Fingering Girls in The Club

[GeneralFap]

A few days ago I went to the club with a buddy of mine (I'm not really a club person, but I went just to get out of the house for a while). First girl I got behind started grinding on me for a bit. She turned around after a bit and asked for my name and I gave her a kiss on the lips. She touched my face with both of her hands so I went for the lips again but she turned her face to the side. Her friend saw and immediately started pushing me away. I moved her hands away from my body like "bitch don't touch me." I didn't say it but that's how I felt. She was shocked, but I just smiled and left. I went to another girl and started dancing with her. She was shaking her ass on my dick like crazy so I put my hand lower down her waist and then started touching her pussy through her clothes. She grabbed me and started kissing me; I kissed her on the neck and grabbed her ass. Then she told me to finger her. I was a little worried that someone was going to catch us, but I went for it and started fingering away. She put her hands down my pants and started touching my dick and balls. She told me that if I made her cum she would let me take her home. I kinda had a feeling this was bullshit though; I think she just wanted me to make her cum and then she would leave once she was satisfied. I kept trying to take her somewhere else but she said "you're not going to win, make me cum first." Problem is, I couldn't make her cum. So after a while of fingering her and touching her tits, etc. I got bored and told her I was going to go find my friend (I didn't have a way to take her home anyway since my friend gave me a ride to the club, and she had come with a group of friends). She told me "you're just going to leave like that?" And I said "yes." Then she grabbed my face and gave me a kiss and said bye.
I don't feel that bad for not persisting more. I'm a noob at pickup and I know I suck ass. I''m just glad I was at least able to get this far.

Anyway, my question is, how would you persist in a type of situation where you have fingered a girl in a club or at least gotten somewhat intimate?

 

[Xerud]

Hey I'm quite good at disco picking ups. Not the best but I know what happened to me. If the girl is saying like finger me and make orgasm otherwise if you won't make me orgasm. It's bullshit because in my opinion she's the "leader". I would say yes I can finger you to multiple orgasm in my bed or something like that.

Also what I found out that I go way to slow. The girl when she's turned on you'll probably see that, just say let's go for a walk or I need to get something to eat.

Here in beach parties I said (I'm 18 by the way) I know some good place to go and she went with me. Actually the place for sex waS so horrible and everything was bad. I have problems getting dick hard in this weird bushes, seems like that's not for me.

But yeah so far what I learn in discos, talk -> turn her on -> just say you need to eat something or something like that -> lead her to house or you can even do somewher in nature. But don't make sex like I did in rock, first sex in rock I got some wound from that

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Hope I helped you IF YOU got any questions just ask.

 

[ray_zorse]

There's nothing wrong with a good club makeout or fingering, in fact I did something similar just recently which is in my journal, but, when you make the decision to make out with her, be aware that 99% likely it's instead of sex. So from that point of view, BDN you did fine, just fuckin go for it, feel her up, touch her tits and pussy and ignore whatever gameplaying bullshit comes out of her mouth! hahaha

However, whoaaa is right, it's generally not a good idea to be complying to her, what you could've done when she asked to be fingered to orgasm, and said she would let you take,her home (thus framing herself as the desirable one), is use Chase's line "hey! what do you think I am! I'm not that easy!"... rejecting her frame and neatly turning it around. Or just refused to finger her in the first place, a graceful way would be with an equal or higher compliance demand "sure, I'd be happy to... after you jerk me off in the toilets!".

Ray