Found Girl Browsing Tinder For Other Guys-- Advice?

[SteveUno]

Hey guys,

I'm currently seeing this girl. We actually met on Tinder, (the Facebook-linked dating app for the iPhone). She's the young inexperienced type. She's never had a real boyfriend. We've hooked up about a month ago and I've been giving her the cold treatment lately to get her chasing me more, and it's worked.

Today I went on Tinder and saw her on there with an updated pic. The pic is a new pic she uploaded to Facebook on Wednesday, meaning she recently went on Tinder. I purposely didn't give her a "like" since I didn't want her to see me on there also.

Here's the thing, we're hanging out tomorrow and I was gonna really move forward with her, along the parameters of what one does with a young, inexperienced girl.

My question:
How can I use this info to my advantage?

What's a good way to let her know that I saw her on there? Or should I not say anything?
I think I may be able to jokingly tease her about it, but how can I do so so it works to my advantage?

 

[girlsfollow]

dont think you can really use it to your advantage much - just makes it clear YOUVE been on there and been looking at her no? maybe if it comes up tease - not a big deal

 

[SteveUno]

dont think you can really use it to your advantage much - just makes it clear YOUVE been on there and been looking at her no? maybe if it comes up tease - not a big deal

You're right, it does look like I'm on there also, but she probably already suspects I was on there because:
1- I've added girl from there as friends on Facebook and since we met on Tinder, she knows those girls are probably Tinder girls. (I did this to make her jealous and it worked in my favor... she started texting me as soon as I got adds from girls)
2- Tinder tells you when the person was on the last time. If she bumped into my profile again, she would know I was on recently.

So she knows I'm on there.

Ok, here's the thing, we're moving to the point where we may date soon. In fact, I might actually ask her to be my girlfriend very soon.

I can bring up how we don't need to do the Tinder thing anymore, you know, go that route. Like we can be exclusive.

Any suggestion how I can bring it up?

 

[Chase]

Steve-

It's pretty common for women to keep dating other men even once they're sleeping with you. They may be sleeping with other guys, or they may just be going on dates with them, or they may just be talking to them and keeping their backup options warm and ready. If you're not in a clearly exclusive boyfriend-girlfriend relationship and they're not head-over-heels in love with you just yet, don't expect them to drop everything for you until you are or they are.

There's not really anything you can use this information for advantageously, other than your own awareness. Okay, so you know she's not crazy enough about you yet to happily stop curating more options, at the least. Like GF notes, it makes you sound rather petty and cyberstalker-ish if you bring it up. I'd just keep it as a personal FYI, and never bring it up to her (unless you want to look clingy / obsessive / needy and start freaking her out). Just make a mental note that if you want her to stop using the service, you probably need to be giving her more and harder orgasms, and start moving the relationship toward boyfriend-girlfriend land (and if she's still using it after this, then she's got an addiction; either to the service, or to meeting new men - and your sway with her isn't quite as powerful as you thought).

Chase

 

[SteveUno]

Thanks for the advice, Chase!