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Hi everyone. This is a field report but also a bit of an intro post. I've just joined and want to share my journey here so that I hold myself accountable for taking the steps I know I need to, to get this area of my life sorted.
I'm in my mid 30s and live in London. I was into game in my late teens/early 20s. Read all the usual stuff, became pretty good, had a fair amount of success then met a great girl and settled down. Unfortunately that fell apart a few years ago, and the past few years I've just picked up the odd girl here and there but never had anything of note. I've been picking up around 20 lays a year from dating apps, but pretty low quality, and my heart has not been in it. Its felt too easy and cheap, no real connection and I've always felt its just a shitty way of meeting people. For some reason it just doesn't work for me.
So I've made the commitment to actually throw myself back into game, the old school way. I genuinely believe that for someone like me, the only way to secure an 8/9 is through real life game. Dating apps are geared towards 6ft plus men with tonnes of options, which is not me. I'm not quite sure how many women I've been with, I imagine its just about over 100, but despite the fact I'm good looking and in good shape, I'm short, which means dating apps can be a little tricky. Anyway ... I want to throw myself back into real life game, and I built myself up to go into London today and do some cold approaches during the day. For a few years now I've just relied on picking up girls on nights out etc, but as I've got older pretty much every single one of my friends has got a gf, and the options for nights out have dwindled. So I find myself staying in on Friday/Saturday evenings ... and I figured the only way I can address this is to actually get out there in the day and start making approaches again.
So I picked today and I said to myself - I'm not leaving central London until I've made 5 approaches. This probably sounds very basic to a lot of you, but I just know how my brain works. I would get up there, and convince myself that there were no girls around, or that the weather was crap, or that I was feeling crap. So I said to myself, I don't care what excuses you come up with, you are not getting on the tube back until you've done 5 approaches. I literally don't care about performance or success, all I care about is getting the numbers in and building the social momentum. So I went for it - here is how it went -
Approach 1: I got off the tube and was thinking I NEED to get one in early, I can't get into the rut of wondering around waiting for something happening. So after walking down Oxford Street a hot brunette walked across me. I pretty much instantaneously reached out and tapped her on the forearm, and said "sorry can I stop you. Its a bit direct but I thought you look absolutely stunning so i had stop you" (note - I pretty much always do some variation on this opener. I think everything else is pretty much a waste of time. may as well get straight to the point). She was flattered, smiled and said thank you BUT she her feet never stopped moving and she carried on walking. I tried to walk with her for a bit but she was walking away and it was clear she wasn't that interested. That's fine
Approach 2: I procrastinated for quite a while, and pussied out of one approach (probably about 40 mins between first approach and second). Second approach a girl walked past me on Oxford Street, really hot in active wear. I thought I've got to approach her, she's just my type. I came up beside her, touched her on the arm and gave my usual opener. I kind of ballsed it up a bit, wasn't particularly smooth, and seemed to transition from the opener into "can I have your number?" pretty much straight away. She just straight away came out with "yeah ok" and gave me her number, and we walked about 10 mins together talking about what she was doing in London etc. She was hot but a bit young, (probably about 10 years younger) but I will give her a text
Approach 3: Now I felt on fire, and thought "what the fck was I anxious about, this shit is easy, its just about numbers. repetition, repetition, repetition". Anyway the next hot girl that walks towards me (probably about 10 mins later) I stop to give her the same opener. She smiles and says thank you and points ahead and says "thats my husband". Awkward. Oh well ... I just said he's a very lucky man and smiled and walked away
Approach 4: This is where it got a bit shit. For whatever reason, I literally could not find a good option to approach for well over an hour. My feet were killing, I even had a coffee to perk myself up, but I literally couldn't find a good option. I actually went to give up, went down into the tube station demoralised. But as I was going down I spotted a hot blonde getting the escalator up. I thought "fuck this, i'm not leaving like this". So I got the escalator back up, followed her, came up beside her and delivered my opener. It was probably the smoothest I delivered it all day. I was calm, composed, voice wasn't breaking, threw a little smile in. She was really flattered and smiled and said I'm so sorry but I have a boyfriend. Oh well ... that happens
And that was my day. You might be thinking "that's only 4" and you are kind of right. I did cheat a bit. BUT ... I attempted 2 more approaches where the girls literally would not even stop, they just carried on walking. So I'm kind of counting those even though its cheating.
My overwhelming feeling is one of pride. I know this might sound ridiculous but it was SO HARD to drag myself out, on my own, and force myself to do approaches when I could have been doing anything else. I just feel like I've forced myself to take the most difficult first step in a journey to success. I can already feel the social momentum building, and I actually want to get back out there tomorrow to keep the juices flowing.
A big lesson for me is on logistics. I wasted SO MUCH ENERGY walking around today, aimlessly, just waiting for the right option to walk past. Next time I do this I'm going to have a plan, with a specific area I'm going to stay around. Preferably somewhere with good footfall but which is slightly off the main oxford / regent street. I think for a couple of the approaches girls actually thought I was trying to sell them something because of the street I was on (that is my explanation for the 2 that just walked past and didn't say anything).
Anyone fellas - i welcome you comments and feedback. This is my first game related post in over 10 years. Glad to be back in the community. In my early 20s I used to post on RSD and London seduction forum (something like that) but it seems they have all disappeared now. I hope I haven't broke any rules with this post. Cheers!
I'm in my mid 30s and live in London. I was into game in my late teens/early 20s. Read all the usual stuff, became pretty good, had a fair amount of success then met a great girl and settled down. Unfortunately that fell apart a few years ago, and the past few years I've just picked up the odd girl here and there but never had anything of note. I've been picking up around 20 lays a year from dating apps, but pretty low quality, and my heart has not been in it. Its felt too easy and cheap, no real connection and I've always felt its just a shitty way of meeting people. For some reason it just doesn't work for me.
So I've made the commitment to actually throw myself back into game, the old school way. I genuinely believe that for someone like me, the only way to secure an 8/9 is through real life game. Dating apps are geared towards 6ft plus men with tonnes of options, which is not me. I'm not quite sure how many women I've been with, I imagine its just about over 100, but despite the fact I'm good looking and in good shape, I'm short, which means dating apps can be a little tricky. Anyway ... I want to throw myself back into real life game, and I built myself up to go into London today and do some cold approaches during the day. For a few years now I've just relied on picking up girls on nights out etc, but as I've got older pretty much every single one of my friends has got a gf, and the options for nights out have dwindled. So I find myself staying in on Friday/Saturday evenings ... and I figured the only way I can address this is to actually get out there in the day and start making approaches again.
So I picked today and I said to myself - I'm not leaving central London until I've made 5 approaches. This probably sounds very basic to a lot of you, but I just know how my brain works. I would get up there, and convince myself that there were no girls around, or that the weather was crap, or that I was feeling crap. So I said to myself, I don't care what excuses you come up with, you are not getting on the tube back until you've done 5 approaches. I literally don't care about performance or success, all I care about is getting the numbers in and building the social momentum. So I went for it - here is how it went -
Approach 1: I got off the tube and was thinking I NEED to get one in early, I can't get into the rut of wondering around waiting for something happening. So after walking down Oxford Street a hot brunette walked across me. I pretty much instantaneously reached out and tapped her on the forearm, and said "sorry can I stop you. Its a bit direct but I thought you look absolutely stunning so i had stop you" (note - I pretty much always do some variation on this opener. I think everything else is pretty much a waste of time. may as well get straight to the point). She was flattered, smiled and said thank you BUT she her feet never stopped moving and she carried on walking. I tried to walk with her for a bit but she was walking away and it was clear she wasn't that interested. That's fine
Approach 2: I procrastinated for quite a while, and pussied out of one approach (probably about 40 mins between first approach and second). Second approach a girl walked past me on Oxford Street, really hot in active wear. I thought I've got to approach her, she's just my type. I came up beside her, touched her on the arm and gave my usual opener. I kind of ballsed it up a bit, wasn't particularly smooth, and seemed to transition from the opener into "can I have your number?" pretty much straight away. She just straight away came out with "yeah ok" and gave me her number, and we walked about 10 mins together talking about what she was doing in London etc. She was hot but a bit young, (probably about 10 years younger) but I will give her a text
Approach 3: Now I felt on fire, and thought "what the fck was I anxious about, this shit is easy, its just about numbers. repetition, repetition, repetition". Anyway the next hot girl that walks towards me (probably about 10 mins later) I stop to give her the same opener. She smiles and says thank you and points ahead and says "thats my husband". Awkward. Oh well ... I just said he's a very lucky man and smiled and walked away
Approach 4: This is where it got a bit shit. For whatever reason, I literally could not find a good option to approach for well over an hour. My feet were killing, I even had a coffee to perk myself up, but I literally couldn't find a good option. I actually went to give up, went down into the tube station demoralised. But as I was going down I spotted a hot blonde getting the escalator up. I thought "fuck this, i'm not leaving like this". So I got the escalator back up, followed her, came up beside her and delivered my opener. It was probably the smoothest I delivered it all day. I was calm, composed, voice wasn't breaking, threw a little smile in. She was really flattered and smiled and said I'm so sorry but I have a boyfriend. Oh well ... that happens
And that was my day. You might be thinking "that's only 4" and you are kind of right. I did cheat a bit. BUT ... I attempted 2 more approaches where the girls literally would not even stop, they just carried on walking. So I'm kind of counting those even though its cheating.
My overwhelming feeling is one of pride. I know this might sound ridiculous but it was SO HARD to drag myself out, on my own, and force myself to do approaches when I could have been doing anything else. I just feel like I've forced myself to take the most difficult first step in a journey to success. I can already feel the social momentum building, and I actually want to get back out there tomorrow to keep the juices flowing.
A big lesson for me is on logistics. I wasted SO MUCH ENERGY walking around today, aimlessly, just waiting for the right option to walk past. Next time I do this I'm going to have a plan, with a specific area I'm going to stay around. Preferably somewhere with good footfall but which is slightly off the main oxford / regent street. I think for a couple of the approaches girls actually thought I was trying to sell them something because of the street I was on (that is my explanation for the 2 that just walked past and didn't say anything).
Anyone fellas - i welcome you comments and feedback. This is my first game related post in over 10 years. Glad to be back in the community. In my early 20s I used to post on RSD and London seduction forum (something like that) but it seems they have all disappeared now. I hope I haven't broke any rules with this post. Cheers!
