified her too much about her abilities and rewarded her for it every time. It was positive, positive, yay. There was no push and it made her suddenly wanna go back to her friends. She was like put your number in my phone! And sent a text and said “I’ll text you, I’ll text you!” and left.
Focus next time give a push after one qualification and reward. Although the qualifying questions are traits I like in a girl, if she’s yes in most of them, I feel the best thing is to reward her for it because it’s honest. So one qualification, reward, then do a push and let it build a little, going to more solid vibing with the girl
Focus next time I can’t do anything for myself before meeting 3 sets or sexually hooking 1 set. Whenever I notice a set, I go in even if there are others looking like in a more quiet lounge bar or main walking streets. If the girls in the set isn’t my type, I can always give an excuse and leave.
Leeeeeeeeet’s fvvvvvvcking gooooo!!!!!!!
Met 9 sets tonight
5 one sets
1 two set
2 three sets
1 five/six set
Tonight I could really feel some of my limiting beliefs. I got aware of them and it will push me to go harder next times because you can’t change what you don’t know.
I have too low expectations of myself and that’s why I’m only getting the kind of experiences and results I’m getting. I should be fvcking ashamed of myself. Honestly. It is hard to really feel ashamed although I’m trying. The standards are set so low that I’m only touching the bottom of what is possible and we are talking about a mountain here.
Can’t believe how more boss I was back in the days, although not as stable emotionally that I am now, I was more boss and baller.
Don’t know what the fvck happened to me in those years passing after getting in a 4-5 year relationship. I got fvcking soft, developed bad habits of comfort seeking and lowered my standards for game.
I need to push myself much more because no one else can do it for me. To actually see the mountain and to find a path to get climbing.
It’s not supposed to be easy. It’s supposed to be HARD. I’m being too easy on myself. Walking around the bottom of the mountain, maybe climbing a foot sometimes and then jumping right back down.
Anyway..
Three things I did well:
- Kept finding girls my type and opening them even though the last sets wanted nothing to do with me.. saying things like I should leave or they don’t wanna talk with me. There were many Americans in the club tonight and 80-90% of them were bitchy. In contrast the European girls I met were open, cute and more interesting.
- Although the American girls were bitchy, I didn’t let it emotionally phase me, nor did I care what they thought about me. Few of them found it attractive and later positioned themselves near me.
One thing happened in my mind though which was unfortunate, I thought all the girls were Americans at a point and I had a negative expectation. Then I saw this really cute blonde but it looked like she was with a bigger group like most sets tonight. Anyway, I went in after a bit and she was open and cute as fvck. That point my mind was like.. great.. a better experience.
- Pushed myself to open sets before giving anything to myself
Three things that I will do better next time:
- Missed a few sets at the start of the night, there were strong eye-contact or I would look at a girl for 3-5 seconds while walking past her and her friends.
I was thinking too much, wanting to judge if she was my type. I should have met at least 13 sets tonight with that many girls out.
Focus next time keep using the 3 second rule. When I look at a girl for more than 2 seconds, I go in
- I’ve found though that I care still too much when girls respond very positively to me and I have the habit of keep trying to have them respond very positively, which works to a point. Then 2 things happen, either I’m doing too much of the same or I feel too much pressure and eject from the set.
Example: the cute blonde I opened and danced close and sexually with was very happy I opened her and took the lead. (One of the first things she asked me was where I live. I tried to kiss her but she said she doesn’t kiss on the first date/meeting. I tried again a bit later, nope) I qualified her too much about her abilities and rewarded her for it every time. It was positive, positive, yay. There was no push and it made her suddenly wanna go back to her friends. She was like put your number in my phone! And sent a text and said “I’ll text you, I’ll text you!” and left.
Focus next time give a push after one qualification and reward. Although the qualifying questions are traits I like in a girl, if she’s yes in most of them, I feel the best thing is to reward her for it because it’s honest. So one qualification, reward, then do a push and let it build a little, going to more solid vibing with the girl
- Push myself further. As explained at the start of this FR, I’m being too soft and have too low standards for myself. I’m still thinking what others think about me in some situations and if it’s socially ok to open those girls.
Focus next time I can’t do anything for myself before meeting 3 sets or sexually hooking 1 set. Whenever I notice a set, I go in even if there are others looking like in a more quiet lounge bar or main walking streets. If the girls in the set isn’t my type, I can always give an excuse and leave.
Leeeeeeeeet’s fvvvvvvcking gooooo!!!!!!!
