Finally figured out why I am doing terribly, negative and egotistical mindset

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

After all these years, although I admit being in a very shitty environment growing up played a massive role, I realized that the reason I am doing so terribly with women and in social things when it comes to life is because I am such a negative yet egotistical person. It's like I am entitled, angry, and feel like life owes me something because I survived a rough upbringing.

While some trust fund kid or spoiled suburban boy had a chance to be around hot girls in is teenage years, I was stuck around uggos in poor neighborhoods during that time.

But I realize that even now, it plays a role in my life and mindset. It took me a while to realize it but I realize it now.

Like I see some guy doing that much better than me in life when it comes to women and I have these thoughts of one day outdoing him and bullying him.

It's like that is where I have been stuck and it consumes my thoughts which affects my actions. Like I have this overly entitled, narcissistic, egotistical, and negative mindset towards women and life in general. It makes me the opposite of the fun guy at times and I really feel like that is what has been holding me back. Rejections get to me too hard and I they tend to stick around on me for some reason.

 

[Franco]

Re: Finally figured out why I am doing terribly, negative and egotistical mindse

Altair,

Recognizing the issue is usually the first step to solving it, so consider this a giant step forward in changing your mindset into a positive one. =)

- Franco

 

[Mr.Rob]

Re: Finally figured out why I am doing terribly, negative and egotistical mindse

Recognizing the issue is usually the first step to solving it, so consider this a giant step forward in changing your mindset into a positive one. =)

Let hope so.

@Altair- Pulling for you man.

-Rob

 

[Inbocca]

Re: Finally figured out why I am doing terribly, negative and egotistical mindse

Word dude. Your failures should be learning experiences if you do them right. I'm no trust fund baby but they hit me hard as well. All that matters is that you improve. Cheers

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Re: Finally figured out why I am doing terribly, negative and egotistical mindse

Altair,

Recognizing the issue is usually the first step to solving it, so consider this a giant step forward in changing your mindset into a positive one. =)

- Franco

I thought about it and I wonder, could it be that I have had such a bad experience here in the south that I have internalized some dislike for it and that comes through in a lot of my interactions?

Like what if moving to that one city I've always wanted to move to as a teenager, regardless of the quality of women there, really changes some of this?

 

[Franco]

Re: Finally figured out why I am doing terribly, negative and egotistical mindse

Altair,

I thought about it and I wonder, could it be that I have had such a bad experience here in the south that I have internalized some dislike for it and that comes through in a lot of my interactions?

It definitely seems like the case.

Like what if moving to that one city I've always wanted to move to as a teenager, regardless of the quality of women there, really changes some of this?

I would highly recommend moving to a city that you've wanted to move to and see if you can do a hard "reset" on your mentality in a new place. I think it would help a LOT. I believe Oh Pry did this as well -- you can PM him if you want to and see if you can get any details about that from him.

Then, once you move to a new city and start to get a fresh new perspective, you can always check out the South again a few years from now and see if the South really WAS the problem or if it was just your mindset that needed to change.

- Franco

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Re: Finally figured out why I am doing terribly, negative and egotistical mindse

I see what you mean Franco, like I have a lot of demons within myself with the current region I am in that it kinda messes with my head a lot and I cannot help but think it messes with my inner game. At times I feel this strong dislike because of the bad experiences I have had in my current region and it is towards the area itself because bad experiences come up.

At some point a move might be necessary, I am glad that I moved to a bigger city in my area though, that has made a big difference for me though. People here are more open minded, have made great people here, cool, and I see some guys looking like me having some luck with hot girls so I guess it is doable and I am liking the city more but a part of me can't help but think another region is a good fit for me.

For now the city is a good safety net and livable, friendlier people here than the shithole college town I went to or the shithole town I grew up in. Do want to eventually move elsewhere but for now, I am using this place as almost an area to groom my skills and continiously get better so when I move to the new area I will be at my peak.

Do check out my journals thread though man, I feel like I have made some progress.