Friend of a friend. Don't know why I fucked up.

[spear_kin]

Maybe I can get some feedback here.
A friend of some friends broke up with her boyfriend some time ago, I just got to know last Friday.
So I add her to IG and told her that I got some news. She bites and asks, to which I respond that I just knew about her being single now and that we should make the time worth it.

Then she says "excellent move" to which I respond "you coming over some afternoon soon would be an excellent move", to which she says "some day like today with some wine", to which I say "some day like today at 19?" (3 hours apart).

Then she goes totally evasive with a "hahah i don't know", I ask "what is it you don't know?" "scared?", and says she doesn't know if she could, then that she had plans for the night, etc.

I told her "I thought you didn't know", "then what about Tuesday? That's the only day I don't work out"

Got ghosted after that. It isn't obvious for me what went wrong so yeah, thought of posting here.

 

[politepilot]

I have no idea why but whenever I say how about blah blah another day, i get ghosted

then what about Tuesday?

Very similar, initially I thought it was the specific wording but that can’t be it

 

[POB]

Optmal structure:
Banther > Soft Close > Hard close

You went straight for the Hard Close, which triggered her ASD.
You should never put women on a "yes or no" sexual situation by text if you haven't slep with her yet.
It can be done?
Sure.
But it's low odds, especially if are not advanced and she is not a green.

Also she didn't actually agree to coming over...sometimes women say yes just to say it and check if you are into them.
If you bite, they are happy to have you as a spare and just go do other shit.

What you could've done:
Her: "some day like today with some wine"
You: "nice...but before I need to do some errands and cook simple stuff for the week.... would you care to join me and help me do the groceries? You can assist me picking the wine...plus I'll buy you some ice cream if you do : )"

You turn the strong sexual proposition into a harmless event date. Now the pressure is off of her and she is much more willing to say yes. Then ou run the date and do proven stuff like gambits, kino, etc. When you finally isolate, 90% if the work will be done.