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Field report 19/30 - Exhausted, surprise blow in face, vulnerable
Met 6 sets
2 one sets
4 two sets
And got sort of opened by two sets at the club
Had 6 hours sleep, gym and work-related stuff piling up for the next few days that also was on my mind. So it was one of those nights where I felt not purposeful and thought I was vulnerable.
I was not feeling confident in myself and at the start of the night, I was very much in my own world and also believing that I didn’t add value if I opened a set. Noticed lots of young cuties walk past me before entering the first bar. It was also snow, raining.
There were no sets I think is worth focusing very much on, since the interactions didn’t last long, so I’ll briefly describe some of the interactions.
First set, 1 set, outside a bar I walked past. I was stifled as fvck and there was no flow because I tried to force being more engaging yet I felt the opposite. My voice was even nervous sometimes which I haven’t experienced for a long time. I kept talking but it became boring as fvck talk because there was no aliveness in it. She was being nice to me though.
Second set, 2 set, 11:30PM, inside bar, sitting a bit away from the bar. They were behind my back while I stood at the bar. The only good set in the place. It took me 10-15 minutes to finally approach. I didn’t feel social. What I wanted to do the most in the moment was to relax and get some sleep. Really had to push myself to get it done and not chicken out. I was like, what the fvck is wrong with me in my mind but my body was like, meeehhh, not wanting to do anything else than relax.
I go in when one of the girls were at the toilet and got talking to the one I liked more. She’s open, welcoming and soon her friend came back and I engage both. The one I liked started to ask me questions and biting her lips. I was surprised to see that. The way I felt and the lack of belief and yet she was somewhat interested. Grounds I haven’t explored much of in this state. I know from experience in a relationship, I would be in the worst state ever and my girl would still love me unconditionally.. but a stranger.. that’s definitely an interesting field.
The last question she asked was “where are you going?” after I asked them where they were going. I said, “actually I’m exhausted tonight.. been out the last few days.. so I’m having this soda.. we’ll see.. we’ll see..”
And that’s when the interaction ended. The girl was now saying, blablabla. hope you’ll have a good night.
Fast forward, 1:30AM, 2 set, blonde & brunette, hotties 8-9, club, missed opportunity, appearing after I had some time of dancing, pumping my own state and hoping guys would bump into me to generate more energy.
Guys notices them but no guy is going direct to them. After 8 minutes of 2x two sets placing themselves near me and dancing, I finally go and find the hotties and go in strong - first set of the night I felt really purposeful/dominant.
I open strong on the blonde she takes my hand a little hesitantly, I spin her and lean in saying “I’m Jack”, she’s withdrawing a little, I go in again “Are you from X”. She’s like yes. Then she leans back in, “where are you from?”. I tell her and then I thought it would be good to address her friend, “are you also from X?” “Yeah”, I reward her and she complies. There’s one small moment of nothing but moving to the music.. maybe 3 seconds and then they move away a bit from me going deeper towards the floor, 3-5 meters away.
I dance a little where I stand and don’t follow them. They still notice me. Then I thought, what the fvck do I do from here? Going to them again right now, I will look like a hungry dog. And I walked back to the place where the 2x two sets were dancing, thinking about reproaching the hotties soon.
Two minutes after I look around to see where the hotties are and they are nowhere to be seen. They might have left the club after no one had the balls enough to open them and I was solo so it was a minus for them. Saw them looking around before I approached them, although they were holding hands with one hand. They were down to hook up. I wish I had done better game with them because they were hot and cute as fvck, wanting to hook up with a man that can give them pleasure. Fvkcing shit. They probably went to another place and some lucky guys, if played well, would fvck them tonight. Fvcking shit!
3 set, floor, two of them was one of the 2 sets positioning near me and dancing close to me.
The extra girl, who was more my type, came to me suddenly and blowed in my face and walked back to her friends who were 3-5 meters away.
I looked at her, she looked at me, I was like what was that about in my expression. She gives me nothing and focuses on her friends. 30 seconds later, I go in between her friends and grab her arm, lean in and said “what was that about?”
She’s like nothing, blasé attitude and her friend dragged her away. They were like in defensive mode, like nonono.. I lean in to the closest girl and do a little spike and also showing I’m not affected by their reaction towards me. The girl is reacting to the spike and I asked her “do you know what your friend did?” And she dropped her defensive mode. I kept dancing, like nothing had happened. Then one of the girls came close to me bumping into me a bit while dancing.
Don’t know what to make of this scene. Why were they so defensive, nonono when I approached. One of the girls also looked at me from time to time when they were only 2, dancing close to me but she wasn’t my type unfortunately. Maybe they didn’t want me to get with their hot friend who blowed in my face, so when I went in semi-strong they got defensive fast…
Anyway…
Three things I did well:
It’s good to not be emotionally flustered.. the other side of this coin is, it’s not giving me more energy to play with for the next sets.
Seems like a good rest gives you a full fountain of energy you can distribute as you choose.
And low quality rest gives you less in the fountain of energy and so you can get more through things that disturbs the peace like having guys bumping into you.. conflict.
Three things that I will do better next time:
Focus next time instead of saying I’m exhausted, I should go with I feel chill tonight, although good music with good stereo can even wake up sleeping vampires
Focus next time what do I have to lose if I just go in, get eyecontact put my arm out and fvcking dance with her in slow-mo? She might realize I’m not as cool as she thought when she feels I’m not that purposeful and leave with her friend. That’s it. Just fvcking do something next time. Better to engage and fvck it up than to keep feeling good moving to the music…
Focus next time try to really own being exhausted, saying fvck it. Let’s open the opportunities that present them nearby and just be chill. Be like, I’m the cooooolest exhausted mfer that ever lived.
Leeeeeeet’s fvcking goooooo!
Met 6 sets
2 one sets
4 two sets
And got sort of opened by two sets at the club
Had 6 hours sleep, gym and work-related stuff piling up for the next few days that also was on my mind. So it was one of those nights where I felt not purposeful and thought I was vulnerable.
I was not feeling confident in myself and at the start of the night, I was very much in my own world and also believing that I didn’t add value if I opened a set. Noticed lots of young cuties walk past me before entering the first bar. It was also snow, raining.
There were no sets I think is worth focusing very much on, since the interactions didn’t last long, so I’ll briefly describe some of the interactions.
First set, 1 set, outside a bar I walked past. I was stifled as fvck and there was no flow because I tried to force being more engaging yet I felt the opposite. My voice was even nervous sometimes which I haven’t experienced for a long time. I kept talking but it became boring as fvck talk because there was no aliveness in it. She was being nice to me though.
Second set, 2 set, 11:30PM, inside bar, sitting a bit away from the bar. They were behind my back while I stood at the bar. The only good set in the place. It took me 10-15 minutes to finally approach. I didn’t feel social. What I wanted to do the most in the moment was to relax and get some sleep. Really had to push myself to get it done and not chicken out. I was like, what the fvck is wrong with me in my mind but my body was like, meeehhh, not wanting to do anything else than relax.
I go in when one of the girls were at the toilet and got talking to the one I liked more. She’s open, welcoming and soon her friend came back and I engage both. The one I liked started to ask me questions and biting her lips. I was surprised to see that. The way I felt and the lack of belief and yet she was somewhat interested. Grounds I haven’t explored much of in this state. I know from experience in a relationship, I would be in the worst state ever and my girl would still love me unconditionally.. but a stranger.. that’s definitely an interesting field.
The last question she asked was “where are you going?” after I asked them where they were going. I said, “actually I’m exhausted tonight.. been out the last few days.. so I’m having this soda.. we’ll see.. we’ll see..”
And that’s when the interaction ended. The girl was now saying, blablabla. hope you’ll have a good night.
Fast forward, 1:30AM, 2 set, blonde & brunette, hotties 8-9, club, missed opportunity, appearing after I had some time of dancing, pumping my own state and hoping guys would bump into me to generate more energy.
Guys notices them but no guy is going direct to them. After 8 minutes of 2x two sets placing themselves near me and dancing, I finally go and find the hotties and go in strong - first set of the night I felt really purposeful/dominant.
I open strong on the blonde she takes my hand a little hesitantly, I spin her and lean in saying “I’m Jack”, she’s withdrawing a little, I go in again “Are you from X”. She’s like yes. Then she leans back in, “where are you from?”. I tell her and then I thought it would be good to address her friend, “are you also from X?” “Yeah”, I reward her and she complies. There’s one small moment of nothing but moving to the music.. maybe 3 seconds and then they move away a bit from me going deeper towards the floor, 3-5 meters away.
I dance a little where I stand and don’t follow them. They still notice me. Then I thought, what the fvck do I do from here? Going to them again right now, I will look like a hungry dog. And I walked back to the place where the 2x two sets were dancing, thinking about reproaching the hotties soon.
Two minutes after I look around to see where the hotties are and they are nowhere to be seen. They might have left the club after no one had the balls enough to open them and I was solo so it was a minus for them. Saw them looking around before I approached them, although they were holding hands with one hand. They were down to hook up. I wish I had done better game with them because they were hot and cute as fvck, wanting to hook up with a man that can give them pleasure. Fvkcing shit. They probably went to another place and some lucky guys, if played well, would fvck them tonight. Fvcking shit!
3 set, floor, two of them was one of the 2 sets positioning near me and dancing close to me.
The extra girl, who was more my type, came to me suddenly and blowed in my face and walked back to her friends who were 3-5 meters away.
I looked at her, she looked at me, I was like what was that about in my expression. She gives me nothing and focuses on her friends. 30 seconds later, I go in between her friends and grab her arm, lean in and said “what was that about?”
She’s like nothing, blasé attitude and her friend dragged her away. They were like in defensive mode, like nonono.. I lean in to the closest girl and do a little spike and also showing I’m not affected by their reaction towards me. The girl is reacting to the spike and I asked her “do you know what your friend did?” And she dropped her defensive mode. I kept dancing, like nothing had happened. Then one of the girls came close to me bumping into me a bit while dancing.
Don’t know what to make of this scene. Why were they so defensive, nonono when I approached. One of the girls also looked at me from time to time when they were only 2, dancing close to me but she wasn’t my type unfortunately. Maybe they didn’t want me to get with their hot friend who blowed in my face, so when I went in semi-strong they got defensive fast…
Anyway…
Three things I did well:
- Even though I was exhausted, feeling not purposeful, vulnerable, lacking self-belief, not wanting to be social, I managed to open some sets and was more persistent staying in the sets
- Pumped my own state, dancing to the music and singing in the club. Got more awake, although still zoned out a bit and also the vulnerable feeling disappeared
- I kept being grounded, despite girls leaving after my approach.. like the girl leaving or staying is the same to me
It’s good to not be emotionally flustered.. the other side of this coin is, it’s not giving me more energy to play with for the next sets.
Seems like a good rest gives you a full fountain of energy you can distribute as you choose.
And low quality rest gives you less in the fountain of energy and so you can get more through things that disturbs the peace like having guys bumping into you.. conflict.
Three things that I will do better next time:
- The first 2 set where I was surprised the girl I liked was biting her lips and asking me questions. Her last question of, where are you going?
Focus next time instead of saying I’m exhausted, I should go with I feel chill tonight, although good music with good stereo can even wake up sleeping vampires
- There were the 2x two sets who wanted me to open them and I was just too not purposeful that I didn’t open even though they were right in front of me, bumping their back or ass to me a couple of times
Focus next time what do I have to lose if I just go in, get eyecontact put my arm out and fvcking dance with her in slow-mo? She might realize I’m not as cool as she thought when she feels I’m not that purposeful and leave with her friend. That’s it. Just fvcking do something next time. Better to engage and fvck it up than to keep feeling good moving to the music…
- Theme of tonight is, I didn’t want to feel bad because I was exhausted, zoned out a lot, and felt vulnerable, so in my mind, the bad that could potentially happen was a monster a lot bigger than what reality actually showed.
Focus next time try to really own being exhausted, saying fvck it. Let’s open the opportunities that present them nearby and just be chill. Be like, I’m the cooooolest exhausted mfer that ever lived.
Leeeeeeet’s fvcking goooooo!
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