Gentlemen,
This is a field report, but I've placed it under beginners because I learned a huge lesson which I think beginners would benefit most from. As well as intermediate and advanced people but I'm pure beginner myself so that gives this board more leeway for me. The lesson is:
Get Chase's book: How to make girls Chase
So anyway I'm at the gym with my friends. We just having fun and eventually it gets late so we leave while its dark out. As we turn a corner we see a girl walking up. Normally we'd all discuss going to meet her and I'd be the only one to say hi since I'm the most eager one to make progress. So I decided to say hi to this girl.
Me: hi
Her: hi *no smile whatsoever. Seems to be slightly creeped out*
After she passed however, I realized that I recognised her and that I actually met her 5 years back.
Me: hey!
Her: *looks back even more creeped out*
Me: I remember you!
Her: *thinks for a second*
Me: ok. I'm gonna be really embarrassed if you say no but....did you go to blah blah blah high school?
Her: *finally relaxes and smiles*
That was years ago!!!!
After she said that, I realized that everything I was about to say was gonna peg me as too young for her since most of the conversational topics I had already thought of hinged on the hopes that she would remember her high school days enthusiastically. But when she said "that was years ago!!!!!!" she said it with an undertone. One which said "why are you wasting your time with this" in a playful manner.
Me: *laughs*
Nah, I think I met you there when you were still there. I was
just starting out when you were graduating.
I shouldn't have said that because it made the age difference worse. But I couldn't lie either in case she remembered me. I should have avoided the high school topic all together. But it was all I could think of.
Her: wow.
Me: yeah, I was a baby back then. But now....
Her: you still are one.
Me: *nervous laughter*
No. I've actually grown into a big strong man now.
Her: *uncovinced look*
At that point a friend of hers passed by and they spoke a little while and the friend left.
Me: so where are you going?
Her: I'm going to the store to buy snacks or bread or whatever.
Me: ok. Well my friends seem to be in a rush so you mind if I
grab your contacts?
Her: what?! No!!!!!
*leaves*
Her: Your asking for my numbers at your age?!
Her: *crosses the road*
Me: okay, can I at least get a hug?
Her: *laughs*
At least Facebook details. Not numbers. My Facebook
name's blah.
blah blah.
At which point I left disappointed knowing full well that I don't have a Facebook account.
Alright alright. I know that that was a pretty sad field report. But I didn't post this up here because of the interaction. I posted this up here because of what I did AFTER the interaction.
I analysed it.
And what was amazing is that after finishing Chase's book I could piece together what exactly I did wrong. Which one of my fundamentals were sub par, what were the wrong things to say and how I could have smoothly directed the conversation away from that.
I also realized that I asked for her numbers at the complete wrong moment and should have waited until I shifted her mindset to focussing on a highpoint instead of the age gap.
I said most of what I said out of nervousness. But had I relaxed and cleared my head instead, all of chase's lessons probably would have flowed through me and I would have nailed her. There were plenty of opportunities where I could have turned things around.
My analysing period was just so freaking amazing and exhilarating because not so long ago I was in a place where I couldn't even see what went wrong with the girl and why she rejected me and if she rejected me at all. Now I can see almost all of the mistakes (too many to post up) and what I actually did right. Even strategies on how I can fix things next time I see her and how I can progress even if I don't want to fix things with her.
My mind is blown beyond repair.
Anyway, the big lesson I have for the beginners who are still beginning like me is.....read the book......relax......and analyse afterwards.......your progress will be faster that way. Plus you'll have fun laughing at the whole interaction.
Most mistakes you'll be able to pick up on because you would have made them out of nervousness. Not ignorance. And don't worry about those mistakes that you're afraid the book didn't mention you'd do, you'll easily be able to spot and rectify them out of common sense.
Get the book: How to make girls chase.
You should get the other material as well if you can. The more the merrier
. But if you can only choose one then choose how to make girls chase to start off with. Any other material would be fine if you prefer it. This advice works so long as you've read the whole book and are keeping its rules IN MIND (i.e Not robotically carrying out the steps regardless of your situation) and stay relaxed.
Oh and please don't judge me too harshly on my performance. Nervousness is next on my to tackle list.
This is a field report, but I've placed it under beginners because I learned a huge lesson which I think beginners would benefit most from. As well as intermediate and advanced people but I'm pure beginner myself so that gives this board more leeway for me. The lesson is:
Get Chase's book: How to make girls Chase
So anyway I'm at the gym with my friends. We just having fun and eventually it gets late so we leave while its dark out. As we turn a corner we see a girl walking up. Normally we'd all discuss going to meet her and I'd be the only one to say hi since I'm the most eager one to make progress. So I decided to say hi to this girl.
Me: hi
Her: hi *no smile whatsoever. Seems to be slightly creeped out*
After she passed however, I realized that I recognised her and that I actually met her 5 years back.
Me: hey!
Her: *looks back even more creeped out*
Me: I remember you!
Her: *thinks for a second*
Me: ok. I'm gonna be really embarrassed if you say no but....did you go to blah blah blah high school?
Her: *finally relaxes and smiles*
That was years ago!!!!
After she said that, I realized that everything I was about to say was gonna peg me as too young for her since most of the conversational topics I had already thought of hinged on the hopes that she would remember her high school days enthusiastically. But when she said "that was years ago!!!!!!" she said it with an undertone. One which said "why are you wasting your time with this" in a playful manner.
Me: *laughs*
Nah, I think I met you there when you were still there. I was
just starting out when you were graduating.
I shouldn't have said that because it made the age difference worse. But I couldn't lie either in case she remembered me. I should have avoided the high school topic all together. But it was all I could think of.
Her: wow.
Me: yeah, I was a baby back then. But now....
Her: you still are one.
Me: *nervous laughter*
No. I've actually grown into a big strong man now.
Her: *uncovinced look*
At that point a friend of hers passed by and they spoke a little while and the friend left.
Me: so where are you going?
Her: I'm going to the store to buy snacks or bread or whatever.
Me: ok. Well my friends seem to be in a rush so you mind if I
grab your contacts?
Her: what?! No!!!!!
*leaves*
Her: Your asking for my numbers at your age?!
Her: *crosses the road*
Me: okay, can I at least get a hug?
Her: *laughs*
At least Facebook details. Not numbers. My Facebook
name's blah.
blah blah.
At which point I left disappointed knowing full well that I don't have a Facebook account.
Alright alright. I know that that was a pretty sad field report. But I didn't post this up here because of the interaction. I posted this up here because of what I did AFTER the interaction.
I analysed it.
And what was amazing is that after finishing Chase's book I could piece together what exactly I did wrong. Which one of my fundamentals were sub par, what were the wrong things to say and how I could have smoothly directed the conversation away from that.
I also realized that I asked for her numbers at the complete wrong moment and should have waited until I shifted her mindset to focussing on a highpoint instead of the age gap.
I said most of what I said out of nervousness. But had I relaxed and cleared my head instead, all of chase's lessons probably would have flowed through me and I would have nailed her. There were plenty of opportunities where I could have turned things around.
My analysing period was just so freaking amazing and exhilarating because not so long ago I was in a place where I couldn't even see what went wrong with the girl and why she rejected me and if she rejected me at all. Now I can see almost all of the mistakes (too many to post up) and what I actually did right. Even strategies on how I can fix things next time I see her and how I can progress even if I don't want to fix things with her.
My mind is blown beyond repair.
Anyway, the big lesson I have for the beginners who are still beginning like me is.....read the book......relax......and analyse afterwards.......your progress will be faster that way. Plus you'll have fun laughing at the whole interaction.
Most mistakes you'll be able to pick up on because you would have made them out of nervousness. Not ignorance. And don't worry about those mistakes that you're afraid the book didn't mention you'd do, you'll easily be able to spot and rectify them out of common sense.
Get the book: How to make girls chase.
You should get the other material as well if you can. The more the merrier
. But if you can only choose one then choose how to make girls chase to start off with. Any other material would be fine if you prefer it. This advice works so long as you've read the whole book and are keeping its rules IN MIND (i.e Not robotically carrying out the steps regardless of your situation) and stay relaxed. Oh and please don't judge me too harshly on my performance. Nervousness is next on my to tackle list.
