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Hey guys,
Went out tonight with a married woman for drinks. I was on the fence on whether or not to take the seduction all the way, but I wasn't fully closed to the idea. So we met for drinks and she got there first. She's not a hugger (at all) and I guess is a big germaphobe in a way, so there wasn't a lot of touch between us. Anyways, she went to the restroom and I decided where to sit with our drinks. Then we just talked and I deep-dived a bit. We caught up and talked on travel, what we do for fun, her job and my new job, our dogs, the books she's listening to, etc. Lots of good topics. Even on sugar daddies lol (in retrospect, I should've talked a lot more on sexual topics - not like me not to). Also lots of strong eye contact, but this also came with a few awkward pauses at times.
Anyways, she's a massage therapist so my plan was to go to her place. Turns out it's just her, her husband, and her dog at her house. She has a home office and then a massage table in a separate room. So after getting onto the topic, I went for the pull and used a sort-of yes ladder. So I asked her if she enjoyed massage therapy and thought she was good and then brought up how I was looking to get a massage since I've only had one, but absolutely enjoyed it. So I asked her what she thought about showing me her office and things because I was curious what her work-at-home situation was like.
In response, she came up with a weak response of "oh well it's a 15 minute drive and I want to walk my dog and things..." after obviously realizing where things where going. I told her I didn't mind the drive at all. But then after a pause she brought up asking about my dog (who I just put down recently) and it made me a bit sad. So we talked on that really fast before I brought the conversation back to a positive place before she said "well sorry for cutting this short but I should head home" and I said OK no worries and that I didn't want her to feel pressured into anything after again bringing up how I didn't mind the drive at all and that she'd be a good person to get a massage from. She did agree that she wouldn't mind giving a massage and that I could set up something with her (probably just the business side of her - although this was generally the vibe I got through our conversation).
Before this, she had asked what I was doing in the morning and we had talked about married people and how she said it wasn't a bad thing for someone to be married. The blatant subcontext in this part of the conversation being that she was thinking about hooking up.
But anyways, we paid our tabs and went into the parking lot. I just told her that we had a good conversation and to tell her dog I said hi and to give her a treat for me. I told her we should do this again and that she had my number. I tapped her on the shoulder, got in my car, and left. (the fuck up)
Instead, I should've taken more the lead and said "so I'm following you?" or something. Moved things forward. She only had weak resistance, but I totally let it go. I can't kick myself as hard because she is married. But I do kick myself in terms of my seduction skills (and the fact that I missed out on a massage lol). Pretty disappointing.
Makes me realize how I haven't dealt with dealing with resistance in a long time and am way out of practice. Probably lost this one ;/
The whole time lasted about an hour and a half.
NBW
Went out tonight with a married woman for drinks. I was on the fence on whether or not to take the seduction all the way, but I wasn't fully closed to the idea. So we met for drinks and she got there first. She's not a hugger (at all) and I guess is a big germaphobe in a way, so there wasn't a lot of touch between us. Anyways, she went to the restroom and I decided where to sit with our drinks. Then we just talked and I deep-dived a bit. We caught up and talked on travel, what we do for fun, her job and my new job, our dogs, the books she's listening to, etc. Lots of good topics. Even on sugar daddies lol (in retrospect, I should've talked a lot more on sexual topics - not like me not to). Also lots of strong eye contact, but this also came with a few awkward pauses at times.
Anyways, she's a massage therapist so my plan was to go to her place. Turns out it's just her, her husband, and her dog at her house. She has a home office and then a massage table in a separate room. So after getting onto the topic, I went for the pull and used a sort-of yes ladder. So I asked her if she enjoyed massage therapy and thought she was good and then brought up how I was looking to get a massage since I've only had one, but absolutely enjoyed it. So I asked her what she thought about showing me her office and things because I was curious what her work-at-home situation was like.
In response, she came up with a weak response of "oh well it's a 15 minute drive and I want to walk my dog and things..." after obviously realizing where things where going. I told her I didn't mind the drive at all. But then after a pause she brought up asking about my dog (who I just put down recently) and it made me a bit sad. So we talked on that really fast before I brought the conversation back to a positive place before she said "well sorry for cutting this short but I should head home" and I said OK no worries and that I didn't want her to feel pressured into anything after again bringing up how I didn't mind the drive at all and that she'd be a good person to get a massage from. She did agree that she wouldn't mind giving a massage and that I could set up something with her (probably just the business side of her - although this was generally the vibe I got through our conversation).
Before this, she had asked what I was doing in the morning and we had talked about married people and how she said it wasn't a bad thing for someone to be married. The blatant subcontext in this part of the conversation being that she was thinking about hooking up.
But anyways, we paid our tabs and went into the parking lot. I just told her that we had a good conversation and to tell her dog I said hi and to give her a treat for me. I told her we should do this again and that she had my number. I tapped her on the shoulder, got in my car, and left. (the fuck up)
Instead, I should've taken more the lead and said "so I'm following you?" or something. Moved things forward. She only had weak resistance, but I totally let it go. I can't kick myself as hard because she is married. But I do kick myself in terms of my seduction skills (and the fact that I missed out on a massage lol). Pretty disappointing.
Makes me realize how I haven't dealt with dealing with resistance in a long time and am way out of practice. Probably lost this one ;/
The whole time lasted about an hour and a half.
NBW
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