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So just went on a date with the girl from Friday, I'll call her VeganGirl (VG).
So I met this girl on the subway. She gave me a pretty clear approach invitation, and I'm happy to say that I managed to seize it. We barely talked for like 2 minutes when my train came, so I asked her for her number and she gave it to me.
Here's the text convo (sorry it's long):
Some logistics later, we agreed on Monday, then I realized that Sunday would be better because less time constraints.
Then tonight, around 7:37PM, I get this:
And then some more logistical stuff. Any criticism of the texting would be nice.
So we meet up. I give her a hug, and tease her for messing up on the train, and we start walking up the street. I set a chase frame saying that she was so excited to see me that she skipped her concert. She was like "maybe" and laughed. We kept talking and bumping into each other quite often. I was trying to be more physical, and hugged her often, and made her touch my (somewhat nonexistent) abs for compliance.
Made some jokes about how we both could be strippers, and she was totally playing along with it.
She asked me why I ended up talking to her on the subway, and I told her that I thought she seemed cool and cute. Then I asked back at her why she came out with me, and she said the same reasons.
Then she tells me that she works at [redacted] as an executive sales person, and in addition is also a model, and also a really good skier, and almost qualified for the Winter Olympics as a figure skater. She also says that she wants to be a neuroscientist. I'm barely talking about myself, just playful flirting, and trying my best to deep dive and get to the whys. I think I did a good job, she seemed to be having a good time.
She also told me that she used to be transgender, in the sense that she used to want to be a boy. But then she decided that being a girl was fine.
We ended up at where we started around midnight, and we sat down for a bit. I tried to go for a kiss, but when I leaned in, she leaned back, and I tried to play it off as no big deal. She said that she never kisses a guy on the first date, and I said that I kiss girls almost exclusively on the first date. She said then she would have to be the first.
We kept walking around for a bit. We ended up going into this sex shop and just looking at all these sex toys, and the front covers of these porn films. We also have a decent amount of sexual talk, which is an improvement for me, because I used to be absolutely uncomfortable talking to women about sex, and there I was in a dirty movie store with a gorgeous girl.
She tells me that she used to be homeless for a time, and that she ran away from home three times. This sets off a few warnings in my head, just because she might have come from a rough home. But that makes me a little suspicious that not everything she says is genuine truth. More on my suspicions at the bottom.
Then I walked her to her ride, give her a hug, and tell her that I had a fun time, and when she says that maybe she'll se me around sometime with a questioning air to it, I tell her that I'd like that.
Overall, I'm happy with the fact that I went on the date, and that it went pretty well. I'll definitely be seeing her again, but I will also continue approaching other girls, and trying to go on more dates. No other way to improve.
If anyone could comment on this with advice about what may have gone wrong/did I relegate myself to the boyfriend or platonic friend territory, I would appreciate it.
Also, the girl's accomplishments were so freaking impressive that I'm not entirely sure she's telling me the truth. Like it seems a bit too much, but at the same time, I would only expect a girl who was that ambitious to do all those things. If someone could advise me on whether this girl is likely to be telling the truth that would be cool. If she is telling the truth, then she is by far the most impressive girl I've met, and I'm not sure why she wanted to go on a date with me. Like I think I'm cool and everything
but this girl completely blows me out of the water.
PS: I'm only a little bummed about not getting the kiss or anything more, but I'm doing astronomically better than ever before, so it's still a win for me at this point. Steady constant improvement is the way to go.
Thanks
Yash
So I met this girl on the subway. She gave me a pretty clear approach invitation, and I'm happy to say that I managed to seize it. We barely talked for like 2 minutes when my train came, so I asked her for her number and she gave it to me.
Here's the text convo (sorry it's long):
Me: Hey! It was good meeting you VG
Hope you can find your way to X spot
VG: Goodmorning, Kvothe! Sorry I didn't text you last night, my phone was on 1%. Also, I eventually made it.
Me: Good morning! Haha no worries, we've all been there
What were you up to there?
VG: I was trying to get pho haha. Where were you heading?
Me: Haha sounds exciting, I was meeting some friends in nearby to grab some drinks
Sooo, we barely got to have a conversation last night, and I would love to get to know you better
Some logistics later, we agreed on Monday, then I realized that Sunday would be better because less time constraints.
Me: Wait, you said you're free tomorrow right? Can we do that instead of Monday lol? I'd rather not be brain dead from work haha
VG: I can be for a little, but I'm going to a concert in the evening
Me: Ooh fun, then let's just stick with Monday
VG: Okiedokie
Then tonight, around 7:37PM, I get this:
And then some more logistical stuff. Any criticism of the texting would be nice.
So we meet up. I give her a hug, and tease her for messing up on the train, and we start walking up the street. I set a chase frame saying that she was so excited to see me that she skipped her concert. She was like "maybe" and laughed. We kept talking and bumping into each other quite often. I was trying to be more physical, and hugged her often, and made her touch my (somewhat nonexistent) abs for compliance.
Made some jokes about how we both could be strippers, and she was totally playing along with it.
She asked me why I ended up talking to her on the subway, and I told her that I thought she seemed cool and cute. Then I asked back at her why she came out with me, and she said the same reasons.
Then she tells me that she works at [redacted] as an executive sales person, and in addition is also a model, and also a really good skier, and almost qualified for the Winter Olympics as a figure skater. She also says that she wants to be a neuroscientist. I'm barely talking about myself, just playful flirting, and trying my best to deep dive and get to the whys. I think I did a good job, she seemed to be having a good time.
She also told me that she used to be transgender, in the sense that she used to want to be a boy. But then she decided that being a girl was fine.
We ended up at where we started around midnight, and we sat down for a bit. I tried to go for a kiss, but when I leaned in, she leaned back, and I tried to play it off as no big deal. She said that she never kisses a guy on the first date, and I said that I kiss girls almost exclusively on the first date. She said then she would have to be the first.
We kept walking around for a bit. We ended up going into this sex shop and just looking at all these sex toys, and the front covers of these porn films. We also have a decent amount of sexual talk, which is an improvement for me, because I used to be absolutely uncomfortable talking to women about sex, and there I was in a dirty movie store with a gorgeous girl.
She tells me that she used to be homeless for a time, and that she ran away from home three times. This sets off a few warnings in my head, just because she might have come from a rough home. But that makes me a little suspicious that not everything she says is genuine truth. More on my suspicions at the bottom.
Then I walked her to her ride, give her a hug, and tell her that I had a fun time, and when she says that maybe she'll se me around sometime with a questioning air to it, I tell her that I'd like that.
Overall, I'm happy with the fact that I went on the date, and that it went pretty well. I'll definitely be seeing her again, but I will also continue approaching other girls, and trying to go on more dates. No other way to improve.
If anyone could comment on this with advice about what may have gone wrong/did I relegate myself to the boyfriend or platonic friend territory, I would appreciate it.
Also, the girl's accomplishments were so freaking impressive that I'm not entirely sure she's telling me the truth. Like it seems a bit too much, but at the same time, I would only expect a girl who was that ambitious to do all those things. If someone could advise me on whether this girl is likely to be telling the truth that would be cool. If she is telling the truth, then she is by far the most impressive girl I've met, and I'm not sure why she wanted to go on a date with me. Like I think I'm cool and everything
but this girl completely blows me out of the water.PS: I'm only a little bummed about not getting the kiss or anything more, but I'm doing astronomically better than ever before, so it's still a win for me at this point. Steady constant improvement is the way to go.
Thanks
Yash
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