FR Fr: Sexy Waitress

[Cacc]

I spent the day at the pool and I started drinking. I don't usually do it but I started gettibg pretty hammered.

My drunk game is pretty insane. So me and the fam go to a restaurant.

This latin waitress is serving us and she's quite sexy. We flirt often and I can tell she likes me.

After we finish our meal my family leaves and I stay seated. At this point I'm pretty drunk but not enough to slober and slur like an idiot, just enough drunk .

I see her walking towards me and I motion her over

Me: Hey come here
Me: I gotta say you've got a really beautiful smile
Her: Thank you so much!
Me: how old are you?
Her: 19, you?
me: 20.
her: where are you from?
me: cuba, you?
her: im from puerto rico. you dont look cuban!
me: how come your spanish aint so good then? were you raised in an english household?
her: no my parents spoke spanish I just..*can't remember she spoke about her family in puerto rico*
me: Well i'll tell you what, maybe we can teach each other spanish sometime. whats ur number

I realize I dont have my phone on me

me: you got a paper to write your number?

She writes her number on the receipt.

her: you know ive worked here for 2 years i never had someone ask me for my number
me: why not?
her: *she said something I cant remember*
her: by the way my name's girl but you can call me girl.

Here she tells me she's got another table to serve and she starts walking away.

I tell her wait a minute come back here and she comes back quite quickly lol so I deep dive her a little more before sending her on her way because I saw her boss looking at her.

As I move towards the exit she runs into me one last time so I put my arm around the back of her waist and give her a kiss on the cheek and she tells me goodbye.


Thoughts: I'm too uptight while sober. When I'm drunk I'm the same personality just way more loose and I give more value.

All my "game" really is is being really kind and genuine while flirting, touching, and getting to know girls.

I'm super good looking and I rarely meet girls who feel indeferent about me yet I'm too in my head all the damn time. It really hurts my game.

 

[Fuck This]

Or it will teach you your rational mind is limiting you. Confidence is like a snowball, It builds up as it rolls, But early on a little heat can stop it. As it grows it just makes a crust and keeps rolling....

 

[Cacc]

FT,

That’s good advice. I let external validation dictate how confident I feel a lot of times and as you can guess my mood is rather unstable.

I started meditating yesterday and I think it will help me.

 

[mindful]

If you feel too uptight then try to be more playful (along with flirty) in your convos... try to make the convo fun but not in a clowny way.

Make statements /cold reads / tease her a little bit as opposed to asking direct questions... this will make the convo more fun and get her engaged. It's a bit of a balancing act and takes practice (combined with deep diving).

This has helped me as I get in my head a lot too.

Here's an example from your previous convo:

her: you know ive worked here for 2 years i never had someone ask me for my number
me: that's a shame (with a sexy smile) --statement
her: *she said something I cant remember*
her: by the way my name's girl but you can call me girl.