FR Fr: Lunch date or friendzone?

[NotRealFakeDude]

Background: this girl is in my chemistry lab, which is two hours long once a week. I talk to her in class and she is very friendly, I take it as a good sign. After a few classes of bantering and teasing I suggest we get lunch and get her number.
I text her "Hey How's Your week? When are you free to get lunch later this week?"
We text a little bit and she agreed to get lunch the next friday.
Over the weekend i suggest we go out to the bars but she is busy.
She is very friendly in class and seems to be interested.

Date: We get to lunch and shes a little late and very apologetic. We get our food and sit down and start talking.
It's pretty light conversation and she is very talkative. We talk about some basic things like , how was your week, and we also talk about some more rapport building topics like, why do you go to school here, etc. I don't really flirt that much as it never felt right. it was a more friendly conversation.

How do i incorporate more flirting into conversations? How do i create sexual tension?

This has been happening a lot to me more lately. I talk to girls and they like me but just as a friend. I'm an attractive guy and i have a good sense of fashion. I get girls much more frequently now, but they are of low caliber and i want to be getting the high caliber girls.
How do i follow up this? If I'm actually friendzoned thats fine with me, but i do want to get with her. She said she would text me tonight if she was going to the bars, but ill be at a friends party, if she even texts me. I'm not too worried, as right now i have two FWB that i will probably spend the night with one sometime this weekend.

 

[GoethesFaust]

Id say chdck out the posts on the main site.

Stuff like Chase frames, Law of least Effort, Voice, body langauge, touching etc.

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-be-sexy-man

 

[HellAtlantic]

Touching is a major one. If you touch and don't apologize for accidental touching that starts to set you apart from guys who just want to admire from afar. I've been doing this with a current coworker. I got friendzoned/friendzoned myself with another coworker and I was keen to not repeat the same mistakes with someone else. I incorporate touching when we walk around the building for chit chats. I will text her sexual things. One of the things I texted her a day or two ago: she does witchcraft (I know, I know, don't ask lol) and has told me she's put spells on ppl that we work with (to get them sick if she doesn't like them) and I text her "hey be honest have you done that witchcraft on me cuz I've been having ummmm...interesting daydreams about u every day for the past two weeks wtf?" She texted me back "lol I totally put spells on ppl at work all the time" (she didn't 100% acknowledge the sexual part of my text like I hoped cuz I was gonna transition that to sexting if she were to ask me what my daydreams were, oh well) and I text back "well it worked, make it stop! Lol" I did this to let her know that I'm not her girlfriend and I have a dick and have sexual thoughts about her. That's way she knows about it and if she continues to hang out with me and interact with me it'll be on those terms.

So along with touching infuse your convos with sex when you can. Don't make every convo like that cuz then you risk looking like you *only* want to have sex with her. But do it enough so that when you do it she's not thinking "weird, where is this coming from?". Do it enough so that she's thinking "he's a sexual guy and I'm either gonna be fine with that or I'm not but at least he's not gonna tuck his dick between his legs and go tampon shopping with me."

We put ourselves in the friendzone by our failure to sexualize our interactions with women.

 

[RDawg]

- Notrealfakedude

Just a few comments on the whole situation....

Since, she had agreed to go on a date with you and grab lunch shows some sort of interest. Now, whether that means she wants to be your friend, boy-friend or just simply wants to fuck you is still to be determined. Based on the whole situation, in my opinion at least, your lover value has dropped significantly and you are quickly making your way into the friend zone. Now, whether your there yet or not is still up in the air. The only real way to find out is too start making moves and evaluate her reactions. For instance, when you were on the date with her for lunch, if you tried to kiss her after or tried to fuck her... What would her reaction be? Did she kiss back? Did she suck you off? Etc. This will give you a good indication of whether your not your in the friend zone or not. Personally, since you state your fundamentals are good and you already have 2 FWB, I think you can still pull something off here if you get a bit more ballsy and aggressive the next time your alone with her. And I think your overall game might benefit from being a bit more aggressive as well. At the end of the day... "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take".

How do i incorporate more flirting into conversations? How do i create sexual tension?

As for this... it really comes down to a number of factors such as your vibe (e.g., Are you comfortable and appear confident? What's the eye contact like? Is it sexual? Are you being playful and fun?), personality (are you witty? Playful Teasing?), touch (are you holding her hand? Grabbing her ass? etc.). Whatever it is there are plenty of ways to incorporate flirting into a conversation and also create sexual tension. As you get more experience and practice with these things, it will begin to come easier.

Hopefully this helps and you can pull something off with that broad still brother! Let me know how it goes and keeping slaying!

Rdawg

 

[NotRealFakeDude]

Thank you all for the feedback.
I talked to her a little bit after the date, bu then went silent for a few days till i saw her in person.
I teased her and flirted with her more and she was responsive, but only in a friendly, non sexual way. She is very friendly but nothing past that. I decided to just be friends with her and not pursue her. i have a LR to post later of a girl who is good friends with this girl, so it ended up getting me laid in the end.