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Backstory: I attended a Capstone presentation day at a specialized institution for testing a big game made by the term 6 people looking to make it into a big game. There I met this cute and somewhat nerdy looking girl playing on the computer testing the game. She opened me about the Zelda hat I wore, which she also happened to wear as well, and immediately she was the one that was talking the most, but I also got lost in conversation as well. We traded hats for pictures, I got her instagram and then a day after, she asked for my number. I did check her instagram profile out and found out this girl had Lesbian in her profile. I was like damn she's a lesbian! But my boy took a look at it and said she could be the type of girl who just says she's lesbian to keep certain guys away. But this girl had value as a date and a connect so I figured go with the flow and see what happens. I still ran my game tho.
Fast forward when school break was over, and yesterday I decided to build some conversation with her and ask her out to chill which she immediately agreed to. I originally planned to meet at the mall, but she sent her home address to me, so I decided to drive over there to pick her up. I wasn't sure if I was going to get laid but I decided to be safe with all the info I got at the time. She came out, and the transformation was UNBELIEVABLE. When I met her, she looked kinda like your average gamer girl (not in a traditional sense she knew how to dress, stylize her hair etc), but when I saw her that day she went from that to dressing like she's going to the club. I took that as a good sign that she's dressing up nice to impress me, or she's a lipstick lesbian.
This girl is hella talkative so I decided to use mostly nonverbals throughout my interactions with her. I would incidentally touch her while walking around the park, and I learned many things about her. I found out she had a rough past growing up, learned martial arts, took up odd jobs but is now working for one of the biggest gaming companies out there. She even made assets for 3D porn im like damn girl u dirty lol. Inside, I honestly couldn't believe I was going out with her but maintained my composure. She then told me she was demi sexual but didn't put that on her instagram and actually had recent boyfriends before so right there I felt I had a chance. After the walk, I took her back to my car and in the back seat. I got her to play Cards Against Humanity and really tested her dirty mind, we had lot of fun though, but eventually we got lost in convo that we totally forgot about the game.
I'm not gonna lie, the convo we did have was extremely deep. She started telling me that she had friends with benefits before, but invests heavily in a guy than a guy did to her, also pregnant with a baby recently. She painted a picture that she didn't want to get hurt again, doesn't trust people very easily. Hell even the first few minutes of the date she started talking to me about guys at my school that would hit on her and try using her for empty sex.
So escalating bit by bit, I'll have to admit I took the safe route here. I tried looking up GC articles about asking permission to escalate and couldn't find anything. It did address not asking for permission on the approach and just doing it, but during the date I was kinda seeking permission from her to escalate but I only did it to be considerate but man I still wanted to at least kiss her, feel her lips, but sometimes when I don't get an answer, I usually go for it right away. I asked her if she wanted to cuddle, which she thought about and eventually accepted. I put my arm around her and she rests her head on my shoulder, while my other hand was stroking her thighs. She still talk like she does, and I follow along. I did tell her that I was looking for something more casual rather than serious before cuddling with her.
Then near the end of the date, I just gazed at her lips and said they looked really nice (I was actually working up the courage to say it but I still said it lol). She asked me if I was this bold with women, I took my time with this before answering her question. I still asked "Can I kiss you". I did get turned down though, but the reasons she gave me wasn't even the "You know I'm lesbian" It's more on the "I don't want to hurt you" "I only do it with people that I'm close to". She also said this. "You say you want a casual relationship but you really deserve more than that". Hearing that it was the sweetest line I ever heard, but then it made me wonder if she just saw me as boyfriend material I was like faack. But I still had a good time though, and dropped her off home before leaving to my family event.
Today in the morning, she sent me messages saying she had a really great time, and it made her really happy. I'd like to say it went well, which I honestly thought it did, but if I didn't know any better, I'd say there's a possibility it's going into the friendzone. If it does though I wouldn't mind this girl would make a great connect for workplace shit anyways.
Things I did right. I spoke less, touched her more, moved her, got her laughing a bit, near the end I ended up using a silent seductive voice I wasn't aware I was doing lol.
Things I did wrong. Maybe letting her talk too much idk about that. But asking permission was definitely something I did a lot here. I probably wouldn't have asked and just move closer to her if I really wanted to be bold. Asking her to kiss, probably shouldn't have done that some women expect you to lead. Could be possible that that's exactly how I got her to potentially see me as 'just a friend'.
Fast forward when school break was over, and yesterday I decided to build some conversation with her and ask her out to chill which she immediately agreed to. I originally planned to meet at the mall, but she sent her home address to me, so I decided to drive over there to pick her up. I wasn't sure if I was going to get laid but I decided to be safe with all the info I got at the time. She came out, and the transformation was UNBELIEVABLE. When I met her, she looked kinda like your average gamer girl (not in a traditional sense she knew how to dress, stylize her hair etc), but when I saw her that day she went from that to dressing like she's going to the club. I took that as a good sign that she's dressing up nice to impress me, or she's a lipstick lesbian.
This girl is hella talkative so I decided to use mostly nonverbals throughout my interactions with her. I would incidentally touch her while walking around the park, and I learned many things about her. I found out she had a rough past growing up, learned martial arts, took up odd jobs but is now working for one of the biggest gaming companies out there. She even made assets for 3D porn im like damn girl u dirty lol. Inside, I honestly couldn't believe I was going out with her but maintained my composure. She then told me she was demi sexual but didn't put that on her instagram and actually had recent boyfriends before so right there I felt I had a chance. After the walk, I took her back to my car and in the back seat. I got her to play Cards Against Humanity and really tested her dirty mind, we had lot of fun though, but eventually we got lost in convo that we totally forgot about the game.
I'm not gonna lie, the convo we did have was extremely deep. She started telling me that she had friends with benefits before, but invests heavily in a guy than a guy did to her, also pregnant with a baby recently. She painted a picture that she didn't want to get hurt again, doesn't trust people very easily. Hell even the first few minutes of the date she started talking to me about guys at my school that would hit on her and try using her for empty sex.
So escalating bit by bit, I'll have to admit I took the safe route here. I tried looking up GC articles about asking permission to escalate and couldn't find anything. It did address not asking for permission on the approach and just doing it, but during the date I was kinda seeking permission from her to escalate but I only did it to be considerate but man I still wanted to at least kiss her, feel her lips, but sometimes when I don't get an answer, I usually go for it right away. I asked her if she wanted to cuddle, which she thought about and eventually accepted. I put my arm around her and she rests her head on my shoulder, while my other hand was stroking her thighs. She still talk like she does, and I follow along. I did tell her that I was looking for something more casual rather than serious before cuddling with her.
Then near the end of the date, I just gazed at her lips and said they looked really nice (I was actually working up the courage to say it but I still said it lol). She asked me if I was this bold with women, I took my time with this before answering her question. I still asked "Can I kiss you". I did get turned down though, but the reasons she gave me wasn't even the "You know I'm lesbian" It's more on the "I don't want to hurt you" "I only do it with people that I'm close to". She also said this. "You say you want a casual relationship but you really deserve more than that". Hearing that it was the sweetest line I ever heard, but then it made me wonder if she just saw me as boyfriend material I was like faack. But I still had a good time though, and dropped her off home before leaving to my family event.
Today in the morning, she sent me messages saying she had a really great time, and it made her really happy. I'd like to say it went well, which I honestly thought it did, but if I didn't know any better, I'd say there's a possibility it's going into the friendzone. If it does though I wouldn't mind this girl would make a great connect for workplace shit anyways.
Things I did right. I spoke less, touched her more, moved her, got her laughing a bit, near the end I ended up using a silent seductive voice I wasn't aware I was doing lol.
Things I did wrong. Maybe letting her talk too much idk about that. But asking permission was definitely something I did a lot here. I probably wouldn't have asked and just move closer to her if I really wanted to be bold. Asking her to kiss, probably shouldn't have done that some women expect you to lead. Could be possible that that's exactly how I got her to potentially see me as 'just a friend'.
