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I met this girl a couple of days ago and responded really well to me when I met her. We had a bit of a connection going and the conversation was well managed. This is the gist of it. I got her number and we planned a date for today at 4.
I do some cold-approach but it doesn't go well, I had some leads but never followed up, I have shit game after opening, something to work furiously on. Anyway, I get to the place we agreed to meet and I'm 15 minutes late. She was sitting down and hugged me when I walked up to her. I led her to a small independent coffee shop (better than larger chains I've found). We pay seperately and take a seat upstairs, no one else is there which is fortunate. She originally wants to sit opposite me after she doesn't move when I cue her to I drag her chair around to the side. We start talking and do a bit of deep diving and qualifying. Initially she was trying to find out about me I answered mysteriously and then switched it back to her. We talk about where she lives, what she used to do and what she enjoys. I make chase frames and the like throughout and she takes them, laughs and begins to get more attracted.
Everytime we talk about a topic though she doesn't open up to much, I may have been overeager with finding out and too many innuendoes could have harmed me. She gives the usual reasons as to why she does stuff. She felt like it, didn't want to do it and the such. I try and probe more into it but she deflects it and I can't figure a way to open her up. When something does go well I relate to her and interject with some flirts. I build compliance with her, working upto assumed compliance and rewarding her with a few chase frames and she's lapping them up.
I give sexy smiles, use my eyebrows to convey I'm interested but we don't go that deep into some stuff. She asks me some questions about myself and I do the same thing, never going to deep into my history. Maybe I'm not vulnerable so she doesn't feel like she can be... Possible.
Most of the conversation we do have seems to be non-conducive. It's mostly negative and I try and thread cut but she keeps turning it negative. She also keeps mentioning she's boring and what not, I don't react well to the situation and keep giving her attention instead of taking it away and making her qualify herself positively. When she does say something positive I chase frame her to make her feel good, but maybe it counteracts any potential deep diving.
I get her to hold my hand, leading her to becoming more physically close. After a few minutes of hand holding, first palm on palm then interlocking, I tap on the seat beside me and she moves next to me. Our legs are touching and I pull her in for a kiss. She kisses like a goldfish goes "glub, glub, glub" bit strange but I get used to it. I use more chase frames and ask her about her t-shirt. She says that she likes wolves and animals in general. I spread out the t-shirt and then use it as an excuse to squeeze her tits... Nice twins she has. Her body language is telling me she's pretty attracted to me. I find out she's a vegan, but she doesn't like the term, and try to establish a connection there. It goes a little better than my previous attempts. She says that she doesn't like animals being treated the way they are and she's been a veggie since she was 4. I try and probe more again but she doesn't open up more. I'm doing something wrong here.
She's nowhere near finished her coffee but I feel an escalation window considering her body language. I suggest we go to a park to enjoy the sun's rays. She tries to resist but I use vivid imagery to get her on my side. We leave a few minutes later. She goes and buys some ciggerettes and offers me one. I accept and reward her for it.
As we walk towards the park I keep things light and fun, again making the conversation sexual. She's enjoying it but halfway to the park she takes out her phone. I ignore her and wait for her to restart the conversation. After some walking she restarts the conversation but somethings amiss. She says she has to do some errands for her family. She tries to go back and I lead her. A minute later she tries again. I prevail and keep her walking. We're near the university now which is 2 minutes from the park and another 10-15 from my place. As we get closer she attempts to go again but I keep her walking with me. Each time saying she'll have fun and then grabbing her hand and leading her. As we get to the university she completely stops and I know that she's not coming with me to the park.
I lead her to some seats to keep in control and she offers me another ciggerette. We smoke and I keep the conversation light and sexual, when we finish she puts our cig ends in the bin I give her a short kiss, get her to hug me and let her go. Just before she leaves though she mentions she might be coming back later in the evening to go to the gym and might text me. I turn it around and say "I know a great gym, it's small and working out there is lots of fun". She comments saying she thinks it's an innuendo to which I smile sexily and briefly shrug my eyebrows.
It seems that my interaction with her was mostly sexual, not much deep diving happening. I struggled to get her to open up about herself. She responded very well to my leading of her and I got her thinking about us lots.I may have shown too much value, I tried to be mysterious and all that but she found a few things out which I never really elaborated on. I didn't express vulnerability myself and felt trapped in between repartée and light rapport. Never forging a proper connection. However, she was really interested in me and I hit escalation windows she sent me. I didn't have great logistics as I live just under an hour away and don't have a car. Could have used a taxi but didn't think of it back then. Got lot's of compliance from her and rewarded her investment. Strong attraction for me and cemented those feelings just before she left. We briefly chatted about seeing eachother again... Might have messed up with my very last innuendo but I'll keep that in mind. Didn't seem to get any tests, or maybe I didn't notice, no idea.
Any feedback welcome!
I do some cold-approach but it doesn't go well, I had some leads but never followed up, I have shit game after opening, something to work furiously on. Anyway, I get to the place we agreed to meet and I'm 15 minutes late. She was sitting down and hugged me when I walked up to her. I led her to a small independent coffee shop (better than larger chains I've found). We pay seperately and take a seat upstairs, no one else is there which is fortunate. She originally wants to sit opposite me after she doesn't move when I cue her to I drag her chair around to the side. We start talking and do a bit of deep diving and qualifying. Initially she was trying to find out about me I answered mysteriously and then switched it back to her. We talk about where she lives, what she used to do and what she enjoys. I make chase frames and the like throughout and she takes them, laughs and begins to get more attracted.
Everytime we talk about a topic though she doesn't open up to much, I may have been overeager with finding out and too many innuendoes could have harmed me. She gives the usual reasons as to why she does stuff. She felt like it, didn't want to do it and the such. I try and probe more into it but she deflects it and I can't figure a way to open her up. When something does go well I relate to her and interject with some flirts. I build compliance with her, working upto assumed compliance and rewarding her with a few chase frames and she's lapping them up.
I give sexy smiles, use my eyebrows to convey I'm interested but we don't go that deep into some stuff. She asks me some questions about myself and I do the same thing, never going to deep into my history. Maybe I'm not vulnerable so she doesn't feel like she can be... Possible.
Most of the conversation we do have seems to be non-conducive. It's mostly negative and I try and thread cut but she keeps turning it negative. She also keeps mentioning she's boring and what not, I don't react well to the situation and keep giving her attention instead of taking it away and making her qualify herself positively. When she does say something positive I chase frame her to make her feel good, but maybe it counteracts any potential deep diving.
I get her to hold my hand, leading her to becoming more physically close. After a few minutes of hand holding, first palm on palm then interlocking, I tap on the seat beside me and she moves next to me. Our legs are touching and I pull her in for a kiss. She kisses like a goldfish goes "glub, glub, glub" bit strange but I get used to it. I use more chase frames and ask her about her t-shirt. She says that she likes wolves and animals in general. I spread out the t-shirt and then use it as an excuse to squeeze her tits... Nice twins she has. Her body language is telling me she's pretty attracted to me. I find out she's a vegan, but she doesn't like the term, and try to establish a connection there. It goes a little better than my previous attempts. She says that she doesn't like animals being treated the way they are and she's been a veggie since she was 4. I try and probe more again but she doesn't open up more. I'm doing something wrong here.
She's nowhere near finished her coffee but I feel an escalation window considering her body language. I suggest we go to a park to enjoy the sun's rays. She tries to resist but I use vivid imagery to get her on my side. We leave a few minutes later. She goes and buys some ciggerettes and offers me one. I accept and reward her for it.
As we walk towards the park I keep things light and fun, again making the conversation sexual. She's enjoying it but halfway to the park she takes out her phone. I ignore her and wait for her to restart the conversation. After some walking she restarts the conversation but somethings amiss. She says she has to do some errands for her family. She tries to go back and I lead her. A minute later she tries again. I prevail and keep her walking. We're near the university now which is 2 minutes from the park and another 10-15 from my place. As we get closer she attempts to go again but I keep her walking with me. Each time saying she'll have fun and then grabbing her hand and leading her. As we get to the university she completely stops and I know that she's not coming with me to the park.
I lead her to some seats to keep in control and she offers me another ciggerette. We smoke and I keep the conversation light and sexual, when we finish she puts our cig ends in the bin I give her a short kiss, get her to hug me and let her go. Just before she leaves though she mentions she might be coming back later in the evening to go to the gym and might text me. I turn it around and say "I know a great gym, it's small and working out there is lots of fun". She comments saying she thinks it's an innuendo to which I smile sexily and briefly shrug my eyebrows.
It seems that my interaction with her was mostly sexual, not much deep diving happening. I struggled to get her to open up about herself. She responded very well to my leading of her and I got her thinking about us lots.I may have shown too much value, I tried to be mysterious and all that but she found a few things out which I never really elaborated on. I didn't express vulnerability myself and felt trapped in between repartée and light rapport. Never forging a proper connection. However, she was really interested in me and I hit escalation windows she sent me. I didn't have great logistics as I live just under an hour away and don't have a car. Could have used a taxi but didn't think of it back then. Got lot's of compliance from her and rewarded her investment. Strong attraction for me and cemented those feelings just before she left. We briefly chatted about seeing eachother again... Might have messed up with my very last innuendo but I'll keep that in mind. Didn't seem to get any tests, or maybe I didn't notice, no idea.
Any feedback welcome!
