Calls & Texts From agreeing to meet up to logistics ghost

[cruiser]

Hey guys!
So this is a consistent problem I’ve been running into which I’m not sure if there is any solution to this but what are your guys thoughts?

so majority of numbers I’m getting at the moment are from online dating.

banter -> get the number

I always say something along the lines of

yeah you seem interesting samantha,let’s meet up and grab and drink or something what’s ur digits let’s plan something!

her: okay I’m down! 123123123

and Then I’ll text her

hey it’s your bud cruiser!

and then do some small banter.

her: oh hey how was your day
Me: it’s been interesting I XYZ you?
Her: Hahahaha oh wow! I just finished baking
Me: no way what did you bake I bet cronuts
Her: just a quarantine hobby but I made cupcakes
Me: did you get into the banana bread phase of cooking yet?
Me: btw what’s ya sched look like let’s set something up!

and then boom ghost.

I don’t think I’m doing anything wrong. But all this build up and they just disappear and don’t wanna go through with it.

even send a follow up text the next day like something off topic but that doesn’t work either. Running into this a lot

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@cruiser dude! Never done online dating so I'm not the most qualified to answer this but think of it as a normal approach, get the date first and then ask for the number. If she's agreed to the date it makes sense to give the number.

Only other thing I would suggest is avoid further small talk on texting, she's gave you her number to schedule. Although you've changed platform you've told her why so you could run straight with it while her buying temperature is hot but again I'd organise the date first.

Hey it's cruiser
Hi cruiser, how was your day? (This is a distraction)
It's been interesting blah blah, add some consideration here but you'll tell her more in person, I'll tell you about it when we grab those drinks when are you free?

Asking about banana bread and following up on a schedule looks like an after thought. Should have been baking?? Sounds fun you'll have to tell me more about it over drinks. When are you free?

This keeps you focused on the goal of meeting her dude.

 

[Skills]

Your problem is you are going for a hard close...

you need a soft close (to feel were she is at similar to ping or lets say shit test, or force approach invite in text to get a reaction to were she is at) follow by a hard close

let me give you an example of soft close....

when she said she made cupcakes a soft close is "you should bring me a cup cake when we meet, so i can judge how good of a baker you are"

^ that is a soft close to see were the mood/feel is, and then either cont. banter if the mood yellow, address objections if mood red, or go for the hard close if the mood green (such as lets have a low pressure meet and greet to see if the vibe is there)

 

[cruiser]

Your problem is you are going for a hard close...

you need a soft close (to feel were she is at similar to ping or lets say shit test, or force approach invite in text to get a reaction to were she is at) follow by a hard close

let me give you an example of soft close....

when she said she made cupcakes a soft close is "you should bring me a cup cake when we meet, so i can judge how good of a baker you are"

^ that is a soft close to see were the mood/feel is, and then either cont. banter if the mood yellow, address objections if mood red, or go for the hard close if the mood green (such as lets have a low pressure meet and greet to see if the vibe is there)

Oooh wow I never realized that!!! Also that sounds way way more calibrated than just going for it.

so now with the girls I tried hard closing how do you bring them back to go for a close? If they just ghosted at what’s ur sched like

 

[Skills]

Oooh wow I never realized that!!! Also that sounds way way more calibrated than just going for it.

so now with the girls I tried hard closing how do you bring them back to go for a close? If they just ghosted at what’s ur sched like

you need to change thread and re- open them...

hey hb it seems we lost momemtum" how is your friday going"

"i saw something that reminded me of you"


^ this are variations of @COCPORN