FR First approach at the Gym

[mattfly247]

Newbie college student here. I’ve watched videos from different youtuber like Play with Fire, John Anthony, and Girls Chase, but haven’t really gotten the balls to get out and approach now. Did a few day game approaches over the summer, but none of them lead to to anything. Met the girl at the gym last Monday and let her work in the machine I was on. Bantered a bit and I could tell there was some attraction based on the eye and her flirty with me. I bitched out though and didn’t ask her out. Then come this afternoon I saw her again and told myself i wasn’t going to pussy out. I talked her and she remembered me. Asked her how she’d been then asked if she’d like to grab coffee some time. She said yes and she gave me her number. Talk a little longer and then continued with my workout. I’m posting this because I’m excited and want to stay motivated and accountable to continue to approach girls! She’s very cute and had a really fat ass! Not a virgin, but always struggle with the initial hurtle of talking to girls that are completely new. Really bad anxiety during talking to her (literally shacking, but its exciting). I’m usually fine on dates though it’s just approach that gives me the anxiety. Thanks Hector Castillo for the inspiration to not be a pussy haha!

 

[Lofty]

Awesome, well done on the number close and welcome to the forum!

Like Gunwitch says, who is a mod here and has been of the key innovators in the community, learning seduction is a lot like learning a sport. Work it like a sport, be mastery-oriented vs. outcome oriented, and build yourself up bit-by-bit. With dedication and experience, you'll see for yourself how amazing the possibilities truly are.

As for resources, obviously this forum/Girls Chase are great! Really the best place to learn in my opinion, and there's lots of weird stuff in other places these days. I would kinda steer you away from John Anthony/Jmulv a bit - honestly, he's not the guy with the best community reputation.

Regarding the next steps here... you've done well on the approach, seeded the date, and gotten her number.

Of course, the next step is the texting and making sure that the coffee date happens. Naturally there's no one right way to text, and it's very important to develop a texting style that is calibrated to you.

But there ARE field-tested strategies that can help you optimize your chances of getting her back out on that date. So I'm dropping in just a couple links to threads written by some texting veterans on the subject - notice how their tones are a bit different based on their style, but the core principles are pretty much aligned.

easy way to text girls after getting their number

...You met a beautiful girl earlier, got her number and sent her an icebreaker text. And she just texted you back. It feels great! But now you're staring at the screen in front of you, trying to figure out what to say next to get the conversation started again. And your mind is completely...

www.skilledseducer.com

Calls & Texts - How to soft close, when to soft close and some mistakes I am seeing....

So guys, i see some of you are doing things kind of right, some of you still doing same old bad habits, the guys that are actually listening, have totally exponentially improved results or adapted to their style what i have been preaching, the stubborn ones, same crap.. Anyways guys though the...

www.skilledseducer.com

Again, there's no single way to do things, but I hope these learning resources are helpful if you find yourself seeking a reference.

Nice job with this approach and hoping to hear more good news soon

 

[POB]

Met the girl at the gym last Monday and let her work in the machine I was on. Bantered a bit and I could tell there was some attraction based on the eye and her flirty with me. I bitched out though and didn’t ask her out. Then come this afternoon I saw her again and told myself i wasn’t going to pussy out. I talked her and she remembered me. Asked her how she’d been then asked if she’d like to grab coffee some time. She said yes and she gave me her number. Talk a little longer and then continued with my workout. I’m posting this because I’m excited and want to stay motivated and accountable to continue to approach girls!

Great stuff!!!
Gym pulls are not the easiest, but you did it the right way:
- social banter
- number close
- set the date in a different location (to not put pressure on her)

Quick tip: when gaming her on the actual date, make use of secret society topics to show her you care about her reputation post sex:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/there-something-about-girls-you-just-don-t-get