Hey there,
I'd be interested in everyone's opinions on something that's been on my mind recently after a couple similar experiences over the past year or so.
For instance, recently I met a great girl through social circle. I like her and I can clearly tell she likes me too - she flirts a lot, responds well to my touches, eye-contact etc. But at some point she resists me, tells me she has a boyfriend. I persist, get a kiss, but later find out that she's in a serious longterm relationship where nothing is going wrong, she loves her boyfriend and even if I did manage to seduce her, it could probably mess her up (not to mention potential drama in the circle).
That's not something I wanted to do, so I called it off. However this is a girl I'm most likely going to keep seeing in my social circle and if she becomes single at some point (nothing lasts forever), things could change. On the other hand, she's a girl that's really clever, well-educated and has a lot of common interests with me and it'd be quite beneficial to have her even as a friend. However I'm afraid that if I become "just friends" with her, it's going to thwart any future romantic potential I might have.
Do I just have to decide between the two or is there a way to have both? I appreciate all responses, thanks!
I'd be interested in everyone's opinions on something that's been on my mind recently after a couple similar experiences over the past year or so.
For instance, recently I met a great girl through social circle. I like her and I can clearly tell she likes me too - she flirts a lot, responds well to my touches, eye-contact etc. But at some point she resists me, tells me she has a boyfriend. I persist, get a kiss, but later find out that she's in a serious longterm relationship where nothing is going wrong, she loves her boyfriend and even if I did manage to seduce her, it could probably mess her up (not to mention potential drama in the circle).
That's not something I wanted to do, so I called it off. However this is a girl I'm most likely going to keep seeing in my social circle and if she becomes single at some point (nothing lasts forever), things could change. On the other hand, she's a girl that's really clever, well-educated and has a lot of common interests with me and it'd be quite beneficial to have her even as a friend. However I'm afraid that if I become "just friends" with her, it's going to thwart any future romantic potential I might have.
Do I just have to decide between the two or is there a way to have both? I appreciate all responses, thanks!
Think of her as someone that was never yours to begin with, which is why you gotta date around and implicitly show her that you are romantic potential and that you are much higher in value in comparison to the guy she's with now.