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Background
I'm asking for help here because I have my first date after reading about GC. Normally on a date i'd just talk and slowly work toward being her boyfriend and taking her as my lover. I'm not used to working at a fast pace. I'm not looking for a girlfriend now however, so I have no room for failure. I've been invited to her place after she's done with classes today, even though we have a date on Friday, so i'm definitely certain it's possible to take her as a lover by then for sure.
I have no idea how to go about it. I'm familiar with the theory. Reading other's LRs so I know what I should be doing. I'm wondering if there's some things I can do mentally to make myself able to actually do it. There are bolded paragraphs that contain the essential information.
The Report
She approached me. I was just reading and she came by and asked if she could sit, the cafeteria was pretty packed. I of course said yes and put my book away to actually talk to her. She was alright, pretty face and blue eyes are always a plus. She initially asks about the book, and I say it's a bit like Game of Thrones. She doesn't watch the show, and I don't think she reads for pleasure. She did start pulling out all her books for school saying she was taking 18 credits a semester because she wants to graduate early, I glanced at them and correctly guessed that she was a History major. She then started telling me about her other interests, including psychology.
I asked her what about psychology she liked in particular since so many people were into it, and she said the weird stuff, like disorders, and she starts listing off a few. I tell her I might be a narcissist, and she's listing off the things that they do. At one point she asks me if I ever think to myself i'm pretty, forgetting who she was talking to. I seize upon the chance, and tell her "I can't say I ever find myself thinking i'm pretty, but sometimes i'll be looking in the mirror and say to myself, who's that handsome guy looking back at me." Banter continues for a bit, until she concludes that because I show none of the 5 signs of narcissism, that I am not. I respond with "I guess that just makes me confident then." She asks me how confident I am, and I clarify by asking her "You want me to prove myself."
Important->That was probably a mistake, I think that's about frame control? But I was bored and I like proving myself, so I decided how far I wanted to push it. I settled on asking her what she was doing later this week, then asked her on a date. She asked what I had in mind, and I said I didn't plan that, but that I was a very good spot finder, she looked confused. I clarified by saying that good at finding good spots to hang out and such. I probably could have pushed more, but I don't know if I have the experience for that, plus I haven't touched her yet, and the time that I went to touch her hand, she for some reason pulled back. If it was in response to me, I think that means she might be considering me boyfriend material, which I don't want, as she wants to spend time with me, but not let me touch her. After she accepted, she then said that she thought I was gay. I told her know and that it seems to be a common perception girls have regarding me, how do I change that? Or can I make it work for me? I said I knew about all the guys that liked me in high school, but not the girls. I got her number at this point, though I have yet to text it.
Concerns: After getting her number, she told me she had to change it because an ex broadcast-ed her old number on this weird app. she got a bunch of older guys and a 14 year old calling and texting her. She said that she could handle the older guys, but since she wanted to be a teacher, she had to change her number so she wouldn't have records of it on her phone. She does talk about her exes a lo too. Meanwhile i'm thinking to myself, my ex is like just across the room, but I keep my mouth shut. She also mentions that she smokes, I say oh in a really disappointed tone, and she says that she feels she just died a little bit in my eyes, and I give the little bit sign with my fingers.
We're both cat people however, and that's what we talk about next. It's nice. But the highlight of this is that she randomly asks me what's that, pointing to my shirt. Thinking I'd put something on it and forgotten about it, I look down to find nothing. I'd fallen for the oldest trick in the book! When I look back at her, eyebrows playfully bushed together, she gets this mischievous FIRE in her eyes. I have been looking for a girl with EXACTLY that, so I decided i'd overlooked my concerns for the moment. As we finish our food, I look around and say that i'm about done for the day. She says that she has another class still, and I say I just got out of my last class. Our Date is scheduled for Friday, but she says that I could come over after that if I wanted to, though she'd probably just be playing video games and doing studying.
I said I'd definitely think about it, and as we left she says I don't have your number, but I do have hers. So I told her, don't worry I'll change that. I have yet to do that however. I need some advice here, I know that the next time I see her I'm going to want to pull her, and I know I'll need to do a lot of kino and Deep diving. I'm concerned about my abilities to deep dive and overcome LMR though, as well that she's putting me into boyfriend material territory.
Important and I almost forgot I got to compliance test her. While we were talking about our cats. She was imitating her cat biting her finger. It's cute. After she's done, I ask her to do it again and she does, and then once more on her own. So she's definitely into me, I just need to figure out how not to fuck it up.
I'm asking for help here because I have my first date after reading about GC. Normally on a date i'd just talk and slowly work toward being her boyfriend and taking her as my lover. I'm not used to working at a fast pace. I'm not looking for a girlfriend now however, so I have no room for failure. I've been invited to her place after she's done with classes today, even though we have a date on Friday, so i'm definitely certain it's possible to take her as a lover by then for sure.
I have no idea how to go about it. I'm familiar with the theory. Reading other's LRs so I know what I should be doing. I'm wondering if there's some things I can do mentally to make myself able to actually do it. There are bolded paragraphs that contain the essential information.
The Report
She approached me. I was just reading and she came by and asked if she could sit, the cafeteria was pretty packed. I of course said yes and put my book away to actually talk to her. She was alright, pretty face and blue eyes are always a plus. She initially asks about the book, and I say it's a bit like Game of Thrones. She doesn't watch the show, and I don't think she reads for pleasure. She did start pulling out all her books for school saying she was taking 18 credits a semester because she wants to graduate early, I glanced at them and correctly guessed that she was a History major. She then started telling me about her other interests, including psychology.
I asked her what about psychology she liked in particular since so many people were into it, and she said the weird stuff, like disorders, and she starts listing off a few. I tell her I might be a narcissist, and she's listing off the things that they do. At one point she asks me if I ever think to myself i'm pretty, forgetting who she was talking to. I seize upon the chance, and tell her "I can't say I ever find myself thinking i'm pretty, but sometimes i'll be looking in the mirror and say to myself, who's that handsome guy looking back at me." Banter continues for a bit, until she concludes that because I show none of the 5 signs of narcissism, that I am not. I respond with "I guess that just makes me confident then." She asks me how confident I am, and I clarify by asking her "You want me to prove myself."
Important->That was probably a mistake, I think that's about frame control? But I was bored and I like proving myself, so I decided how far I wanted to push it. I settled on asking her what she was doing later this week, then asked her on a date. She asked what I had in mind, and I said I didn't plan that, but that I was a very good spot finder, she looked confused. I clarified by saying that good at finding good spots to hang out and such. I probably could have pushed more, but I don't know if I have the experience for that, plus I haven't touched her yet, and the time that I went to touch her hand, she for some reason pulled back. If it was in response to me, I think that means she might be considering me boyfriend material, which I don't want, as she wants to spend time with me, but not let me touch her. After she accepted, she then said that she thought I was gay. I told her know and that it seems to be a common perception girls have regarding me, how do I change that? Or can I make it work for me? I said I knew about all the guys that liked me in high school, but not the girls. I got her number at this point, though I have yet to text it.
Concerns: After getting her number, she told me she had to change it because an ex broadcast-ed her old number on this weird app. she got a bunch of older guys and a 14 year old calling and texting her. She said that she could handle the older guys, but since she wanted to be a teacher, she had to change her number so she wouldn't have records of it on her phone. She does talk about her exes a lo too. Meanwhile i'm thinking to myself, my ex is like just across the room, but I keep my mouth shut. She also mentions that she smokes, I say oh in a really disappointed tone, and she says that she feels she just died a little bit in my eyes, and I give the little bit sign with my fingers.
We're both cat people however, and that's what we talk about next. It's nice. But the highlight of this is that she randomly asks me what's that, pointing to my shirt. Thinking I'd put something on it and forgotten about it, I look down to find nothing. I'd fallen for the oldest trick in the book! When I look back at her, eyebrows playfully bushed together, she gets this mischievous FIRE in her eyes. I have been looking for a girl with EXACTLY that, so I decided i'd overlooked my concerns for the moment. As we finish our food, I look around and say that i'm about done for the day. She says that she has another class still, and I say I just got out of my last class. Our Date is scheduled for Friday, but she says that I could come over after that if I wanted to, though she'd probably just be playing video games and doing studying.
I said I'd definitely think about it, and as we left she says I don't have your number, but I do have hers. So I told her, don't worry I'll change that. I have yet to do that however. I need some advice here, I know that the next time I see her I'm going to want to pull her, and I know I'll need to do a lot of kino and Deep diving. I'm concerned about my abilities to deep dive and overcome LMR though, as well that she's putting me into boyfriend material territory.
Important and I almost forgot I got to compliance test her. While we were talking about our cats. She was imitating her cat biting her finger. It's cute. After she's done, I ask her to do it again and she does, and then once more on her own. So she's definitely into me, I just need to figure out how not to fuck it up.
