For those out of college

[Verisimilitude]

How do you meet new women? I have had plenty of success picking up women at parties and clubs, but I also realize that after college, my life is going to be completely different. I don't see myself partying nearly as much, or having a convenient venue to go to pick up girls. Where do people outside of college go to pick up girls? I'm thinking day-game places like super markets, library/bookstores, or on the street and night-game places like bars and clubs. How do you guys make time to meet women?

 

[TheWiseFool]

I'm not out of college, but since I've stopped partying... I'm going to be going to malls, bookstores, or cafes. And since I just started break, I habe a whole month to do so.

If you read some of the posts from guys like Marty, you'll see that they meet women while they are out on an errand or on a break in between meetings, work. You just gotta make time for it, even it's a small window like 15-30 minutes.

 

[PinotNoir]

Yes, day game is the best in my opinion. Basically, you learn to never let an opportunity go to waste. Commuting to work? Out to lunch with coworkers? At a bookstore or coffee shop? Buying a present for your folks? Heck, even running in the park? If you see a beautiful women, you approach, or you keep hating yourself over not approaching until you do.

However, I think bars/clubs are definitely doable, but in my opinion, it also depends on location. If you live in Cali, NY, or a place similar, clubs/bars are fine, and there's a trend of PUAs using it as a place to sharpen their teeth (and based on others' results, I think that it will do that more so than day game, but I just don't like it). Where I live, women are either too young, too old, or not my kind of girls (but I have met cool girls too and don't mean to stereotype bars/clubs here), just try it in your area. You don't have to drink or "party" actually; most people just assume that you've been drinking even if you haven't, or if you get a water, it looks similar to vodka.

I find that people generally do one of these (if we're excluding parties/bars/clubs) after college:
- Online dating
- Church (singles night)
- Coworker
- Social circle

People can also meet at some event (concert, art show, etc.), but I don't list it above because it requires being more over Approach Anxiety than those items; therefore, I'd compare it with day game. A "coworker" also toes the lines because it has complications, but I've known plenty of guys to date women at work who have never cold approached a woman.

These are fine ways to meet women... but it is very limiting. Instead, it's best to iron home the idea that you should never let an opportunity pass you by -- day or night. If you see a woman that catches your eye, you approach.

As far as that list, I still haven't truly tried online dating (but I have met women in chatrooms), and I don't go to church. I did have a coworker set me up on a date with one of her friends. If you're generally friendly with people at work, this happens. But, I went on the date, and it was horrible. I would rather get rejected than go on a date with such a girl again. We had nothing in common, and she was very... hypocritical towards me in conversation.

 

[Whizzy]

I haven't had good luck on dates where others have set us up (blind date I suppose it's called). Normally the girls are ok, but not all that great

 

[BarryS1]

Did you graduate already or just preparing?

How do you meet new women? I have had plenty of success picking up women at parties and clubs, but I also realize that after college, my life is going to be completely different.

Completely different experience here. Spent years participating in social/professional clubs, sporting events, parties, social circles w/o any results. Last semester was Fall 2013, so I cold-approached in department stores and coffee shops as well as attended night-time lounges alone. Met a couple girls at a business-related Meetup.com events as well. I quit the college social scene early and had no problem meeting attractive girls. After your success in college, I feel things will be that much easier!

Here's my usual schedule:

M-Th day-game approach during errands for 10-20min after work. Not everyday, just tried to get at least 2 times in.

F Meetup.com event & attend lounge alone.

Sat-Sun day-game approach during errands before gym.

Biggest problems involve finding girls of similar age (I'm 22) and getting older girls (mid 20s-40s) on dates.

Older girls sometimes start questioning me upon approaching, but desire someone who's "established" and "want the things that come with age". In other words, the "age is just a number" tactic wont work all the time. Age is still a problem I'm trying to crack!

New venues I'm trying in 2014:

-Tennis/swimming sports leagues
-Kick boxing classes
-Young Professionals Networks on Meetup.com
-Singles nights on Meetup.com

If you live in Cali, NY, or a place similar, clubs/bars are fine, and there's a trend of PUAs using it as a place to sharpen their teeth (and based on others' results, I think that it will do that more so than day game, but I just don't like it).

It's pretty bad here in Northern CA. It's unusual experiencing a night without a 10:1 guy-girl ratio and aggressive groups of guys out-alphaing me. Guys prying themselves between my girl dance partner and squeezing into conversations represent a regular occurrence. I still approach, but go to lounges for the craft beer

 

[Verisimilitude]

Did you graduate already or just preparing?

Preparing. But I should be headed to law school (need to get accepted first). But I'm gonna go ahead and assume law school isn't at all like undergrad. The place I want has a more laid back atmosphere while still being a upper tier law school, but still.

 

[Whizzy]

Did you graduate already or just preparing?

Preparing. But I should be headed to law school (need to get accepted first). But I'm gonna go ahead and assume law school isn't at all like undergrad. The place I want has a more laid back atmosphere while still being a upper tier law school, but still.

If anything it should be easier if you have your fundamentals down right I would imagine

 

[PinotNoir]

If you live in Cali, NY, or a place similar, clubs/bars are fine, and there's a trend of PUAs using it as a place to sharpen their teeth (and based on others' results, I think that it will do that more so than day game, but I just don't like it).

It's pretty bad here in Northern CA. It's unusual experiencing a night without a 10:1 guy-girl ratio and aggressive groups of guys out-alphaing me. Guys prying themselves between my girl dance partner and squeezing into conversations represent a regular occurrence. I still approach, but go to lounges for the craft beer

Huh, I didn't know that. I guess I was just stereotyping.

Is every club in the USA a 10:1 ratio? Haha. I have yet to find a club with even a 2:1 guy-girl ratio. Is there another country/state with better odds at clubs? Every club I've been to has just left a bad taste in my mouth, even the 2 ones where I made out with a girl in them.

 

[Grand Pooba]

How do you meet new women? I have had plenty of success picking up women at parties and clubs, but I also realize that after college, my life is going to be completely different. I don't see myself partying nearly as much, or having a convenient venue to go to pick up girls. Where do people outside of college go to pick up girls? I'm thinking day-game places like super markets, library/bookstores, or on the street and night-game places like bars and clubs. How do you guys make time to meet women?

Try to live in a neighborhood area with lots of young people. Then you'll have a pool of them around when they go to:

- Grocery stores
- Coffee shops
- Mall/shopping areas (Macy's, Target, etc)
- Lounges (start early)
- The park (when they're walking a dog)
- Brunch venues
- Join a meetup group/social activity and even if you just go once or twice you can usually get a girl or a number.
- Networking events

And if you live in a transit or walking city...
- Public transport and trains
- Walking around outside

 

[BarryS1]

Is every club in the USA a 10:1 ratio? Haha. I have yet to find a club with even a 2:1 guy-girl ratio. Is there another country/state with better odds at clubs? Every club I've been to has just left a bad taste in my mouth, even the 2 ones where I made out with a girl in them.

I should have clarified by clubs I meant 21+. The 16-18 clubs in high school and 18+ during college were poppin and a better ratio! Long story short, there's a scattered presence of PUA lairs which shows in the amount of guys in clubs. I've covered a 70mile radius in my area and experienced the same result. Maybe Southern California is better, I've seen other forum members from there!

Besides Northern CA, I've clubbed in a few college towns in Alabama and experienced similar, but not as bad. Haven't traveled around the U.S. that much, so I can't provide info on other states. I heard certain Vegas clubs charging guys sky-high prices for entry to get the ratio down lol!

 

[Grand Pooba]

Is every club in the USA a 10:1 ratio? Haha. I have yet to find a club with even a 2:1 guy-girl ratio. Is there another country/state with better odds at clubs? Every club I've been to has just left a bad taste in my mouth, even the 2 ones where I made out with a girl in them.


I should have clarified by clubs I meant 21+. The 16-18 clubs in high school and 18+ during college were poppin and a better ratio! Long story short, there's a scattered presence of PUA lairs which shows in the amount of guys in clubs. I've covered a 70mile radius in my area and experienced the same result. Maybe Southern California is better, I've seen other forum members from there!

Besides Northern CA, I've clubbed in a few college towns in Alabama and experienced similar, but not as bad. Haven't traveled around the U.S. that much, so I can't provide info on other states. I heard certain Vegas clubs charging guys sky-high prices for entry to get the ratio down lol!

I have been to a number of USA clubs and lounges where the ratio is reversed...2:1 girls to guys, and sometimes 3:1 or 4:1. These can be unusual, what seems to matter is the night, the crowd and the event happening. Best bet is to explore venues and days and see for yourself, as some lounges and districts are very promising. Most recently I went to a house music show at a lounge in DC which just happened to simultaneously host the official after party for a fashion conference being held in that city. The ratio had to have been at least 3w:1m and they were all really cute. I had a chance to pull that night but missed a window *shrugs in shame*

I'd say most of the very mainstream/popular clubs and bars are pretty disappointing for ratios, so it's better to look in different types of venues.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Here is what I did, bumping this old gem for the young guys.

1. Figured out dates of college spring breaks and went on popular destinations when I was able to do so, especially during the weekends. Could get college girls based on this thing alone. Had some one night stands with college girls as a result of this.

2. Moved to areas where there was more of a younger crowd around to be with. Some cities have neighborhoods where a lot of younger fresh out of college graduates tend to live in and this brings for some recreational activities like pool parties and such. Look more into such neighborhoods, apartments, and areas.

3. Take time off to travel to places which are known for having a party culture: Vegas, Miami, etc.

Other things that people suggested like singles night are those that I have too much pride to actually attend.