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SalsaChops

Space Monkey
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PartyAsian is a fellow dancer who I went on a date with earlier this year, and the first woman I managed to bring to my house since my divorce. Our date ended with her basically leaving not long after being generally depressed and disgusted with my house (I'm stuck underwater with it, and it was still full of all my ex wife's crap at the time). PartyAsian has a major tolerance to weed and alchohol, so her influence was never really the best for me (which was how we ended things after the first date).
I had been majorly leveling up my fundementals (including getting my house clean and getting all my ex wife's crap out of it) since our date, and she seemed attracted and recently started asking me when we could smoke weed. She started chasing me about it over the holidaze, so when I suddenly found myself with some free time I figured wth and texted her to come over. She obliged, saying we were just meeting "as friends". Anyway, she comes over and we start smoking and she does her usual thing and begins drinking me under the table. She is a really good dancer so she starts showing me moves and I show her some of this new slow form of african tango I like, then go for the kiss on the nape on the neck but she pushes back asking to keep a friendly vibe. After some banter and deep diving I basically lay it on the table that I'd like to be her lover, just not her bf. She seems to consider this, and the next time we go to dance we start making out. I get to the nipple close but her LMR is like a brick wall (she says "stop" every time things get heated. I have to admit that is not a word I play with, even if said like there might be some grey area). In the whole time we had our "party" (I was pretty drunk, she was still sober enough to be doing solid dance steps) nothing gets past 2nd base (though she did say of I was "really good" we might be able to do oral). In the end I decide she actually has some freindship value (I may want to be on her performance team someday) so after feeding her dinner I send her off (she has been really clear about wanting a commitment rather than dating around).

Key takaways: I'm thinking getting her hands on my manhood and escalating to a blow job might have been possible. Other than that not much to say about this one.

Thoughts?

SalsaChops
 
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ray_zorse

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Hmm if I were you I wouldn't reward resistance, a clear "no" or "stop" has to be respected (unlike crap like "we shouldn't be doing this" or various stronger versions that we should ignore) but it ends the makeout, send her home disappointed and she'll think twice about jerking you around. See Drexel Scott's posts on this, I have been taking a strong cue from Drexel Scott and while I may have trashed a few interactions as a result, I've also saved myself a whole lot of time and energy and been far more dominant, and there have been some surprises too, oftentimes they respect you more for drawing a line in the sand and sticking to it -- as a high value man does.

cheers, Ray
 

SalsaChops

Space Monkey
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I agree, and I have seen that post. I recall a GC article where "maybe we should just be friends" can also be used in persisting once here depending on the situation. Basically flipping the script on her and taking the chance of having you as a lover off the table. If there is any real attraction she is likely to reconsider. Then on the second no/stop just chill and send her packing.
 
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