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Hey guys,
Been a while. I've been working on myself and doing different things. Anyways, I made it a habit to go out running/walking in the morning and then usually in the evening, as these are the prime times to meet people out on walks where I am.
While walking along a pathway near my place, I started up a conversation with a girl who was with her dog. Tbh, I was on point in my approach. I opened using a situational opener, saying how I loved going for walks out at that time of day and then complimented her dogs eyes (btw, this dog's eyes are super dope). She laughed at my jokes pretty hard and we had strong eye contact, her mentioning first how my eyes are blue (because I talked about her dog's eyes being blue). She also stood super close to me and before we even exchanged names she already told me "Yeah so do you want my number?" and then I teased her about how complicated her last name was and so on and so forth. When exchanging numbers, she moved herself directly next to me and pressed her side into me to put in her number. She did a quick test saying how yeah she was down being friends and it almost caught me (I've been rusty due to covid), but I threw on a time constraint saying "idk, I'm looking to get out of this town as soon as covid is over" (which is true). So that was good keeping me off bf territory. The reason she probably said this was 1) a quick shit test and 2) because she just moved here from another state. She brought up how we should hang out soon and I said yeah let's do a small picnic here at this park (she also lived nearby btw with her sister). And so it was planned.
So all good signs. Setting up a first "date" was super easy. Texted her my name as we walked away and she responded in less than a minute. The following day, I texted asking for her schedule and again, she replied in less than a minute with her schedule. So we planned on meeting today for a small picnic. I told her I'd bring small sandwiches and for her to bring fruit or nuts or chips. She said OK
and brought some fruit and other snacks today.
As I was super busy today fixing my car, I totally forgot to text her an anti-flake text in the morning, but she ended up texting me about 2 PM to see if we were still on to meet (we planned to meet at 6 PM). Initially, she had told me she wasn't sure if she'd have to work or not so that worked well.
We met at the park and she brought her dog (which I unthinking told her to do when we initially exchanged numbers). We sat down on a blanket I brought and just chatted. Lots of standard stuff with some deep diving and teasing. What I do for work, what she does, hopes and dreams, why she moved here and what she's looking for, etc. Then we both broke out the food and we had plenty of laughs and her dog constantly tried to (and at one point successfully) steal a bite. I brought up how it reminded me of the Lady and the Tramp movie as she then began to eat off the piece her dog ate. So she put half of the sandwich in her mouth and stuck it out for me to bite the other half. So I did and kinda did a kiss (sort of) before the sandwich broke off with pretty much 3/4 of it in my mouth, causing her to laugh. It was just a good time. She did ask a few times what my age was (I dodged to see if it mattered after asking her what she thought my age was). Eventually she guessed 23 and so I said yeah I'm 24. And so she relaxed because she's 24. I teased her about how I wasn't sure if she was even out of high school because she brought up how she only had a credit card for a little while (her dad was really controlling with money I guess). This got a laugh and she teased back. She also seemed to get hung up for a second on what I did for work. So I told her what I'm looking for (being honest) while also saying I do photography (also being honest, and this fits in well later on). But she wanted to work in a kind of similar smart-field (me working with medical devices and her wanting to be a vet while working as a nurse and chiropractor assistant). So I think we connected on that point.
I brought up how she challenged me to basketball when we met saying she sucked at it and she got excited (she is a high energy girl and loves the outdoors). We went to my car and I pulled out the basketballs. We played HORSE and PIG and she whopped my butt being honest. But at the same time, we did a ton of "accidental" touching running into each other and things. I made sure to maintain compliance throughout and at some point we sat down together on a nearby bench.
We talked some more and now the conversation was on relationships, hobbies, setting the right frames. I focused on coming across as non-judgmental and letting her know that I don't gossip and that I'm a safe person to talk with. She asked for clarification a few times, but overall it went well. She talked about how she's also a private person and that it was good to hear I didn't gossip or talk about the people I was with to others. I told her about how I'm currently with my parents (sticking with being honest) but also made sure she knew I was working on getting out. This seemed to bug her a little bit as she asked a few more questions about it but overall it wasn't a big sticking point (I had made plans before the date to go back to her place anyways).
She told me how she was in a bunch of relationships in college (anywhere from 1-3 years) and how she had just broke up with her ex before moving here because she found out after 3 years of dating that he had no goals in life, while she had a ton. She talked about how she enjoyed being single and I agreed with her that I also enjoy it. I also brought up during the conversation how I don't like to label things until both people are ready and how I enjoy my freedom being single and some other things to frame things. She agreed to it all pretty easily. I also told her about some of my goals as well. She related to a lot of them.
Then it got back to hobbies and she asked if I was going to take good pictures of her. So I said yeah of course and here's how I'd do it. The conversation then naturally flowed into her adventures and I asked her the wildest thing she's done. So then it got into talk about sex. She had sex on the stairs in highschool and did some other wild things in and after college. She asked about my sexual desires and experience and I filled her in on that a bit.
The conversation on sex continued as I told her we should walk around the park (we had been sitting for a while). She opened up to me about how her friend's have been telling her to sell nudes and stuff online to make money and how she was talking about how she didn't know enough about it. I told her a little bit on what I knew about it, letting her know I knew some girls who do stuff like that. So we talked about that some more before we talked on what turns us on during sex. She's apparently turned on by quite a bit of stuff and bragged to me about how she can squirt. She asked if I made girls squirt before and I shrugged and said "yeah" keeping eye contact before moving on in the conversation.
Eventually, she brought up how she had made plans to go hang out with her friend and her friend's place (this friend is a girl). I noticed she was looking at my reaction and kept chill and non-needy saying "yeah no problem. go have fun" (basically along those lines). And so our conversation on sex continued until she said she needed to head to her friend's place because her friend got home. She asked if I was going to walk her to her car and I teased her saying "what do you think I am, a gentlemen?" with a slight smirk. So we walked back and I put my arm around her and she stood pretty close to me.
She let her dog in the car. Following the continuing sex conversation on her making weird noises, I said how yeah I'm sure I'll hear those noises pretty soon anyways. She then said "oh so you're so confident huh" and I said "in what?" then she dogged the question a few more times before finally saying "you're so confident that you're going to hear me making strange noises soon huh" and I shrugged again and said "yeah and?" and held eye contact. She looked at me and I said "yeah I don't get your point" (playing it off dumb) and got a slight smile out of her. Basically, I kept myself the sexual prize and showed myself to be confident that yeah I'm going to fuck you, if not tonight, very soon.
She then hugged me and I positioned to see if she was looking for a kiss, but she wasn't (which was fine by me tbh). So I hugged back. She squeezed me tight and pressed into me pretty hard so I met her hug back with equal strength. She kept hugging me and I noticed she was smelling me. We both started to lean weirdly and I brought it up saying "why are we leaning" and she said "idk you started leaning so I started leaning" and we had a quick laugh.
Then she hugged me again in the same way for a long time, again I noticed her taking her time to smell me. Once the hug was over, she got in and I told her to have fun at her friend's place or wherever she was going. We held pretty good eye contact the whole time and finally I told her to keep in touch and she said yeah.
Then I headed back to my car and here I am. So no first date sex (I brought condoms in case). I'm chalking this up to a logistical issue (she had told me during our conversation how she had a bad habit of planning for multiple things at one time and was usually late to things). But the compliance, attraction (arousal), and similarity are there. Lots of eye contact, sex-talk, future projecting, touch, deep diving, etc. I wasn't needy for sex and though I think planning a second date is a pain in the ass, I'm alright with how this went.
The date lasted 2 hours total (the time from her sitting with me at the park to me heading for home).
What are your guys' thoughts? Do you have any advice for setting up the second meet or how I could've done this first meet up better? I'm thinking of being a bit aloof with setting up the second date (showing my interest in going out with a girl I haven't slept with yet to decrease over time).
As a reminder, I live with my parents and would have to go to her place. I'm thinking a good date would be to go on a walk at a nice hiking place I know and to take my camera and let her know. This way it can feed into the taking pictures of her and having sex in nature future projections we talked about. But probably going straight forward and making it super simple and quick to sex is best. Idk, ideas welcomed.
So yeah, it was nice to have this experience again since all this covid stuff. I really do love cold approach
NBW
Been a while. I've been working on myself and doing different things. Anyways, I made it a habit to go out running/walking in the morning and then usually in the evening, as these are the prime times to meet people out on walks where I am.
While walking along a pathway near my place, I started up a conversation with a girl who was with her dog. Tbh, I was on point in my approach. I opened using a situational opener, saying how I loved going for walks out at that time of day and then complimented her dogs eyes (btw, this dog's eyes are super dope). She laughed at my jokes pretty hard and we had strong eye contact, her mentioning first how my eyes are blue (because I talked about her dog's eyes being blue). She also stood super close to me and before we even exchanged names she already told me "Yeah so do you want my number?" and then I teased her about how complicated her last name was and so on and so forth. When exchanging numbers, she moved herself directly next to me and pressed her side into me to put in her number. She did a quick test saying how yeah she was down being friends and it almost caught me (I've been rusty due to covid), but I threw on a time constraint saying "idk, I'm looking to get out of this town as soon as covid is over" (which is true). So that was good keeping me off bf territory. The reason she probably said this was 1) a quick shit test and 2) because she just moved here from another state. She brought up how we should hang out soon and I said yeah let's do a small picnic here at this park (she also lived nearby btw with her sister). And so it was planned.
So all good signs. Setting up a first "date" was super easy. Texted her my name as we walked away and she responded in less than a minute. The following day, I texted asking for her schedule and again, she replied in less than a minute with her schedule. So we planned on meeting today for a small picnic. I told her I'd bring small sandwiches and for her to bring fruit or nuts or chips. She said OK
and brought some fruit and other snacks today.As I was super busy today fixing my car, I totally forgot to text her an anti-flake text in the morning, but she ended up texting me about 2 PM to see if we were still on to meet (we planned to meet at 6 PM). Initially, she had told me she wasn't sure if she'd have to work or not so that worked well.
We met at the park and she brought her dog (which I unthinking told her to do when we initially exchanged numbers). We sat down on a blanket I brought and just chatted. Lots of standard stuff with some deep diving and teasing. What I do for work, what she does, hopes and dreams, why she moved here and what she's looking for, etc. Then we both broke out the food and we had plenty of laughs and her dog constantly tried to (and at one point successfully) steal a bite. I brought up how it reminded me of the Lady and the Tramp movie as she then began to eat off the piece her dog ate. So she put half of the sandwich in her mouth and stuck it out for me to bite the other half. So I did and kinda did a kiss (sort of) before the sandwich broke off with pretty much 3/4 of it in my mouth, causing her to laugh. It was just a good time. She did ask a few times what my age was (I dodged to see if it mattered after asking her what she thought my age was). Eventually she guessed 23 and so I said yeah I'm 24. And so she relaxed because she's 24. I teased her about how I wasn't sure if she was even out of high school because she brought up how she only had a credit card for a little while (her dad was really controlling with money I guess). This got a laugh and she teased back. She also seemed to get hung up for a second on what I did for work. So I told her what I'm looking for (being honest) while also saying I do photography (also being honest, and this fits in well later on). But she wanted to work in a kind of similar smart-field (me working with medical devices and her wanting to be a vet while working as a nurse and chiropractor assistant). So I think we connected on that point.
I brought up how she challenged me to basketball when we met saying she sucked at it and she got excited (she is a high energy girl and loves the outdoors). We went to my car and I pulled out the basketballs. We played HORSE and PIG and she whopped my butt being honest. But at the same time, we did a ton of "accidental" touching running into each other and things. I made sure to maintain compliance throughout and at some point we sat down together on a nearby bench.
We talked some more and now the conversation was on relationships, hobbies, setting the right frames. I focused on coming across as non-judgmental and letting her know that I don't gossip and that I'm a safe person to talk with. She asked for clarification a few times, but overall it went well. She talked about how she's also a private person and that it was good to hear I didn't gossip or talk about the people I was with to others. I told her about how I'm currently with my parents (sticking with being honest) but also made sure she knew I was working on getting out. This seemed to bug her a little bit as she asked a few more questions about it but overall it wasn't a big sticking point (I had made plans before the date to go back to her place anyways).
She told me how she was in a bunch of relationships in college (anywhere from 1-3 years) and how she had just broke up with her ex before moving here because she found out after 3 years of dating that he had no goals in life, while she had a ton. She talked about how she enjoyed being single and I agreed with her that I also enjoy it. I also brought up during the conversation how I don't like to label things until both people are ready and how I enjoy my freedom being single and some other things to frame things. She agreed to it all pretty easily. I also told her about some of my goals as well. She related to a lot of them.
Then it got back to hobbies and she asked if I was going to take good pictures of her. So I said yeah of course and here's how I'd do it. The conversation then naturally flowed into her adventures and I asked her the wildest thing she's done. So then it got into talk about sex. She had sex on the stairs in highschool and did some other wild things in and after college. She asked about my sexual desires and experience and I filled her in on that a bit.
The conversation on sex continued as I told her we should walk around the park (we had been sitting for a while). She opened up to me about how her friend's have been telling her to sell nudes and stuff online to make money and how she was talking about how she didn't know enough about it. I told her a little bit on what I knew about it, letting her know I knew some girls who do stuff like that. So we talked about that some more before we talked on what turns us on during sex. She's apparently turned on by quite a bit of stuff and bragged to me about how she can squirt. She asked if I made girls squirt before and I shrugged and said "yeah" keeping eye contact before moving on in the conversation.
Eventually, she brought up how she had made plans to go hang out with her friend and her friend's place (this friend is a girl). I noticed she was looking at my reaction and kept chill and non-needy saying "yeah no problem. go have fun" (basically along those lines). And so our conversation on sex continued until she said she needed to head to her friend's place because her friend got home. She asked if I was going to walk her to her car and I teased her saying "what do you think I am, a gentlemen?" with a slight smirk. So we walked back and I put my arm around her and she stood pretty close to me.
She let her dog in the car. Following the continuing sex conversation on her making weird noises, I said how yeah I'm sure I'll hear those noises pretty soon anyways. She then said "oh so you're so confident huh" and I said "in what?" then she dogged the question a few more times before finally saying "you're so confident that you're going to hear me making strange noises soon huh" and I shrugged again and said "yeah and?" and held eye contact. She looked at me and I said "yeah I don't get your point" (playing it off dumb) and got a slight smile out of her. Basically, I kept myself the sexual prize and showed myself to be confident that yeah I'm going to fuck you, if not tonight, very soon.
She then hugged me and I positioned to see if she was looking for a kiss, but she wasn't (which was fine by me tbh). So I hugged back. She squeezed me tight and pressed into me pretty hard so I met her hug back with equal strength. She kept hugging me and I noticed she was smelling me. We both started to lean weirdly and I brought it up saying "why are we leaning" and she said "idk you started leaning so I started leaning" and we had a quick laugh.
Then she hugged me again in the same way for a long time, again I noticed her taking her time to smell me. Once the hug was over, she got in and I told her to have fun at her friend's place or wherever she was going. We held pretty good eye contact the whole time and finally I told her to keep in touch and she said yeah.
Then I headed back to my car and here I am. So no first date sex (I brought condoms in case). I'm chalking this up to a logistical issue (she had told me during our conversation how she had a bad habit of planning for multiple things at one time and was usually late to things). But the compliance, attraction (arousal), and similarity are there. Lots of eye contact, sex-talk, future projecting, touch, deep diving, etc. I wasn't needy for sex and though I think planning a second date is a pain in the ass, I'm alright with how this went.
The date lasted 2 hours total (the time from her sitting with me at the park to me heading for home).
What are your guys' thoughts? Do you have any advice for setting up the second meet or how I could've done this first meet up better? I'm thinking of being a bit aloof with setting up the second date (showing my interest in going out with a girl I haven't slept with yet to decrease over time).
As a reminder, I live with my parents and would have to go to her place. I'm thinking a good date would be to go on a walk at a nice hiking place I know and to take my camera and let her know. This way it can feed into the taking pictures of her and having sex in nature future projections we talked about. But probably going straight forward and making it super simple and quick to sex is best. Idk, ideas welcomed.
So yeah, it was nice to have this experience again since all this covid stuff. I really do love cold approach
NBW
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