From lame ass to badass. My transformation

[kristian]

I still remember what Pretty Decent told me about mixing humor and deep dive. I am in a way applying this a lot more in my interactions making them a lot more fun. The only thing I lack now are results, but that's mostly because I don't approach as I should. However my improved fundamentals make me a lot more attractive which is good, but I still have some issues finding the girls that are most open to me.

I also realized one important aspect; girls sexual availability. The ones that decline are the ones that are kind of entering a relationship. They often want to see how it ends before resuming with me, but by that time (especially if life intervenes) they lose interest or another guy appears. I still need more data points on this, but this is the general feeling I get from talking to female friends and being witness to it myself. I could go around this, but that needs tighter game, which I still need to practice on.

On another note: I had two approaches today and a meeting with a good female friend.

The blonde reading a magazine.

She looks at me as I pass by. I start a conversation.
Me: So what kind of clothes are you going to buy then? (Referring to the pictures she was looking at).
Her: I haven't decided yet. I am only looking for some inspiration for Christmas. (Smiling)
Me: That's nice. I kind of work for the clothing industry. Did you know that Giorgio Armani used to work as a window dresser before he started designing? A close friend persuaded him to start his own clothing line.
Her: I didn't that's quite interesting.

We chatted a bit more, but I wasn't attracted to her that much.This was more of a warmup set I wanted to do.

Young blonde girl looking at me
So after this I started working on my own projects. I see a girl casting glances at me and I stare back. I see that she is attracted so I just approach.

Me: Hi. I saw you from across the room and I had to come over and tell you I really find you attractive.
Her: (Clearly flattered): Well thank you.
Me: So what are you reading?

We go back and forth for a while. With banter and so on. I ask her if she is single and she tells me she has a boyfriend. Nevermind, I got a good chance of practicing and working on my weaker points.

I also met one of my female friends and got a lot of opportunities to rehearse sexual tension. It was fun, I even tried to kiss her several times only for her to back off. That's fine because I managed to turn her on several times. She later tells me she is involved with a mutual friend of us, and in a love-triangle. We get to discuss this a lot and agree to meet again pretty soon.

Things I can improve:
Approaching more girls.
Looking for IOIs.
Texting.

Things I am doing better:
Tension and humor.
Moving forward.
Fundamentals.
Screening out uninterested women.
Physicality.

 

[kristian]

So I've come to realize the importance of writing field reports. It keeps me going and looking for adventures in order to write exciting content.

Yesterday was one of those days. I think I approached 20 girls in total but the first part of the day was not good at all. Everything went south. It became so bad that I even couldn't open a girl without scaring her off. At first, I did not know why, so I kept going at it seeking for good receptions. And then it hit me; I was approaching seeking good receptions and they could feel it.

So I went home to rest, trying to analyze why I couldn't get past a simple hi. "I am at least getting signs of interest, " I thought to myself, but I was trying to see if something about my techniques could be done differently.

But at this stage of my game, it has nothing to do with techniques as it has to do with energy. Looking for validation makes me seem needy and neediness is the worst thing that could happen to me. The question I was asking myself was, why do I feel this way? I realized that it's about a month since my last ONS and I have been hanging out with Audur making me approach a lot less. I understood that I needed to increase my approach rate in order to keep increasing my learning curve. So after hanging out with a good friend of mine, we decided to go out and have fun - and see if we could learn a couple of new lessons.

The dancing club:
The music wasn't all that (techno) and girls kept dancing in groups, almost pulling away from guys that approached. My goal was to dance with them anyways, in order to learn as much as possible. I got a lot of rejections though (one of the reasons I don't like dancing), but my friend wanted to get some new
reference points. So I kept dancing and talking to girls anyways (girls that just ran away from me).

One little note: When I am high energy and talkative, guys tend to use some tactics to put you down. A couple of guys asked us if we had MDMA and another one (who was afraid we would steal her girl) started saying we where gay. We played along, of course making the girl even more giggly and into us.

On our way out I see a blonde girl staring at me. She was waiting in line as I was leaving the venue.

Me: I really appreciate your style.
Her: Thank you.
Me: You really look like Bertine Zetlitz (artist). Kristian is my name.
Her: Wow, my name is Silje.

I just realized that she was really into me. But I wanted to get elsewhere than a dance club. I say that I have to get elsewhere, but that I wanted to go back and talk. She seemed very excited.

The next dancing club
This was a lot more low-key than the previous place. But I am realizing that girls dancing are not the best sets to approach. My friend Richie, who wanted to practice opening mixed sets went his way to do this. While I was trying to see if I could get some new reference points being direct.

Just before we were about to leave the club I see this stunning blonde wearing a tight silk shirt, accentuating her slim, curvaceous body. She was dancing alone, while her friend was flirting with a guy. I went directly and gave her a compliment, touching her shirt and her body. She smiles and tells me she is from Asker and works at a natural park nearby (one of my favorites). We deep dive a bit and talk about her job, nature and her hometown (I was still being very physical, mind you).

Her: you are a crazy, exciting guy. Did you know that?
Me: That's what I hear. (I lift her up).
Her: (Laughs) So that's your move?
Me: Haven't you seen the movie Crazy, stupid, love?
Her: So I guess that makes you Ryan Gosling?
Me: A little more tan and more handsome version, that is.
Her: You are crazy (laughs again).

I try to kiss her, but she pulls a little away. Her friend comes to rescue her. But she says she is fine.
I try to move her away. She declines. I persist. She tells me she is seeing someone. I still insist. She gives me her contact info. And I realize that I can go to a bar nearby to see if I can approach a bit more before the place closes.

The redhead at the bar

So we go to the bar 50 meter from my house. I tell Richie I have to go to the bathroom.
When I get back I see him talking to a new group of people (just love how he deliberate practice). I join him and see that I instantly have a connection with one of the girls. She asks me if I want to go outside to smoke (and see this as an invitation to escalate).

I don't remember as much what we were saying. I just wanted to practice following my instincts, moving fast and escalating sexual tension.

I start kissing her. She turns away but still let me kiss her cheek.

Her: I have a boyfriend
Me: So where is he?
Her: He is actually in London.
Her: Aaaand (smiling) you must be younger than me.
Me: I am 30 years old.
Her: (Excited and in awe). No way. You look so young!
Me: I will prove it to you.

I see that the bar is closing and Richie starts leaving the venue. I ask him to wait for a little outside. I just had to close this girl a way or another.

Me: (Showing her my id)
Her: And I am 24, I would never believe you were so young.
Me: I really like your body (starts touching her heavy, she let me. I put her arms on my neck).

We were flirting a lot now. But she tells me she has to sleep over at her friend's place. I still try to get her home. She declines. I insist.

The next day I set up a date for the following monday. My first from nightgame actually.

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I still have to work on my texting game. Which need some improvements. Other than that, I see that I need more experience to know what to improve on.
I feel like flirting and sexual tension with humor is still a skill I need to work on. I will go to a party this night and will have these to thing to work on.

*Sexual tension and humor with physical escalation.
*Keeping my cool. Staying grounded and sprezzatura.

Things I am doing well:
Opening
Sexual tension
Staying unfazed to rejections

 

[kristian]

I went outside on my way to write this post. And compliment a tall girl walking past me. She starts blushing, almost in disbelief. I guessed she was from Bergen and she was. She said she was running late for school. So I left it at that.

Another girl passes me by, with a guy. She almost smiles but I look at my phone instead of smiling back/saying hi.

Note: I guess I have to talk and approach girls that send me signs of interest more often. Instead of thinking negatively.

The french girl:
And as I pass a sports shop an attractive blonde girl goes out. I reach her and ask her what she bought.

Her: A T-shirt.
Me: You look like one of those who buys t-shirts (smiling).
Her: Haha, I guess so.
Me: I know, I have that power to know what people do, haha. So you are from Aalesund? (after listening to her accent).
Her: Haha, I can see that. No I am actually from France.
Me: No, way. You have no accent at all. So what are you doing here in Norway?
Her: I am taking my PHD.
Me: Let me guess. Mathematics or physics?
Her: No. Biology.
Me: A nerdy guy, huh? Ive been warned about you?
Her: laughs.

Note: I've been told from the other guys over here that switching between banter/humor, chase frames and deep dive are vital ingredients in creating intrigue. I am currently working on these skills, making my interactions a lot better.

I realize I need to take this interaction a bit further. But this time I need to talk as little about myself as possible. She asks me what I do. She guesses music, which I said I did. She also says she will spend the day at Starbucks working on her paper. I said I had to go to to the post office and tell her to wait for me over there.

When I get back we start talking about her job (she is researching ways to make building eco-friendly). I start playing with that:

Me: That's what I like about smart people. I knew I've been warned about you, but you make it easier to just be inside an eco-friendly building.
Her: (Laughs) And I would never have all the inspiration to write my Ph.D. without music from you guys!

I reward her with light touches on the arm, back and hand. I make sure I touch it slightly and move my hand away before she objects. It seemed to work because as I was staring deeply into her eyes, she reciprocated my stare. I can clearly see that she is very attracted to me by now, but need to find out if she is taken or not.

I ask her the following question: "Are you helplessly in love with someone at the moment?" This get me to know of she is emotionally invested in a guy or not. She could be kind of seeing someone or have a boyfriend she is not that invested in. If so, I can move forward.

Her: Yes. I've been visiting my boyfriend right now. We live apart from each other and it's not always easy. I miss him a lot when we are apart.
Me: He has to be careful, though. Some guy might just steal you away.
Her: (laughs)

I stare into her eyes and give her a compliment and she starts becoming nervous (good). We chat a bit more. I leave her warmly.

The northern Norwegian one:

As I go to the local cafeteria I spot my crush. I am getting very good at just nex-ting these girls ( as I found out she has a boyfriend) so I just completely ignored her. I also spot another girl I've been trying to arrange a meeting with since 2014 (!). I sit at a table beside her, still not looking her way and ask the girl that's sitting there if I can join. I start a chat with her and as she leaves the 2014-girl pokes me and ask me how I am doing.

Me: I am doing very well. (Take her hand and hold it caressingly).
Her: OMG, your hands are so warm.
Me: (laughs) I know, I have that power you know.

I start teasing her for always not having (or finding the time) to meet up. She says she will soon leave for London. She is a professional saxophonist and travels a lot just to be in town for a couple of days max.

Me: You can't blame a brother for trying, though. Let me tell you what: Well text later today and set up a meeting.
Her: haha, I know. But I am crashing at a friends place and don't have any keys. I cant be out late.
Me: If that so, I have the nicest couch for short people (teasing). So you and your sex... saxophone can sleep sound.
Her: (Laughs)

Again: I touch, give compliments and laugh at high points. And realize that these are great to escalate. I also understand the importance of playfulness and banter in my interactions. In order to move things forward and escalating.

We agree to text later today. I just did so, and she can't meet me. I guess I am still not the type of guy she "breaks the rules" for. So no more talking to her as more than an acquaintance.

The half Italian one
So I continue walking and see a cute young girl looking back at me and smiling. I just made myself a new promise; to approach every girl sending me IOIs that I find cute. I go to her. Introduce myself.

Me: I see you are in a rush?
Her: Not at all (smiles)

Note: Another reason for going for girls that walk fast. You never know if she is actually in a rush and even so, she could be attracted to you and "break the rules".

She tells me she is Italian and Danish and I make her guess where I have my heritage from. I find out she lived in Spain and speaks Spanish fluently. I see this as an opportunity to escalate further. As she starts talking to me in Italian, and me responding in Spanish I move closer and starts touching a lot more.

Me: I guess we need to teach each other languages then.
Her: I guess so. That would be nice to do.

And she asks me to give me her number. I never had it happened to me before, but I guess my fundamentals and reading her signs of interest made her chase. That combo is nice. I agree to meet text her later and set-up a date (since she was on her way to school).

Other approaches
I talked to sex more girls today, none of this interaction where so memorable, but I can see the following patterns.
Genuine compliments are the best ways to open a girl.
Sometimes a simple hi works wonders as well. But I need to let her know I am romantically interested with my eyes and touch (which speaks louder than words if used correctly).

The transition from banter to a conversation is key here. I see that their interest spikes when I do this successfully.
High points are great to escalate. I can touch, stare deeply into her eyes or give a compliment after bantering.
I am making sure to talk as little about myself as possible to create even more intrigue. Make her work and invest, not the other way around.

So now I need to find these girls I can have an instant date with. And apply the same things in night game.

Things to improve:
More approaches. More touch. More daring to take crazy shots.

Things I did well:
Mixing banter and flirting with sexual tension and deep dive.
Touch.
Moving things forward.

I have more to write about (Audur leaving me, a new girl entering my life for a short period of time more approaches) but that will be for the next post.

 

[kristian]

Her: When I first got to know you, I initially thought you were too cool for me. I mean I did like you, especially when I met you the first time. You were mysterious, sitting by yourself and singing at the party. And when you left I had so much curiosity that I really wanted to see you again.

Her: I guess I knew I wanted you when you touched me in the small of the back. You were so direct and yourself and I knew I had a shot when this happened.

Post-coital conversations is a new thing in my repertoire and a very educational. Here I was, thinking I was the lucky one to have a shot on a high-quality girl. I've seen her from my extended social circle (she is a friend of a friend of mine) and I knew that she was someone a lot of guys was after. I've been playing around with chase dynamics lately with, so far, good results. I just did not know that my fundamentals alone got her pretty excited to meet me. Thank you guys.

The situation
I'm not the best at social circle game, but I know how it often works here in Norway. From my experience with cold approach and talks with countless women, I know that 98% of people meet each other that way and a lot do it on bars as well. I have been doing the latter lately and have some reference points in handling objections, staying unfazed to interruptions and deep diving despite time constraints and cockblocks.

Let me call this girl Johanna. She is a bit taller than me, blonde and have an athletic body with well-defined muscle tone. She is 31 years old and is one of those girls that seem to light almost every social gathering. I've seen her for afar (social media), guys that have a crush on her tell me stories about how cool and vibrant she is. I did not think a lot about her other than knowing who she was.

Our first encounter
This is actually our second and but the first in her mind (I cold approached her on an earlier occasion, but she doesn't remember).
I was sitting at a pre-party with some friends when she arrives. I knew the other guys would start chasing as soon as she entered the room (we were four guys) so I decided to just close my eyes, sing to Michael Jackson and enjoy the moment. I stood up and introduced myself very warmly, before excusing myself and leaving the party.

Little did I know that this introduction made a great impact on her.

Second encounter
A couple of months later I throw a party with one of my friends who also is one of her orbiters (he is relatively good with women, but always had an eye for Johanna).
She appears and we start talking a bit, I see that my other friend also likes her and starts flirting with her igniting a love triangle drama between him and the orbiter.
I did not mind this happening since I still was dating Audur (Icelandic girl) and always trying to approach new women. I've also been warned from gaming social circle girls since words can get around and drama can start happening (as it did with these two guys). So I just kept my distance and minded my own business.

Third encounter
This is when the fun stuff starts happening. Her orbiter friend throws a birthday party and I was already flirty with several girls when she arrives. I guess my pre-selection, combined with the mystery of not chasing her (like all the other guys do) made her very interested in me. She approaches me and we start flirting heavily.
This is when I touch her on the small of her back making her very excited. Some of her orbiter friends cockblock us and I start to flirt with her friend instead who was very into me.

I also realize how having the alpha- females interest of a certain social group makes the other girls like me as well. One of her closest friends starts chasing me hard and I almost hooked up with her only to be "saved" by Audur since she wanted to meet me. I don't know if I would get Johanna if I hooked up with her friend and word got around. If some of you guys have an opinion about this, please comment. Since I do not have any reference points doing so.

Fourth encounter
Again, I was not chasing at all and let the other guys fight for her. Her friend (the one that chased me) threw another party inviting me as well. I felt like I was already a integral part of the group thanks to my deep diving and story-telling skills. And when I arrived some of her other friends were very curious about me. Several of them were also flirting a lot (while her orbiter friend was chasing her hard).
Before this encounter we where already texting about meeting up.

Me: (Touching her face). I am so glad to see you Johanna. You know that I am a little bit in love with you, doncha? (Teasing her as well).
Her: Let's meet up next week I would love to see get to know you a bit better.

The thing here is we only had four small conversations, always ending them on a high point and always having to deal with interruptions. I laughed at this of course, seeing the other guys chasing and almost acting like clowns just to get her. My goal here was to be charming, enticing and mysterious.

Fith encounter
So we finally meet. She tells me is feeling sick, and ask me if it's okay if we could hang out at my place instead (I saw this as an invitation for seduction).
As we lay in my bed I tried to kiss her. Several times. She tells me she can't since she is in a love-triangle drama (the one with my friends) and doesn't want to complicate it further with getting involved with me. I jokingly agreed, only to try to escalate a couple of more times. After she left I thought I lost her. Missed escalation points. Fuck me.

But it turns out that social circle works a little different than cold approach. In social circle girls are more forgiving of mistakes.

The sex and the aftermath
Sex did not happen before out fourth intimate encounter. On our second meeting, we kissed. But I couldn't get past fingering her a bit before we ended up having sex on our seventh encounter. Now we are lovers and she sends me a lot of cute texts every day. I think she is a little in love with me.

This is my first time infiltrating, flirting and seducing a girl on a tight social circle. And even with me moving as fast as I could (and keeping our interactions prior to our meeting short and exciting). It wasn't difficult to deal with LMR the day we had sex (since I think she already made her mind about us getting together). She is traveling to India in a couple of weeks. And want us to be lovers and nothing more (which is fine for me). However, this is the first time I encountered what in my eyes is a high-quality girl. She is beautiful, caring, the alpha of her group and has a dynamic personality. If circumstances were different, I would make her chase me to become my girlfriend. She tells me that she likes my care-free nature (thanks to all the interactions with women the past year) and that I seem strong and powerful.

We agreed to keep our romance secret (I think if words got around, a lot of things could go wrong), but we are sensing her orbiter friend is getting a sense of what is happening.

And one more thing: I stole her under her orbiters nose. While they were busy fighting for her, I was busy seducing her. Nothing feels more rewarding than being care-free, having options and moving as fast as possible. A very educational experience actually, and a confidence booster to know that a gorgeous girl wants you.

Things I could improve:
I could have moved faster

Things I did well

Being mysterious
Sprezzatura
Keeping conversations short and instead worry about flirting with other girls no matter what (pre-selection)
Discretion
Making her orgasm each time we had sex (twice)
Good fundamentals

 

[kristian]

I'm starting to see the effects of visualization. I've only done it for a week now 20 minutes every day. The cue here is low brainwaves. I am therefore using binaural delta beats it puts me in trance making the pictures in my mind a lot more vivid.

Thanks to this, when I see a girl I am really attracted to, my body starts moving towards her. Almost automatically, it feels harder not to approach. And if I talk myself out of it, I feel a little bad for letting the chance go.

Another thing I am seeing is also how I act when girls reject me or start acting bitchy. Instead of being afraid of it, I start almost laughing at their responses. I've come to realize that I am approaching girls as a skill development journey. This makes me more outcome independent.

So I went out yesterday with a friend of mine and her friends. I opened 6 sets. None, but one was positive, but due to logistics and hanging out with my friends, I couldn't seem to move the interaction forward.

The two bitchy looking girls
Set was two bitchy looking women. I approached them giving the first girl a compliment. She smiles and says thanks, the other girl is still looking bitchy. I try to make some conversation trying to figure out where they are from. They both say northern Norway, and tell me that they have bfs. I still talk to them figuring out it is better to be in set even if things aren't going my way from the outset. I also had a self-amusement-vibe within I wanted to explore even more. Both girls, especially the one I gave the complimented started to ask me questions and kind of investing. The bitchy one kept being bitchy and I didn't find any way to take her from the table. So I decided to very warmly leave.

The J-lo lookalike
On my way out, I spotted a latin-looking girl with 4 or 5 guys. I want towards her and tell her she reminds me of J-lo. She instantly smiles and I introduce myself. It turns out she is latina and she is going out with her work. I didn't move the interaction forward since my friends were already on their way out waiting for me. No worries, I figured out the evening was still very young.

I was very tired. But being relatively new at night game, and still not being able to pull from clubs, I wanted to practice two aspects; resiliency and approaching being tired.

"The lesbian couple"
We end up at a gay club. I've read somewhere that these places are good at meeting women since they more often have their guard down. We go to the dance floor and I spot a cute blonde looking at me. I see this as an invitation to approach and start a conversation with her. I also introduce myself to her friend who says:

Thank you. We are a lesbian couple. (in a bitchy tone)

Yeah right....

Even after getting this rebuff, I still manage to talk to the girl in interest. But she was kind of trapped by her friend, so I excuse myself figuring out I could approach more girls.

The one with the jealous girlfriend
The thing with gay bars that I've been noticing is the amount of "blonde, wild bombshells". They are often in groups with gay guys and often go out wearing sexy clothes. Fun to watch how they show off, but also intimidating to approach.

I was too tired and every time I spotted a girl I wanted to talk to (from the other side of the room), she disappeared in the crowd when I went after her. So I was leaning against the wall looking at my friends dancing when I notice a cute blonde girl staring at me. I smiled. She smiled back so I went over to start a conversation.

Me: I saw you across the room. I just had to come over and tell you I really love your smile. I'm Kristian.
Her: Thank you. Carol here (smiling).
Me: So how have the nights been?
Her: It's been very good, actually. We love this place.

I could have talked to her friend as well. Maybe that could make it easier. Her friend starts saying something in a strict voice and wanders off. Carol look at me in disbelief. Smiles and kiss me on the cheek.

Her: I am sorry. My friend is not feeling well. I have to help her. (Wanders off).

I should find ways to combat this, especially when girls are out together. It seems that jealousy is a big thing among girls here in Norway. I did not have that problem before I started working relentlessly on my fundamentals. Girls were sweet but dismissive. Now they either like me very much or are totally dismissive (bitchy) when I approach. Jealousy is also more common. I guess I need to improve my fundamentals even further to become the guy who more often gets warm receptions.

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Better game. More approaches. Mindfulness and changing the way I see girls is giving me results. I am more detached of outcomes and I am more concerned about developing the skill as a seducer more than chasing women. For the first time I am also seeing things I never saw, even a couple of weeks ago; chase dynamics. What I mean is that I am more aware of my own chasing and looking for ways to make girls chase me more. I've trained myself to such a degree that I often stop myself even before considering chasing the girl. I am also seeing how guys chase girls the way I did, it's almost painful to see.

Especially when the girl is uninterested....

Remember the alpha-female from the social group I ended in bed with?

We are lovers now and she really digs me. She gives me so many compliments its almost ridiculous. But she also says she never fall in love and that "this is temporary" making me even more attached to her. The sex we have is great and she even ditches meeting friends just to be with me.

The thing is, I've become a little hooked and just want to spend every waking moment with her. This happened really fast so I have to very often remind myself that my first priority is meeting new girls and developing my skill set. The same skill set that got her attracted and seduced in the first place.

At the same time, Audur seems to suffer a lot after leaving me when she realized that I couldn't be monogamous. She often sends me messages telling me she misses me and hopes everything is okay. She started dating another guy but is also realizing my value. She believes I am the best she ever met which, in her eyes, might be true. The thing both Audur and the new girl doesn't realize is how hard I worked on myself to become the character I am now.

My fundamentals are so improved I turn heads when I enter almost any given room. I can outcompete a lot of guys now. My game needs more tweaks however. And I still have issues getting girls horny (this is, however, improving after I started to visualize). Another thing that I need to get better on is the amount of approaching. Night game is still confusing.... And a little intimidating.

Things I need to improve on

Sexual state. Getting girls horny.
Dealing with interruptions (night game).
Not skipping the hottest girls.
Better and improved visualization skills
More approaches.
Being a little unavailable with my new lover.

Things I am good at
Staying humble. Handling rejections.
Emotional control.
More comfortable in my own skin.
Fundamentals.

 

[kristian]

The thing about falling in love is that I totally feel out of control... Pick-up is one thing, the girl can either take it or leave it. If she does the latter it does not affect me that much. It's a bit frustrating not being chill around this new girl, even as I am attracting and meeting new girls almost every week.

I can't put a finger on it but it does affect my desire to meet new girls. So I've done a lot of visualization lately which works (like how girls act when I imagine conquering them when we are talking about trivial things) but in my mind, I just want to be with her - a clear sign that I am far away from where I want to be; that guy who knows he can replace her or find someone as amazing if something goes wrong.

You see, this type of girl, the ones with dynamic personality, athletic body, nice features and interested in topics that I love, have been next to unattainable (at least from my perspective) before. A part of me is thrilled to have her coming over (which has been a lot lately, actually every day), but there is also a part that does not believe I deserve her. That makes me act a little needy from time to time and I am working really hard to just be myself around her (meditation, meeting new women has helped a lot). It seems like I need to work a little more on my abundance.

So she is willing to let me meet other girls. She also says she does not have any desire to meet guys at all. And she does not want us to be official yet, she says she see our relationship as a spiritual training ground but simultaneously introducing me to all her friends (who seem pretty excited when we meet). This is totally different from what I am used to from girls (who try to rope me into a relationship rather quickly). Now I am the one hoping to get together with her. I guess I never felt this way before.

So after some sleepless nights. Amazing sex and connection with this girl, I've come to the conclusion that I am on this to learn how to deal with a girl of that caliber. Its highly educational and she gives me the opportunity to have a meaningful relationship to retreat to. And she is traveling to India for a couple of months, this will give me a lot of time to upgrade like I told her earlier today. That got her quite excited. She praises me so much its getting crazy.

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So since I've been in love (for the first time in my life) my hunger for girls have dropped a little (a lot actually), but when I really go out and approach, they seem easier and girls hook a lot faster. I am playing my best game and I've even had a couple of dates with a lot of sexual tension.

The greek girl (instant date)

My openers are a lot more genuine (thanks to opening the ones that I find attractive).

Me: (looking at her and touching her lately, important to wait for her to take off headphones and listen), I just saw you and I have to say I really like your sense of style.
Her: (Smiles)
Me: You look so urban, yet stylish I must say.

She instantly hooks. And I assume (by her accent) that she is Greek (which she is). We chat a bit about what she is up to that day and after some back and forth (mostly about her), I'll propose to take a coffee.

Me: You know what? There's a nice place over here we should go.
Her: Yes, but I really like XYZ-place.
Me: Don't you want to try something new?
Her: I just want to go to the sea.
Me: Come on you will love this new place.
Her: I really can't. I want to go to another place.

So she won that frame battle. It's not that I did not go for the hard push. I just couldn't break her. Good for her.

So we agree to go somewhere in the middle (that's nice). And as I helped her take the order from the barista, she gives me this look (like surprised, but in a good way).
I chase frame saying things like "ah, you're saying you like latin-America, just to impress me" and "I knew you wanted to flirt with me" and fastly changing the topic before letting her protest.

I also give her a look full of desire (and I am working a lot on this after visualizing). She doesn't know how to react, haha. After a while, I move her before saying goodbye (after she telling me she is hopelessly in love with a guy living in London). I could have taken her home, but her being with a man, and me in love (and not having all the motivation to move things forward) made me just go home by myself.

Fundamentals and girls reactions

Because I am genuine in complimenting and only approaching girls I like, I get warmer receptions. But my fundamentals are getting so good a lot of girls smile and stare with interest. Even my new girl has noticed that and she is very proud to be with me (often saying she feels like I am too cool for her).

Things I can improve
Not being needy.
Relationship management.
Approaching more girls (day and night).
More sexual tension and humor.
Logistics.

Things I am doing better
Realizing when I am chasing and when I need them to invest.
Sexual tension mixed with humour.
Having fun.
Relationship managemt.

Note: I am also realizing the my new girl likes me a lot. I am kind of "out of her league". I like that!

 

[kristian]

Being in love is like losing all control. It's really new and exciting but also very frighting. My new girl says she feels the same way and even now, living apart for a couple of months (she traveled to India last week). Since then, she is making sure we talk at least every other day by skype or chat. She says she miss me a lot but this trip was planned for a while so I am seeing this as an opportunity to practice patience and looking for new girls.

For the record; we aren't exclusive yet, I, however, have the feeling she is not planning to see anybody down there, she doesn't drink and keep parties to a minimum but you'll never know what can happen the next weeks.

So in an attempt to continue my growing curve with women, I approached many last Sunday. The nightclub had 70 % guys, many aggressive in their approaches so the girls were very defensive. I, however, managed to talk to a couple of girls (who weren't interested) and one that was kind of into me but that I did not feel any attraction towards. I was also pretty trippy in LSD so I wasn't thinking or anything. Besides, some girls only wanted to continue the courtship if I had some coke (definitely not my type). After saying "no", they just went away. I later danced some and approached a big-assed girl at the end of the night. Later, I started hanging out with some Israeli guys before going for a walk. I came home around 4:30 in the morning after 6 hours of gaming, dancing and learning new things.

I am also hanging a little with my flatmates who are kind of known in the party scene. And man, many of those are cool to hang with and all. I just don't like the amount of drugs they take and their lifestyle. And even some of those people are even ladder climbers, not minding to put me down since I am a nomad in order to assert themselves and their dominance. Now I just know how it is in those circles its very educational but also a little crazy and there are some weird people on those circles.

The one with my style
I just spent the whole day by myself for almost the entire day yesterday. But I also went out for a walk and some daygame. I spot a cute brunette with almost exactly the same style as me. My body went instinctively towards her.

Me: I see we both match in colors and style.
Her: yes, we do. Even our bags look the same (hook point).
Her: I have en A-though, because a friend gave it to me he...
Me: He is from Nicaragua.
Her: (laughs and smiles).
Me: I don't know why I said that. I just felt like he was from that place.
Her: (still smiling, time to move forward).
Me: We have very good vibe. I like it.
Her: Vibe?
Me: Our vibe match very well. Dont you agree?
Her: (laughs, now I need to find out about her logistics).

It turns out she is staying in town for a week, before travelling around the world again. Perfect.

My friend just came. To be continued...

 

[kristian]

So from here I just found out I had to set up a date. I wanted to go for something instant.

Me: So Frida. I am going to this place nearby to eat the best falafel in town. You should join me.
Her: (waits a lot).

I heard somewhere in sales that after a proposal, it's better to not say anything and just let the tension build. It seemed like forever....

Her: I would really love to go. But I have another appointment that I have to attend to.
Me: That's okay, let me grab your number and we will arrange something.

I kiss her hand goodbye, wish her a good day and spend the next couple of hours setting up the date. I think I made it clear that I liked her by being forward and kissing her hand. And realize I need to dial up my sexual tension substantially on our date tomorrow.

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So I have a girlfriend and I am a lot better at gauging which women are more into me lately. I am also getting more IOIs than ever as well. It feels really good to get all the attention I lacked my whole life. I am becoming that guy.

My girl being away only makes me want to meet other girls. I miss her a lot and I don't seem as hungry for new adventures as before. However, I am improving my game and fundamentals a lot, and think it will only make me more attractive when she is back in a couple of months.

Things I am doing well

Much less AA
Moving forward
Learning to pick up the girls that are legitimately interested in me
Fundamentals

Things I can improve

Investment
Text game
Sexual tension

 

[kristian]

Reading the article "How Many Partners Has Your Girlfriend Had? Find Out Here", made me think about the girl I most probably might end up in a relationship with. Opening my eyes and swallowing the Red Pill has made me a little paranoid as it pertains to women I go serious with so I want you guys to weigh in and tell me if I am wrong about my feeling or not.

It's just a pretty big investment to make if she asks for commitment and I want to feel that she is the right one. I should not care as much about her sexual past but I do. I haven't asked for a clear answer about number counts sex-wise because I do not want to seem controlling and jealous, but I have some information that might be helpful.

* I see that the girl I am seeing at the moment has some of the signs from 3 of the profiles in the article (not the cynical one). She is clearly confident (high count) but also seem a little naive and trusting when it comes to love (which indicates lack of sexual experience according to the article. I also have a past of cheating and hurting girls so I usually have a good feel of which girls are naive and which are not). She has also some sexual inhibitions (no anal, BJs and is not as comfortable getting licked, but it's getting better). She however really enjoys sex and is able to cum with me all the time.

*I entered her life as a lover and when we got to know each other I was dating another girl. She has heard from my flatmates that I have girls over to my place so I seem powerful and preselected from her viewpoint. So when she ended up in my place she saw me more or less as a flirt and I used that to get her to open up to me. This is what I found out.

a) I told her about threesomes and if she wanted to try it out with me and a friend of mine. She tells me she never done that and was a little intrigued but also unsure.

b) Since I've told her some stories about my sexual past (to see how she responds) she has also told me about hers without me asking. "I had a lover over there, had a fling for a couple of months", she has said once we passed a building nearby. I think girls that are "hiding" don't say such things without being asked.

c) Once we passed by a street she suddenly tells me about her "last ONS" and how it changed the way she viewed it. She felt used, she says and told herself she did not want to have sex with strangers anymore. This was about 8 years ago (she is 31).

*She seems also surprised that I was able to seduce her in one week (I did a date compression) as she says she usually makes guys wait for a month or two before sex happened. She liked that I moved fast, but is not that used to it.

*She doesn't drink or go to clubs. 80 percent of her friends are girls (the guys are pretty beta).

*The days before I bedded her, she tells me she can't have sex because she is involved with someone else and wants it to end first. She ended it and felt good about making me her lover.

However, when I asked her lightly about her sexual count she avoided the question. As I said before I haven't asked her very directly.

She is also petrified about STDs and made me use condoms for a couple of weeks before we had without. She, however, tells me she had sex one month prior to our meeting instead of 3 months as she said before. When asked about why the "change", she says it was because she felt like I might have give her something. So instead of saying "I have to test myself now that we have had unprotected sex" she says "I had sex one month ago actually, so you should test yourself and so should I".

She got upset when I said I was confused about this and says her fear of STDs made her say one month to "make sure I did not give her any STDs", I haven't tested myself yet, but she has. And there's nothing to fear.

Ah, and one more thing: The guy she was "involved with" prior to me is a friend of mine (who's better with women than I am). He still doesn't know about us so when I asked them both (separately) if they ever had sex, both of them said no, but kissed many times. He tried to seduce her on a couple occasions but, "she is a hard case". Probably a reason why she got both surprised and hooked on my ability to seduce her as fast as she isn't "like that".

I know this is a pretty long passed analysis. But it puts a lot of things in perspective. From my point of view, choosing one girl to be monogamous with is a pretty big investment.

After writing this long essay, I kind of feel like she is the faithful and the honest type of girl. Both her friends, her past relationships seem fine. So does her relationship with her father. She doesn't seem bitter or has baggage. But who knows, we've only dated for a month and she is in India traveling for two months. She says she is not looking for anything down there and only wants to hang out at the yoga retreats and dancing classes (and she doesn't drink).

We have an amazing connection and everything. Sex is great and when she gets back, we might start a relationship. I like her and feel like I can trust her but who knows; women can be good at hiding. I'm I too concerned with details and paranoid? Or does it really matter?

 

[PrettyDecent]

Kristian,

She is clearly confident (high count) but also seem a little naive and trusting when it comes to love

To me, sounds like she's still idealistic. Girls can be confident and lack a high number.

*I entered her life as a lover and when we got to know each other I was dating another girl. She has heard from my flatmates that I have girls over to my place so I seem powerful and preselected from her viewpoint. So when she ended up in my place she saw me more or less as a flirt and I used that to get her to open up to me. This is what I found out.

Awesome.

a) I told her about threesomes and if she wanted to try it out with me and a friend of mine. She tells me she never done that and was a little intrigued but also unsure.

Another girl or another dude?

*The days before I bedded her, she tells me she can't have sex because she is involved with someone else and wants it to end first. She ended it and felt good about making me her lover.

That's a good sign.

The only thing I'd see as a possible negative is her age. But to me, sounds like a stable option for monogamy.

Nick

 

[kristian]

The main thing I did wrong when it came to the girl I dated was getting attached too soon. She is in many ways more advanced in the ways of dating and meeting people than I am. And even though I worked extremely hard to turn myself into a more socially calibrated guy, I can still see that she in many ways is a lot more experienced than I am.

I did a mistake by attaching myself too much. I became needy, so much she stopped seeing me as a lover and went into the arms of a more unattached man. I guess that's one of the reasons dating crazy girls is so educational.

We had a long talk yesterday, about us; she was, from the start, clear that we were just lovers although her actions were very girl friendly. I should just have kept my options open. Met some other girls just to stop thinking about her. Instead, I girlfriend-zoned this one and stopped using the lover- lenses I so often use with other girls - girls that spend their time thinking about me and chasing me hard.

So thinking back I should have done the following:

* Kept my distance. Meeting her no more than twice a week. And spent the rest of my time working on myself, my projects and meeting girls.
* Known that this girl is crazy, and I've read the signs on this website. This alone should be more than enough to keep her strictly as a lover.
* A lot of passion in a short amount of time? That's too fast. Maybe I should keep the brakes on. I've written about being the rebound guy before and I can clearly see the signs now.

And lastly; I do not think of a girl in my social circle as a girlfriend. I have to make cold approach my main venue to meet women in. There's less mess, less drama and I don't need to keep encountering the same girl over and over again when it ends.

The funny thing is that I am becoming increasingly attractive to women. So much so that girls (almost) openly invite themselves into my life. There's a valuable lesson I got from this girl. That made me a lot more attractive in women's eyes. I am still doubting a bit if I am good enough to have new girls in my life but that fear is getting increasingly smaller.

So now I have to just stop chasing her. Forgetting her is going to be a bit of a challenge since I attached myself to her a lot. But I believe it's gonna be easier than I first thought. It's just saying goodbye to our history that's hard. But as people all over this place have said; feeling can be created with many people so it not just her, but the feelings we created and the idea of her that was holding me. A lesson learned. And perhaps the most valuable one so far as it pertains to being non-needy and working on my lover value.

 

[kristian]

On another note: I've been picking up the game again. Approaching a little here and there, and having warm receptions!
My sexual tension has been increasing as well, thanks to meditations and visualization. It's so nice to sub-communicate that, its feels like I am talking a language that only we understand. No-one else.

So I approached three girls the last two days, two were completely cold. The first one with the "are you single approach".

Me: (After looking at her building up the tension) Are you single?
Her: (laughs and smiles). That's very straight forward, ain't it?
Me: Haha, I just saw you and think you look stunning. So I had to find out if you're available.

We chat a bit back and forth. I say goodbye and leave her with a big smile on her face. I see I couldn't close and realize I have to so from that moment on. Shortly after, another chick appears, this one seemed very interested, but I was so into talking to a cat I let that chance go.

Today I see this blonde, tall girl walking towards me. I see her and look at her intensely as I make her stop. I give her a genuine compliment instead, she starts smiling and laughing (a good way to see my increased fundamentals). After a little chit chat, I say I find her attractive and interesting, and that I want to see her again. She smiles warmly, thanking me for being forward, but that she is getting into a relationship. I ask her about him, wish her good luck and leave her at that.

After that, I enter a coffee house nearby. I see the girl who's working here checking me out. I smile by myself and as someone breaks the line I keep my calm (but I was stressed out as hell). She saw my calmness and because of my fundamentals and my deep dive ability, she ends up going to the back room, coming back with a little paper which turns out to be a coupon for free coffee. I smile realizing the power of flirting. I get free stuff!

I am also setting up a meeting with a co-worker I've been flirting a lot with lately. I'll meet her this weekend. A funny note she is the one thinking I will flake, that's fun to know.

Things I am doing well:

*It seems like I am already at the same level as before I started dating the last girl. I believe I am even better. But I have to approach a bit more to truly know.
*Openings are easier.
*I believe it's because of my increased fundamentals.

Things I could do better

*Closing girls.

 

[kristian]

Afterthoughts and the way from here

In very short amount of time, I've managed to forget a lot about the previous girl but I still think occasionally about her and miss her several times each day.
I've cut a lot of contact with her but she still appears from time to time because we can't quite let go and we hang out in the same social circle (another reason why social circle game doesn't work as well and why I will do my best to only date girls from cold approach).

I still get some messages from time to time and do my best to deflect her advances. But it's hard. And I have to be very patient with myself and accept that I will have some feelings for her until someone else takes her place (or when I start meeting girls on rotation).

The Icelandic girl is still in love with me. That's another thing that is bothering me. She is dating someone else and I can clearly see that hanging out with her, even when we are doing so platonically, hinder their relationship to become something substantial. It's still not my business, I know, but I want to see if she can settle first.

So now the previous abundance is a little shattered - even with improved fundamentals. The still hanging-on-to-the-past has messed up my inner game. I am not as hungry as I used to be, my approaches are fun. Many girls dig my vibe but I spend time in my room obsessing a little too much and not taking enough action. I think it's time to start approaching more methodically. Just like I did last summer.

But I am also approaching every day. I'm just not seeing the results I envisioned (and it just been a week or so I started day gaming again). My approach anxiety is low. Time to start writing down field reports.

Field reports



I don't remember them as much. So I will just write down the ones from yesterday.

The cute, nerdy one
So me and two of my friends went out yesterday. They're a little rusty after being in LTRs so we all wanted to go out and get some reference points. They did not approach. To my surprise. So I started talking to some girls that sat by a table close to us. We chat a little back and forth and they were really digging our attention. So I spent a little time working on my sexual tension and flirting with my eyes (which is something totally new to me).

She reciprocates nervously, staring at me and taking off her eyes instantly. It was totally on, but not she was also shy and a little intimidated. We were five people so I did not find any entrance to isolate and deep dive. Besides, her friend was a little awkward and I spent time "working" on her as well.

My friends go out to eat. I spend a little more time talking to them. She willingly gives me her number (clearly happy). I send her some messages today only to realize my sexual tension might have scared her a little and a combination with attainability issues.

The one that looks like Madonna
So I walk to another place, after meeting up with some other friends of mine. I was too tired to do anything, but what the heck - time to at least talk to some girls.

On the way in, I see girls sending me IOIs, which happens a lot lately - I just lack the hunger to approach (as mentioned above). I black girl even approaches us in order to talk to me. She was too drunk but still interested.

And then I see this girl who's dressed up like a pop star. I give her a compliment. Telling her she looks like Madonna.

Her: Oh, thank you.
Me: You really do. Like in the cover of the single "Like a Virgin".

She did not like that last comment. And rejects me after that. Haha, "hot" girls are a little fun.

I decide to call it a day after sitting with my friends. I was a little too uninspired. So it was time to go.

Afterthoughts:


I am sexier. My fundamentals are a lot better. Some girls seem even nervous and excited talking to me. And as I am learning to build tension, I must work in being more attainable. It's a little weird that I am scaring off some girls even after getting more IOIs.

Things I can improve
[*]Attainability
[*]Closing a lot more
[*]More approaches

Things I do well
[*]Sexual tension
[*]Fundamentals

...........................

I will go out in a couple of hours and will be open for more learning by doing a little night-game. Lets see what happens.

 

[kristian]

Since last time: A new lay (and an easy, straightforward one), many good approaches and love for women that has grown tremendously. The first one needs an explanation on its own.

The girl I've split with wants to meet me. I am not that excited about it, but I want some more reference points in turnarounds. The main goal is to.
*Be okay not getting her back.
*Experiencing for myself how abundance with girls can re-engage girls you lost.
*Not being mad at her and actually thankful for the learning experience. Everything else is a big plus.

I just love setting up meetings with women. I have three this week so far. And I am day gaming again. This is nice, cos I will soon also start approaching strangers by night. I've had some cool evenings already (at places where I sing and already have social proof). But that's easy, I have to do so where I am a nobody. That's where I can put my fundamentals to test.

So back to day game; I've had two approaches so far. Both with good reactions but the results lacked cos of logistics with the first one, and lack of actual interest in the last one. So one reason I really need to be better at weeding out actual interest from no real interest (this needs an own post another day).

The one with the cool trenchcoat

Me: I love your style. Your trenchcoat looks amazing.
Her: (Laughs and smiles) Thank you.
Me: I was just walking down here and see you shining by your own with this jacket and the matching style. It looks soft (start touching her) and antique.
Her: It's from my grandma.
Me: Wow, I love vintage. So where are you heading to?
Her: To school, actually.

I deep dive from here. She tells me she is a ballet dancer and we start talking about that. Where she lives and other stuff. It turns out she lives close to me.

Me: Its cool that you do dancing. I am a musician so we have a lot in common. (Here we reached the hook point).

Note: Actually, talking about being a musician makes me more attractive as a lover candidate than saying I write articles. So this is a nice one to use.

And then her bus arrives. I wave her goodbye. She smiles a lot looking after me as the bus flies by.

Note: This is the first time in a long time a girl feels like my approach was destiny.

The one that kindly rejected me

This one is not that important. This was more of a situational opener (she looked like an old friend from behind). We talked a bit, but she wasn't that engaged and contributing to our conversation. I, however, asked her out which she kindly declined. I said okay and warmly excused myself.

I also approached another one, but her friend arrived so I excused myself after that. Nothing big here, other than the first approach (which I couldn't number close).

Things I can improve

*Finding the most interested prospects.

Things I am doing better
*Presenting myself as a lover. Girls seem to know what I am about a lot better.
*Deep dive.
*Sexual tension.

Have to go now. Next time Ill write about my latest lay.

 

[kristian]

I still haven't written anything about the lay report yet. But I will later today or first thing tomorrow.

So today was a normal day. I went to the tram on my way to work and began thinking automatically of talking to girls. I saw some of them rushing their way to work/school so no good prospects at hand.

The photographer
I see this brunette with a coffe cup thermos. I like those girls so I stop her.

Me: Hi, I just have to tell you I find you really cute.
Her: Oh, thank you (smiles).
Me: There's a good energy about you. My name is Kristian.
Her: Thank you. I'm Ingrid.
Me: I hear you have an accent. Which part of the country are you from?

She tells me she is from a small town in west Norway. And that she studies photography. I tell her I write and tell her I sing (the latter puts me more in the lover-role).

Me: So you are on your way to school? Let me follow you to the tram.

She digs that I took the initiative to move things forward. Of course, some of the momentum stops in transitions. I, however, spend the time getting to know about her town, what she likes about Oslo and her dreams as a photographer. I also spend time telling her about my latin origins and about the suburban life in my place outside the inner city. On a high note, I tell her I want to get to know her better. She gives me her number (after refusing to give her my FB-account saying I am bad at responding in messenger).

Me: Ok, Ingrid. It was nice to meet you. I wish you the brightest day possible.
Her: Thank you. (Smiles).

I will follow up later today, asking how her day went before setting up something.

Note: A very good approach actually. With all the ingredients necessary to make an interested girl hooked. I was dressed well, mind you. So I know my improved fundamentals are very helpful here.

Things I could do better
*Maybe a little sexual tension?
*Some physicality.
*Make transitions more enjoying.

Things I am doing well
*Approaching without thinking. My instincts are taking over and I can just relax and be in the moment.
*Moving things forward.
*Gauging which girls are interested and which not.

The beauty about this game is that the more you practice, the more the elements needed gets automated. That's why I practice. After a while, your inner voice takes over. You get more in the moment and things start becoming more effortless.

So in a week I got one new lover, became a lot less needy with the girl I am back and forth with and I am seeing The Matrix more and more in my cold approaches. Hmm, things are getting interesting. I am more committed than ever to grinding and will not stop until I get abundance.

 

[kristian]

So approaching girls has become second nature. I do everything from complimenting women I find attracting to closing new prospects. I am also much more aware of what kind of women I can approach and how to talk to them. I love that I am not scared to talk to them and that pieces start to fall into place.

I don't remember every interaction (since some were just compliments while other were warmups). So I will only write down the most memorable moments.
The one with the pretty eyes

As she goes my way, we lock eyes. I instantly start running towards her with a lingering touch.

Me: Hi, I just had to come over to tell you. You have the most captivating eyes I've seen today. Are you from northern Norway? Are you Sami? (Ethnic group).
Her: Well, thank you (big smile). People think I am actually, but I am not. I am from western Norway.
Me: It must be that you don't have that much double eyelid. Your eyes look a little native American. I say so because I am half native American.
Her: I guess so (smiles).
Me: So are you single? I just have to know.
Her: (smiles eyes broader). Yes, I am.

I start deep diving her and talking about her job, where she lives and so on. It was cold and windy, and I could see she was a concerned with that. I ask her what her plans for the day is. She tells me she will just get home, make some food and relax.

Me: You know what? Let's take a coffee.
Her: Yes lets do it (excited).
Me: Ok, we got that one over here, and that one over there. Which would you like?
Her: Oh, right now? I am not in that mood right now.

Note: I could have walked with her. Made her invest a little more before setting up the instant date or a proper date (now that my text game is better). I guess I asked for a lot in a short amount of time. No worries. Next one will invest a lot more.

The one with the fine ass
On my way to the shoe store, I spot a girl from behind that looked amazing (did not know her face). I was talking to my friend and told him I had to excuse myself as I had to talk to the girl in mind. I follow her to a pop-up store, only to realize she was talking to the clerk inside. I, though, no worries. Went to the shoe store and had some fun interactions with the women that worked there. And to my surprise, I spot her inside the shoe shop.

Me: Excuse me. I saw you inside the pop-up store. I really like your style, energy and the fact that you were interested in the books at the pop-up store.
Kristian is my name.
Her: Thank you soo much. (She smiles and looks intensely at my eyes. It was ON!)

Note: This must have been my most elaborate and sincere compliment ever. She really dug it. And started qualifying herself quickly after my compliment. We even had some "larger than life" moments.

Me: Well listen. I really like your vibe, energy, the fact that you seem interested in the topics I love. I would really like to see you sometime and see if we can connect even more.
Her: (With a disappointed, may I say even sad look on her face). I would love to, Kristian. But I have a boyfriend you see.
Me: No worries. He is a lucky guy that I hope takes good care of you.

Note: Again, my interactions are solid as F compared to before. I just need tweaks here and there.

I also had a cool talk with a young girl from Finland. But she was on her way to her sister and had to travel to Bergen that evening. No worries.

The one in red from the balcony
So after chilling at my house, I go to the grocery store to buy some toilet paper. I spot a cute girl standing on a balcony from the third floor. Surrounded by three guys. And as I go out from the store. We both lock eyes.

Me: (Talking out loud from the street). Hey, you! Girl on the balcony in red! (She notices my voice and looks at me).
Me: I really find you cute. I just have to say that. You are really cute.
Her: (confused and couldn't utter a word, the guys around her in shock). Thank you, I guess.

I get inside a new bar, inspecting it a little. As I get out, she sees me again.

Her: Thank you. You have really balls.
Me: I loved that bar I went into no. You and I will get there soon. I will remember your face and invite you out if I catch you on the streets.

Note: My most ballsy approach as well.

The thing is that I am really getting myself in a good rhythm. That's nice. I have a momentum I could dream of before I got to know the girl I last dated. Miss J.

Things I can do better

*More compliance before closing.
*Approaching more women.
*Being even more okay with the ones that won't of don't talk.

Things I am doing better
*Sexual tension.
*Genuine compliments.
*Leading.
*Texting.

 

[kristian]

So now it seems effortless to approach women. I don't even think about it. It's nice because I know it will be a matter of time before I get a small circle of women 3 - 4 on rotation. I am already dating/sleeping with two, but the more the better.

Okay, back to today's approaches. I had three (two were with closing in mind, one was a very young girl).

The one at the grocery store
So I go inside to buy some beans when I notice a cute brunette standing by the aisle. I walk to her and ask her if she knows where the beans are.

Her: Excuse me. I don't speak Norwegian.
Me: (After repeating the same thing in English). I just found you cute so I had to come over with an excuse to talk to you. Kristian is my name.
Her: Well thank you (nervous).

She was short and not that talkative (because she barely could speak English). She tells me she is from Poland, Youreand that she works in her own company. But we couldn't get past that. I warmly excuse myself and realize I could have pushed myself a little harder. Just to see if I could overcome language barriers.

The young girl at Starbucks
I just utter "you are cute". But also realize she was way too young 16 - 17. So nothing special her.

The danish girl
And then I notice a blonde girl. With curves on the right places and a stylish scarf walks by. I see her stopping by a flower shop. This was my chance.

Me: Hi, I just saw you passing by as I went out from the coffee house. I really dig your style and just had to come over and introduce myself. You're really cute. Kristian is my name.
Her: Thank you (smiling and clearly nervous).
Me: So what's your name?
Her: Oh, my name is Signe. (smiling and blushing a little).
Me: I can hear your accent are you from Denmark?

From there we start talking about what she does in Norway. It turns out she is studying social anthropology and working at my local burger joint. I tell her that I love their food and the atmosphere.

Her: So what do you do?
Me: I sing actually (her eyes starts lighting up). But in the daytime I work at an office, I need to make money to eat and sleep (laughs).

This was the high note so I asked her for her number. She agrees to meet me and I tell her I will text her later today.

So that was that. One hour hanging out with myself and having great interactions and a potential new date. Its getting increasingly fun. And the best part is that I am doing the game my way - with an eye for constant improvement.

Things to improve:
*Pushing myself when I encounter language barriers.

Things I did well:
*Stating intentions.
*Being forward and leading.
*Closing.

 

[kristian]

So I approach, I mostly get good receptions and girls do give me their contact information almost every time I work to make it happen.

I also don't need that many approaches to get a date and I almost always get nice reactions from girls when I give them genuine compliments.

But actual lays are far and few between. I need better ways to find out which girls are really down for sex and which are just liking to be in my presence. So far, its almost impossible to find out which is which and that frustrates me. I am very close to getting consistent at getting girls in bed consistently but need to figure this out faster.

From the date I just had (with a girl I met from day game) I felt like she was warm and friendly, but something lacked. I later got her to tell why she did not go for my advance when I tried to kiss her, and she tells me it was because she did not see me as more than a friend. I ask her when she realized this and she answers by telling me it was when we sat with me at the bar (which means I was a good lover candidate until then).

*That also means I could have been more forward with sexual tension.
*We also find out that we know some of the same people (and that made her more cautious).

I also find out that I am better at being flirty and getting girls in state when we talk. That must be my first and foremost thing to work on. Getting girls in state and being sexual. Those two. Until I get it down.

 

[kristian]

Tired as fuck from working, making music and meeting/approaching girls. Like I mentioned in the post, I had an epiphany with the girl I dated Tuesday evening. I ran everything right but lacked the one big ingredient to make her not friend zone me: sexual tension.

So I've been working on upping my sexual vibe. Reduced my porn watching to a minimum, started flirting with female friends and female co-workers again. Things of that nature.

The results have been good so far. Girls seem to notice me more and I don't need to work that hard to get them hooked. I think I need approximately 5 - 6 approaches to get a solid number. And around 4 numbers to land a date. That means a date from every 20 girls I talk to. Not bad for intermediate on his way up. My main goal is to get that number down to 10 approaches. And of course; the better I get at this the better the results game wise.

I've also started to see this from a practice standpoint, akin to what I did last year. Deliberate practice, trying to find the missing pieces and putting them together. That feels a lot more rewarding than looking for lays and dates. Those will add up on my way.

So today I had around 7 approaches. Of those, two were what I consider high quality (that means not only a compliment, but more a conversation). I will only write down the one I got the most from.

The Disneygirl

Me: I just have to say... I really love your style. I like the colors. The scarf, the jacket.
Her: Thank you (laughs) I don't feel that pretty today so I am glad you noticed that.
Me: That's inspiring to see. I have to say it. Kristian is my name.
Her: I am Taran (smiles).
Me: Taran like in the Disney movie? Cool, and it rhymes with my name.

Notice the commonalities here. I always try to move from genuine compliment to something we got in common and/or deep dive.

Me:So Taran. What are you doing on a day like this?
Her: I am going to a drawing course. That will start soon.
Me: Creativity. I am a singer so I like people who love the arts.

She smiles even more. From here I ask her what she does when she does not draw. She tells me she works as a waiter and her dreams of traveling to Disney in Orlando Fl. to work. I see that her class starts in five minutes and ask for her number.

I later realize I could just have followed her to her class. Deep dived a little more. To make her more emotionally attached to me and trust me more.

On another note: girls are more attracted to me than ever. I get signs when I go out. I get good receptions. They hook faster. Harder.
But that's reactions I need results, meaning that I have to approach more. Move faster. Look for signs. Work on my sexual vibe. All those things.

Things to improve:
*Deep diving girls.
*Highter quality on my interactions.
*Approaching those who send me approach invitations (for one reason or another, my ego doesn't want to risk rejection from those).

The last point is something to improve on. For real.

Aspects I am getting better at:
*Sexual tension.
*Flirting.
*Approaching more often.

 

[kristian]

I am so tired I can't even think straight. I can't even remember the last time I've felt this way. I am out and about these days, writing field reports, dating new girls and having epiphanies almost every day. But there are several things that are bothering me, making the game harder than ever.

*The girl I ended with is still on my mind. No matter how many women I meet and interact with. It's worst in the mornings when the blues sets in.

*I have a new lover now. I cool girl whos also a bit on the crazier side so nothing serious. But I can't stop comparing her to miss J, making me often miss her a lot more. Just started the no-contact rule with the latter girl, but that's hard to do.

*And having a date (from day game), going out and approaching 40 - 50 girls this week has taken its toll om my energy levels. It has been a hard week so far. With lots of rejections, new teachings and many approaches both with social circle girls and cold approach.

On the bright side, I just learned about and ramped up sexual tension lately. Practicing it a lot since Tuesday. The drawback is that I forget to deep dive and build a connection (which are my stronger sides actually). And that made me lose a couple of girls I could have had. However, I accepted that it will stay this way a couple of more weeks (I just need to practice this missing aspect deliberately and get it down till it becomes second nature).

So without further ado, let me tell you about some of the most memorable interactions so far.

The sexual girl with pornstar body
So I and my ex-girlfriend (Icelandic girl) went out to several places last Friday. She also noticed how attractive I've become to other girls (and that made her attraction for me soar through the roof). She had to go back to her boyfriend, leaving at the place alone. I saw this as an opportunity to approach some women (and it's kind of easier than in day game since they all are so close and music and the darkness make me disappear fast if we don't find the vibe). Girls with girlfriends are hard to approach (since there a little jealousy involved)

So then I see this brunette with sexy close and a lot of make up scanning the room. We lock eyes and I approach.

Me: Hey, I just had to say I like your vibe. You look alive and happy.
Her: (Smiles) Well thank you. I like that you are talkative and seem approachable.
Me: Well, it takes one to know one, Kristian is my name.
Her: Natasha here.

We start a little conversation. And she tells me her ethnicity (mixed). Then she asks me how often I am there and so on. I was extremely horny and she could feel it. It was totally on in a way so I decided I needed to act. And do so fast.

Me: So do you dance, Melissa?
Her: Yes, I love to do so.

So I lift her up. Walk with her lying in my arms and drop her in the middle of the dance floor. As I walk closer to her body, we start kissing. She really loves it and touches me a lot.

Her: I will just buy a beer.

We sit back where was at. She introduces me to her friend (who also happens to be latino). And she also with him and couldn't leave him. So I sit in from of her and we both start eye fucking each other.

Guys were noticing it, and one after another started approaching her. Only to be let down. I laugh at their clumsy attempts and so does she. But I couldn't handle the logistics to make her go away with me. And the few times I tried, she couldn't (since she had her friend there as well).

So after trying and persisting to no avail. I decided to call it a day. I got her FB-contact (I should have just got her number, instead) and went out to see if I could do some more approaches.

The one I got home in 10 minutes

So on my way back home, I spot three girls walking in front of me. The nightclubs were closing and girls were still out and about looking for food and socializing. I see a blonde girl wearing skinny Levis jeans, accentuating her curves (and ass). I was horny ass hell so I started a conversation very fast.

Me: Hi. I love your jeans. Noticed you a couple of minutes ago and just had to come over and say it. Are those Levis 501?.
Her: I don't know actually. But thank you for noticing that. (Smiles).
Me: They look good on you. I love girls wearing tight jeans.

Note: The thing about being sexually aroused is that you start reading every sign as a sexual invitation. I ask her about her night about what she was up to and so on.

Me: I know a place you will love to eat at. Come with me.

She follows. I buy food. And since I live very close to the restaurants. Walk out and I start automatically walking to my place. She just follows my lead, it was totally on. I walk her to my room and after putting on some music, I lift her up. Put her on top of my on my bed and start kissing her and undressing her.

Her: Oh, I thought we were going to eat.
Me: I just want to eat you. I love your curves. (still undressing her).

She complies. And we dancingly kiss. But she wakes up and alarms start ringing. I decided to play a bit of piano. And by the end of it, I again try to escalate.

Her: You just want me for my jeans.
Me: I want you for your body.

I try to escalate several times, but can't get past her pants. I decide to call it a day. Follow her to the door, eat a little and masturbate a lot.

Note: There's a part two of my weekend adventure as well. Which I will get back to later on.

Things I could do better
*Build rapport.

Things I am improving on
*Sexual tension.
*Emotional transmutation.
*Bouncing back from rejections.
*Staying unfazed to shit tests and guys trying to talk to my girls.

The thing with night game is the volume of approaches in short amount of time. That's the beauty of it. It's different from day game in a sense that I can approach a lot more and get down other aspects of my game. Its fun. It moves fast and I learn quicker.