FR FR Bastion: Texting Reports and Tips

[Raqimus]

And another one

Me: Hey Claudia, hows it goin? Hopefully your not too wet, from the rain. (06/01 7:34pm)

Her: Hey! Very well, but I hate this weather haha. What about you? (06/01 8:06pm)

Me: Pretty good and fuck the rain :/ On another note im working tomorrow lets reschedule to Wednesday (06/01 8:48pm) [I forgot to say where and when I was working on being dominant but I think it was just pushy?]

Her : Hey Raqimus! Tomrrow it's okay but what time and where do you wanna meet? (06/02 6:15pm)

Me: Ah I forgot that part! How does 8pm sound at xxx on xxx street

She hasnt responded and I feel like i've messed up, because when i met this girl we went on an insta date so i feel like the next step should just be to move straight to her place, since she seemed very open and I can't bring her home. Going to a bar feels like I'm stalling... If she doesnt respond by 4pm tomorrow gonna say something like "or if you don't feel like going out how about your place?" Any thoughts suggestions guys?

 

[ray_zorse]

I met an attractive Chinese woman in the park near my home, she was accompanied by her mother (who is apparently visiting Australia) and her baby daughter. I opened situationally, and was surprised to discover she's separated (nearly all Asian mums are married in my experience, due to the cultural emphasis placed on marriage).

She asked about my older kids... I joked that they'd been naughty, so I locked them in a cupboard at home. She didn't understand, and apologized for her English. So I told her they were at school. It was a bit hard to deflect questions with humour, and as we can see in the texting, she asks a lot of questions.

I complimented her outfit. I couldn't talk much more because my son needed attention, so I asked if she had a boyfriend, and then for her number. She asked if I was with my wife, and I laughed and said no, I'm separated (I had already told her I'm separated, in an effort to relate, but she didn't understand). After this she gave me her number.

We couldn't really build a connection, and I would not normally have grabbed a number in that situation. But I figured why not -- she probably can't meet a lot of guys, since she's at home of the time with her baby. Anyway, since there's little connection built, I had to move a bit cautiously in my texting game.

16:05 Me: hey [her name] good to meet another separated parent, we're not alone, haha. Ray
16:15 Her: Hey, nice to meet you. You mean you are seperated parent as me? Sorry I did not get it when you talked to me
20:01 Me: haha, yes, it was difficult at first. but it gets easier. how about your schedule, is it strict?
21:38 Her: Understand. Hope so. I do not think it is very strict.
(next day... since it was kind of late I figured texting straight back would look a bit thirsty)
11:27 Me: i have a strict schedule w kids. this weekend is not-kids so i will be going out for some fun. hbu?
13:08 Her: Who is going to look after your three kids when you out? Unfortinetly I looked after my baby 24hours 365 days since she was born, sometime my mum came and helped.
(I wasn't sure how to reply to this, because answering her question looks like compliance... but I figured best to play safe)
15:14 Me: their mum and i take turns according to a timetable, you don't have one? that's hard for u! i wonder if there is a convenient time your mum could help, so that we can meet for a drink or bite to eat. sounds like u need a break & some excitement! hehe
20:33 Her: I was busy looking after my daughter today since she is getting worse by caugh. I do not. It is not easy. I am better due to my family's help, especially my mum. Thanks for inviting. Are you going to develop a relationship or friendship with me?

This is bullshit, she is screening and compliance-building, she already knows I'm into her, because I complimented, added touch, asked about boyfriend etc. She seems a bit serious, no-fun.

But nevertheless... how could I respond to this? I need to maintain intrigue (I'm not going to state my intentions outright)... I've already set a compliance momentum by answering her previous questions... how do I deflect this without raising hackles?

Ray

Edit: I thought maybe reply as follows: "we'll see. you are cute though. how about xxxxx at xxxxx time". Will also have to consider logistics a bit -- I'm thinking of inviting her for a drink in a club, normally I wouldn't do this, but I want her to tell her mum she'll be out dancing until late and not to wait up. On the other hand I don't even know if she drinks, so this might be assuming. Maybe I should probe a bit more. Another option might be to ring her up by voice, if it's going to involve a complicated negotiation it might be easier to do it over voice than text. I dunno, lots of options.

 

[ray_zorse]

Update:

(next day)
14:31 Me: u move fast don't you first step is to arrange a meetup, and then let's see. i hope your daughter is better soon. take care of yourself too. we need u in top shape
14:44 Her: I will. You too. Are you busy working too? I do not have time for running a relationship as my daughter is too little she will bother the other one all the time. I can be your friend, but I am afraid I am available on next weekend, or some hours during weekday.

So, it's progressing. I'm paying no attention to the friend-type tone cos she can't possibly know me well enough to categorize based on our brief acquaintance. I have decided to call her up tonight around 8~8.30pm and see if we can nut it out, sounds like a bit of a negotiation will take place.

Ray

 

[thedude]

Hey guys did I screw this up? I'm gonna cut out the beginning to get to the juice stuff.


Her: I have work until 11 pm tonight. HBU?
Me: Working on my own project but later on is fine. Your bedtime isn't midnight right?
Her: What kinda project? And I have lots to do tomorrow. I just got out of a bad relationship...like this week so
Me: Just learning copywriting. If you want to relax thats fine
Her: WEll maybe we can go grab coffee or something tomorrow?
Me: Sure but I have my first ad due at 9 pm and I must get it done. Would late night work?
Her: There will be plenty of other days. late nights dont work for me because I have a tight schedule at the oment with work and my summer class
Me: Sounds good. Enjoy your weekend
HeRA little while later)- You too hey send me a picture of you lol
Me: You send one first

After the last text last night I have not gotten a response. Should I have just sent a nice pic of me?

 

[ray_zorse]

I wouldn't sweat it. She complies or gets NEXTed. I suppose if you really like her you can re-engage but I wouldn't.
Ray

 

[thedude]

Thanks man.

She just sent me a picture now actually

 

[lux7]

Update:

(next day)
14:31 Me: u move fast don't you first step is to arrange a meetup, and then let's see. i hope your daughter is better soon. take care of yourself too. we need u in top shape
14:44 Her: I will. You too. Are you busy working too? I do not have time for running a relationship as my daughter is too little she will bother the other one all the time. I can be your friend, but I am afraid I am available on next weekend, or some hours during weekday.

So, it's progressing. I'm paying no attention to the friend-type tone cos she can't possibly know me well enough to categorize based on our brief acquaintance. I have decided to call her up tonight around 8~8.30pm and see if we can nut it out, sounds like a bit of a negotiation will take place.

Ray

How did this one go man?

The messages seemed a bit long and I wouldn't reply to all her questions, just move on with your own agenda.

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

B. U. M. P.

LET THIS THREAD COME BACK TO LIFFEEEEEEE. I SUMMON YOU

Hekky

 

[Lucky]

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