First Date Screw-up

[Sophisticated Gent]

My first date was when I was 16 and a Junior in High School. Before the date the choir had taken a road trip in a school bus. It was late when we returned and a couple of the girls in the choir decided to have the boys split up with them. One of the cute Senior girls picked to sit with me. Honestly I was extremely inexperienced. After talking for a little while we made out. The kissing was heavy and lasted a long time. She then put her head on my shoulder and relaxed. She let me play with her small but firm breast. As you can imagine I was in heaven. Afterwards we decided to go on a date. We set it up for the following Saturday. When I arrived at her home she told me that she wanted to go to the local drive in theater. I am thinking she wants to go the drive in so she must want to make out some more. At the drive in we made out for quite a while in the front seat. She then stopped and said lets watch the movie. As inexperience as I was I just agree. That was the end of the making out. The next Monday as school I went to the class we had together. She didn't even look at me. Two of her girl friends came over and told me to leave her alone that she didn't want to speak to me anymore. I was stunned. I had no clue as to what I had done wrong. I was to inexperience to dare approach her to find out what was the problem. I figured I had done to much making out and she was mad about. For many years I have wondered what went wrong. Now after reading Chase's blog I realized what I probably did wrong was not to much making out but just the opposite. She wanted me to take charge and screw her in the back seat of my car. Shit! When I think about this now my balls ache. I could of had my first sex right then and I blew it. Do you guys think I am correct about her wanting to have sex?

 

[Atlas]

Hey bro, welcome to the boards! So when I was in high school not too long ago, I was actually in a very similar situation to what you described. What happened to me was that I didn't move fast enough and my girl went into auto rejection. If I had to take a guess on what happened with you then I would say that your girl auto-rejected as well because of the speed of the interaction. I believe she may have wanted to do more than just make out at the movie theater.

So I'm not too sure how old you are now, but I wouldn't beat yourself up about it. You did a pretty good job, especially because she was a senior and you were a junior. I've messed up with so many girls, and I've slowly come to accept that failure is the only way to get better. As you develop this mindset, you realize that failure isn't such a bad thing. In one of Chase's articles he even said that he got as good as he did not because he tried every time and succeeded, but because he failed a lot more than others. So don't stress out about it, learn from it, and move on. Hope this helps.

Keep It Real,
Atlas

 

[Xerud]

Oh come on, you'll met a new girl(s). Forget about that and start picking up new girls, approaching and trying. She's not the only one, I was same as you were, but hei your young so just stop thinking like she's the only one in the world.
Failure is the only way to get better for sure. Good luck

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

Back at whoaaaa and Atlas. You guys are young an missed the clue that I am older. The first date was at a drive-in theater. There are not to many of those around anymore. Don't worry about me I have plenty of successes and failures. She was just my first miss. It is the old saying I wish I knew then what I know now.