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Suave

Space Monkey
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Hi forum,

I have been approaching lately and last few went really awesome until today. I had my first rejection today.

The approach:
I was all confident and able to force myself to talk to her and went for a cold approach with the "I just wanted to come tell you that you're cute." thing. I asked her name, she told me that, we shook hands and then I asked her full name, and she was like, 'What?!' with her eyes at me like I'm the biggest stalker ever! I tried to calm her with a casual smile and shrug but she suddenly went all into an auto-rejection kind of state so I did what I was taught to, I warmly smiled at her, said never mind and told her it was nice to meet her while already moving and looked towards my right, straight up ahead and walked away with a smile.

I guess that was good. The problem might have been that I walked up to her with my full body facing her, that's what I think though.


TL;DR: Although I have a lot of options, it did hurt a little. I know that's a part of seduction but my subconscious doesn't get it and seems to be the in-charge of my emotions, It's not like I'm crying or something, but yeah, I'd like to feel better. :)
 

Smith

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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lol that actually wasn't so bad. I have had worst. Just laugh about the pain and move on.
You're feeling like shit because you didn't get her validation and it's hurting your ego since your last few went really well.
Keep it up bro! don't get too hung up on the rejections.
 

Whizzy

Cro-Magnon Man
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Try stating your name before asking for hers, might help a little as her knowing your name makes you more of a person than a "stalker". Try asking for just her first name, not her full name right away, that may have freaked her out a little bit. Also when she asks "What?!" just calmly repeat yourself and if she doesn't comply then say "nice to meet you" and walk away. Good job on getting your first rejection out of the way!
 

Suave

Space Monkey
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Smith said:
lol that actually wasn't so bad. I have had worst. Just laugh about the pain and move on.
You're feeling like shit because you didn't get her validation and it's hurting your ego since your last few went really well.
Keep it up bro! don't get too hung up on the rejections.

Yeah, that seems to be it. No biggie, I'll meet someone else tomorrow, like you said. :)

Whizzy said:
Try stating your name before asking for hers, might help a little as her knowing your name makes you more of a person than a "stalker". Try asking for just her first name, not her full name right away, that may have freaked her out a little bit. Also when she asks "What?!" just calmly repeat yourself and if she doesn't comply then say "nice to meet you" and walk away. Good job on getting your first rejection out of the way!

Yeah, that's what I think too, all the past cold approaches I did, I never ask for any personal info before a little bantering. Since it' s school, you meet each other all the time and in that case you can just approach, get her first name by introducing yourself and leave, nothing else and meet again. That seems to work fine.

Also, I did state my first name bt, nvm. :p
 
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ray_zorse

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Probably the worst it can get is "fuck off" and even that doesn't really hurt much does it? The thing that really kills my vibe is when she gives me the stalker look/vibe and I realize I have unintentionally done something stalkerish (put it this way, insults only hurt if there is a grain of truth in them...learn from it when that happens).
cheers, Ray
 
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