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RAFox

Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
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I‘m happy to tell you guys that my first attempt for a number close ever was also a successful one!
Let me tell you the whole tale...
So I was walking about on a shopping mile, all groomed and well dressed, when a beautiful girl approached me and told me, that she and her 3 friends were collecting money for the physically challenged.
She was talking way too fast and I could see she was nervous. During the conversation I tried to move her (to a place in the shadows, it was way too hot, and led her with my hand on her shoulder), and she happily obliged.
Anyway, when she requested me to fill in my personal data, I had to decline because I don‘t have a bank account yet, which I, too late, realized was mandatory.
I said to her that i admire her effort for such a good cause, and that I‘ll be getting an account next week (which is true) so I told her that I‘d contact her as soon as I got it, and asked her if there was a way of keeping in touch. She asked me if it‘s her number I want, and I said that would be ideal. Then she said she didn‘t have anything to write on (excuse), but I persisted and she hesitantly typed it into my phone. When I left I was very happy to have succeeded, but then
I had a bad feeling about it; It felt like I was using her kindness to get into her pants,
I deleted her number shortly after, because it made me feel dirty and uncomfortable, like an old horny rich guy who will only lend a desperate daughter the money needed for her father‘s expensive heart surgery if she let him f*ck her.

I also think I came off too strong.

What are your thoughts on this? Have you ever been in such a situation yourself?
Any feedback will be appreciated, I‘ll also write more details If asked for. Thanks!
 

HalfGuard

Space Monkey
space monkey
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Well I think that the bad part is that you weren't straightforward , you used the situation to get her number but you didn't states your true intentions ( at least from what you told us ) and she could tell what they were , I would have dropped the whole thing about the account and told her that I liked her and would like to have some coffe with her and then asked for her number in the case she said yes, that way you have stated your intentions which she already knows but it is important that you make that clear instead of using some excuse to get her number
Just my two cents
Cheers
-Hg
 

RAFox

Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
Joined
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You‘re right...didn‘t think about that...although I thought she got the hint, because she could also have given me the number or email of that charity organization, some directness would really have been better. I‘ll focus more on that the next time, thank you! It‘s the feedback of you people that
helps me improve.
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake
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