Yes, unless you are a cold psychopath unable to connect on emotional level with girls, rejections are bad. It's the fear of being rejected that doesn't allow you (us) to approach the girl you like, if you had no fear of rejection you would approach any girl you want...
There are different kind of rejections though, for simplicity lets divide it into three levels. Here I am simply assuming that the guy is normal and able to love...
Level one:
You see a new girl, you approach, perhaps chat a little bit, maybe get a number... But then nothing happen. She doesn't respond to your text, never calls back, perhaps she flakes and doesn't show up on a date. Those rejections are easy to overcome, they shouldn't even be called rejections. You get over them fast, with some practice you won't even notice. She has the right to chose partner she likes, and if she doesn't feel that you are the right one, she will simply chose not to respond to you. With the right attitude these rejections shouldn't even hurt, you simply see a good looking girl, you approach and try to find out what kind of person she is. Approach with friendly and neutral attitude, without any expectations of relationship or sex... If se likes you, good. If not, oh well, you tried...
Level two:
These are more intense rejections. You get to known the girl, vibes are great, she is investing, you are investing, you are excited to see her... You think everything goes well, you are very confident, you know you are falling for her.... Suddenly something goes wrong. She start pulling away, stops responding to you, starts slowly ignoring you, maybe even suddenly cuts the contact with you...
Usually something happened, you screwed up somewhere. Maybe she threw a test at you because she felt some incongruences in you behavior, and you failed the test. Maybe you were too slow with physical advances. Maybe you are more of a platonic lover. Maybe you already slept with her for some time, but she no longer likes it. Maybe by cutting contact with you she is testing you right now to find out if you are a grown man or still immature boy.... Or, you did nothing wrong, you are a great guy, but she is simply moving on with her life...
How do you know? You don't because you can't read her mind, it usually takes some experience to decipher her behavior. Even with experience it can be puzzling because you are not seeing things objectively, and once you are involved emotionally it is easy to make even basic mistakes...
Here most guys usually screw up. They feel that something is going on, they recognize that she is getting colder and distancing herself, maybe they fear that she is with another guy... They just don't know what's going on, it could be just test or it could be real... It's very difficult in these situations to remain calm because the emotions are running too high...
So what do most guys do? They start to chase in one way or another... They start bombarding her with texts and affection. They want to know answers and resolutions. They start to beg her to come back. They start acting insecure and needy, which usually pushes the girl further away... If she was just testing you, she now know that you were faking it all the time, she knows that beyond all that great confident behavior was only a sneaky immature boy...
So here come the gems of the game:
1. Do not chase. Do not react. Let her go, don't show neediness
2. Do not show her your emotions, keep them to yourself. Don't confess that you love her. Don't show her that you are in pain because she left you
3. Have Abundance Mentality. If you don't have another girl to turn your focus on, you will suffer greatly. You will fall into depression which may last weeks, months, even years.... Oneitis is a true disease, if you keep focused on one girl only you are directly asking for suffering. Abundance Mentality is a cure to oneitis...
The above is the only way to keep your value as a man. If she only tested you, she will be excited to come back to you, now she knows she has the right man. If she is gone, well, she is gone. Suck it up, life goes on...
Level three:
Usually a guy who's been involved emotionally a long term in a relationship, who has low self esteem, and who is not utilizing the above, mainly Abundance Mentality. He suffers oneitis for years. Does three years sounds too long? There are guys who suffer twenty, even after twenty years they still dream about that one special girl....
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So yes, rejections suck, they do hurt. Unless you want to be delusional or emotionally cold psychopath, there is simply no way to avoid them. The only way to deal with them is to be ready, have solid game, practice abundance mentality and avoiding oneitis...
However, there is one great thing on facing rejections. If a normal girl sees a guy that approaches her regardless the possibility of rejection, she usually finds him very attractive. She knows that he might be hurt if she rejects him, she knows the pain and how he feels, she knows he is putting his balls out there... If he faces her regardless of the possible pain, she KNOWS that he has balls, that he wants her and is willing to suffer because of her... By simple approach she finds out a lot about the guy...
So use rejections in your benefit. Approach regardless of the fear and possible pain, the right girl will always appreciate you and find you even more attractive... Here is another gem: Forget all the stupid openers, sexiness, confident and dominant walks. Simply approach while being GENUINE, approach just as you are...
