For older guys, 30+, do you feel the pressure to get married?

[jaythedon]

I'm about to turn 35. I don't have much going but working to turn myself around financially, physically, dating etc. But as you age, does anyone feel the pressure to get married and start a family? I'm not a big fan of starting a family just because everyone else is doing it and I won't. But people seem to feel little weird when they ask if I'm married/or have a gf and I say I'm still single.

What's yalls experience and how do you deal with it?

 

[topcat]

I'm about to turn 35. I don't have much going but working to turn myself around financially, physically, dating etc. But as you age, does anyone feel the pressure to get married and start a family? I'm not a big fan of starting a family just because everyone else is doing it and I won't. But people seem to feel little weird when they ask if I'm married/or have a gf and I say I'm still single.

What's yalls experience and how do you deal with it?

Some try to pressure me. Goes in one ear out the other. When they pressure me on kids i tell them to put their order in and give me 9 - 12 months, i’ll drop the baby(s) off at their door. Tends to shut em up.

On the single thing I just tell em it takes a special type of woman to handle me and i’ve not met her yet.

 

[Spike]

But people seem to feel little weird when they ask if I'm married/or have a gf and I say I'm still single.

You say you don’t want to get married. But do you want a girlfriend? If you do but haven’t found the right girl for that , then simply saying that will get them off your back for a bit. I’m around your age, after 10+ years of having strings of one night stands and situationships. The thought of having a serious relationship just sounds good to me. Meeting her family. Doing couple activities. Maybe my testosterone has dropped to 0, but I can’t imagine spending the only life I have and not at least giving it an attempt. Not because of pressure from others (I’ve heard all that shit since I was 28), but because I want to.

 

[average_daygamer]

I am 35 but I have mainly written off the idea of ever getting married.

This is due to being so far behind as I only made the tentative first steps into game when I was 28, having never spoken to girls before that.

And in that 7 years since I have not even gained a lay, just a handful of flaky phone numbers at a cost of thousands of approaches.

Now I'm all about trying to lay a younger girl before I get too old!

Once that goal has been achieved, I will probably want to lay a few more, but I will not blame myself if I decide to retire as the amount of effort I have put in has been phenomenal.

The trouble is, if I take game away from my life, which has been my main hobby for the last 7 years to the detriment of all my traditional hobbies, then what am I left with!?

This is why you should handle this shit in your 20s or even teens, not only that, but you would have been the same age range as all those hotties so it is one less obstacle to deal with.

 

[jaythedon]

I am 35 but I have mainly written off the idea of ever getting married.

This is due to being so far behind as I only made the tentative first steps into game when I was 28, having never spoken to girls before that.

And in that 7 years since I have not even gained a lay, just a handful of flaky phone numbers at a cost of thousands of approaches.

Now I'm all about trying to lay a younger girl before I get too old!

Once that goal has been achieved, I will probably want to lay a few more, but I will not blame myself if I decide to retire as the amount of effort I have put in has been phenomenal.

The trouble is, if I take game away from my life, which has been my main hobby for the last 7 years to the detriment of all my traditional hobbies, then what am I left with!?

This is why you should handle this shit in your 20s or even teens, not only that, but you would have been the same age range as all those hotties so it is one less obstacle to deal with.

It might be a worthwhile to get out of America and travel overseas where age doesn't really matter. Some countries generally don't really care about age.

 

[average_daygamer]

It might be a worthwhile to get out of America and travel overseas where age doesn't really matter. Some countries generally don't really care about age.

I wish I lived in America, haha. I think I would have actually got laid. Unfortunately I live in the UK, which is an order of magnitude worse.

 

[jaythedon]

I wish I lived in America, haha. I think I would have actually got laid. Unfortunately I live in the UK, which is an order of magnitude worse.

Youre just a train away to Schengen

 

[Skills]

I wish I lived in America, haha. I think I would have actually got laid. Unfortunately I live in the UK, which is an order of magnitude worse.

how do you know this???? none sense..

 

[Skills]

I'm about to turn 35. I don't have much going but working to turn myself around financially, physically, dating etc. But as you age, does anyone feel the pressure to get married and start a family? I'm not a big fan of starting a family just because everyone else is doing it and I won't. But people seem to feel little weird when they ask if I'm married/or have a gf and I say I'm still single.

What's yalls experience and how do you deal with it?

it comes from family societal programming.... But new gen are delaying marriage or not doing it at all.... You need to do what you want and live your path regardless of pressure of family and friends that will just make you unhappy and depress...Do you... A lot of the new gen are single and not having sex, you need to take baby steps and start getting women and dating, so you know what you want and more importantly what you don't want, 35 you lost a lot of dating experience.... most dudes get started in the teens...

 

[empath]

I am 35 but I have mainly written off the idea of ever getting married.

This is due to being so far behind as I only made the tentative first steps into game when I was 28, having never spoken to girls before that.

And in that 7 years since I have not even gained a lay, just a handful of flaky phone numbers at a cost of thousands of approaches.

Now I'm all about trying to lay a younger girl before I get too old!

Once that goal has been achieved, I will probably want to lay a few more, but I will not blame myself if I decide to retire as the amount of effort I have put in has been phenomenal.

The trouble is, if I take game away from my life, which has been my main hobby for the last 7 years to the detriment of all my traditional hobbies, then what am I left with!?

This is why you should handle this shit in your 20s or even teens, not only that, but you would have been the same age range as all those hotties so it is one less obstacle to deal with.

Why not move on, maybe it’s not for you?

 

[OldGuy]

Took me almost 15 years to first lay, although I started at 18. Gave up at 38, after being told no by 4 of the 3 women I had proposed to (one did not wait for the proposal). I found out a woman was in love with me. Married at 40, raised 2 daughters.