I went to speak to a girl I liked who was about to leave.
Usually it's not the best scenario, but sometimes you realize too late.
It was good.
When we went to exchange contacts, I had her friend hold my drink to type my name. I wasn't too sure about that move, but kneeling down to put the drink on the floor seemed too much. I realized soon it was gonna weigh heavily though: the friend's face went into a micro-expression of disgust and resentment (I wasn't even drunk or anything). At that moment I thought "fuck, she's gonna talk so much trash behind my back as soon as they're alone".
After that I was warmer to her friend and trying to win her back but she kept being stand-offish. And of course, the more you are warm to someone who's cold towards you, the less good you look, so I relented soon and bid them farewell.
Now, my girl might have not replied me anyway, of course. But it was interesting though. Some years ago I would have probably barely noticed it, now it was a glaring (small-er) mistake which I realized right away and even tried to (unsuccessfully) correct.a
What I think was the problem is she felt insulted that her friend was the one being chosen, while she was relegated to the dirty tasks.
Usually it's not the best scenario, but sometimes you realize too late.
It was good.
When we went to exchange contacts, I had her friend hold my drink to type my name. I wasn't too sure about that move, but kneeling down to put the drink on the floor seemed too much. I realized soon it was gonna weigh heavily though: the friend's face went into a micro-expression of disgust and resentment (I wasn't even drunk or anything). At that moment I thought "fuck, she's gonna talk so much trash behind my back as soon as they're alone".
After that I was warmer to her friend and trying to win her back but she kept being stand-offish. And of course, the more you are warm to someone who's cold towards you, the less good you look, so I relented soon and bid them farewell.
Now, my girl might have not replied me anyway, of course. But it was interesting though. Some years ago I would have probably barely noticed it, now it was a glaring (small-er) mistake which I realized right away and even tried to (unsuccessfully) correct.a
What I think was the problem is she felt insulted that her friend was the one being chosen, while she was relegated to the dirty tasks.