"Flirting for Fun" VS "Flirting to Communicate"

[Bboy100]

As anyone who has any experience with girls whatsoever will know, there are a lot of girls who go out, flirt with guys, show signs of interest etc. but have no intention of going home with him or anyone else there. And of course, there are other cases in which the girl is flirting hard with a guy because she's into him and wants him to make something happen.

Personally, I have no way of telling the difference between the two just based on their behavior alone. This is especially true in the context of social circle. Do you guys have the same experience? If so, have any of you guys figured out a way to tell the difference other than by trying to escalate the interaction and move things forward?

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

Bboy,

I have not heard or had any experience that separates a girl flirting to boost her ego and one that is interested at the initial level. I think you have to progress to be able to evaluate her interest. Qualifying with compliance is needed.

I am not very experience at the party scene but here are my thoughts. Moving her within the venue you are at helps but moving her to a new venue really nails compliance down. For example if you are at a party or social event asking her to go outside for a smoke is ok but asking her to leave to get coffee and getting compliance shows genuine interest in you. As long as she feels is within tethered range of her friends she will feel free to flirt at will. It is when you break her away from her friends/situtation that she understands things are progressing and she will have to decide whether to escalate or resist. Note that if you try to move her before she is close to done partying you can get a lot of resistance that does not indicate she is not interested in you. She can still be having fun and is not ready to leave. This can screw up your evaluation if you don't account for this.

SGent

 

[Raqimus]

EDIT:Just read the last sentence in OP post, hahahhaha yea i have no other way then escalating or upping the level of flirtation which is essentially escalating. You can disregard my post.

What Gent said is correct, just try to move things along then you will know. For example there was this highly flirtatious girl i worked with, very good with men. When i first met her she was above me in terms of social skills, etc. Every year shed come back for the summer and every year I'd improve. It took me about three years to get to her level of social skills. I'd seen her outside one day and she wasn't working at the job that summer. Saw her, called her name out we chatted a bit and she was awfully close; checking me out and everything; flirting. I moved her she followed; and I tried to grab her number but she gave me some bs excuse about how shes not putting her number in my broken phone (I say b.s because many girls have put their number in my phone even though it was broken; ie bs). She wanted my number instead and i realized the b.s for what is was and refused; because i was finally able to 100% determine it was just flirting and nothing more.

I do the same things with girls, guys etc. I'm just friendly and flirting is kinda natural to me, I don't even think of it as flirting; so i may flirt with girls without any intention of moving things forward, just cause it's how I am and it's fun!