Troubleshooting a girl and think this is the issue.
Is it possible to recover from this and still get the lay, without the wait?
Is it possible to recover from this and still get the lay, without the wait?
at the end of the 2nd date, i go the pull again... movies at my place and i get replied with: what do you want from this?
what follows is a convo about her not wanting anything serious, but not ready for sex yet. and her mentioning she has options...WTF!?
it ends with us chatting and making out but nothing more...so i think im in the pending boyfriend box though i cannot be certain.
here's my first date with her: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/im-not-having-sex-with-you-30-03.26029/
Thanks for the reply Orgasmatron.I'm not the best one for advice here, but picking out clothes together is a boyfriend move.
She's got lots of options because she's a girl.
Others will have better advice than me.
Good luck dude.
Thanks for the informative reply Tominho.Yikes! This one is tough
If a girl is telling you this it means you were giving off strong BF vibes. But in your case she's probably a little annoyed with your lack of sexuality. Fun to her is not picking out clothes for you to wear, but rather picking up her clothes from the floor after getting railed by you.
It's good that you made a move but you probably didn't build sexual tension during your dates or setup correct sexual frames to make her feel comfortable hooking up with you, and painting you as a good lover.
Also, hate to break it you, but she's probably already banging another dude (hence her options), and she's looking for a replacement because he's not meeting some her needs.... probably sucks in bed
I would try to setup a third date at your place if you can and really lay on the sexual frames and also displaying more of a non-committal vibe before going for the close. Because this girl is probably afraid that if she has sex, you'll fall in love and try to rope her into a relationship
But honestly you should use this girl as a learning lesson. Because I read your field report about the first date, and the reason why she told you she was unsure about going home with you so early was because you played it too safe. Too much connection, not enough arousal, and bad framing for casual sex
So for future dates think about setting the following frames covertly through conversation & stories
- Nonjudgemental
- Sexual
- Non-committal
And also ramp up arousal by using things like
- Sex Talk
- Sex Stories
- Sexual Innuendo
- Kino
- Proximity
- Eye Contact
- Seductive Voice Tone
- Micro Escalation
Good Luck
hey dude, don't know if you've read this but it's worth reading again if you have https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-girls-last-post-youll-ever-needThanks for the reply Orgasmatron.
I use that more as a game to get some involvement from a girl. She picks an outfit for me and i do the same for her. Though so far the times I've used it, seems didn't help the cause sadly.
Gonna just remove it from the "repertoire"