Hey guys,
Im in the process of amping up my fundamentals to improve my odds and become a more attractive guy in my presence. i have been lazy lately for good reasons and even a bit arrogant in my vibe at times. But time to change that. I just thought it could be useful to make a list of things together if anyone is up for it. The key for me is to spend time on the key things and ive devised an initial list of the things i need to work on. Good fundamentals are crucial. But mainly their purpose lifts and enable all the rest (techs,opening, seducing etc). Too much focus on it In itself is not good. its just the foundation. Nothing written in stone - Just my mindset on it atm.
For me these below are the ones i wanna amp up/refine in november to hit a more attractive fundamental presence:
body language and physical presence
Standing tall/good rank posture
Moving and walking in a slower pace, not rushing
keeping more still when reacting to people
keep my head still when i speak, when in a room and interacting (pheriperal vision, low attention radius)
moving a slower pace, on my rythm sorta feel to it
Leaning/relaxed but also a sense of activation to my body - decisiveness in movement/firmness to me.
taking space - like what i expect from the world around me, respectfully confident, refined (think cajun)
Also focus is to feel my body more in interactions for grounding and aliveness - slip into a more perceptive, connected state
Voice
voice needs to be deeper
vocal pace needs to be slower, relaxed, soothing
when i speak i speak at a volume that hits the room around the people i speak to (Noteable impact in attention grabbing and hooking as well as overspeaking people at times when needed - eg. the types that keep interrupting)
ill look into core vibes too as a fundamental of what i give up. i have a few i know works but would like to get into some that work even better and maybe have some variety.
sexualising my presence
i am a spectacle to be witnessed (non arrogant just enjoy the beauty and expand into my own sexuality - let the girl feed it)
sensualised micromovements - sensualised feel expressed in lips, body etc
pursed lips
relax eyelids
doing little slowly - calling attention to myself/my doings while amping up sensualised micro movements as a momentum(jim morrison)
contained it all, needs to be balanced and attuned to her. dont do it too early w. most girls if theyre not in that phase where sexual activation is useful.
The usuals:
Shape up - i feel more than good w. my body just need to loose a few. Intermittent Fasting is my way. I am sick which i have been for awhile but will see if i can do just a lil very moderated exercise again.
Good style - my approach is tight, wellfit jeans, nice boots - chelsey stylish but more edgy, a shirt/top that gives a lil something, accesories are refined, silver neclace and Bracelet or double silver neclace(one inside the other), classy elegant watch, hair cut uptodate and sends a signal that i groom and keep myself in order,
Groomedness - keeping it tip top too.
Above is my list atm. what are your focus areas or key things to look at here?
Im in the process of amping up my fundamentals to improve my odds and become a more attractive guy in my presence. i have been lazy lately for good reasons and even a bit arrogant in my vibe at times. But time to change that. I just thought it could be useful to make a list of things together if anyone is up for it. The key for me is to spend time on the key things and ive devised an initial list of the things i need to work on. Good fundamentals are crucial. But mainly their purpose lifts and enable all the rest (techs,opening, seducing etc). Too much focus on it In itself is not good. its just the foundation. Nothing written in stone - Just my mindset on it atm.
For me these below are the ones i wanna amp up/refine in november to hit a more attractive fundamental presence:
body language and physical presence
Standing tall/good rank posture
Moving and walking in a slower pace, not rushing
keeping more still when reacting to people
keep my head still when i speak, when in a room and interacting (pheriperal vision, low attention radius)
moving a slower pace, on my rythm sorta feel to it
Leaning/relaxed but also a sense of activation to my body - decisiveness in movement/firmness to me.
taking space - like what i expect from the world around me, respectfully confident, refined (think cajun)
Also focus is to feel my body more in interactions for grounding and aliveness - slip into a more perceptive, connected state
Voice
voice needs to be deeper
vocal pace needs to be slower, relaxed, soothing
when i speak i speak at a volume that hits the room around the people i speak to (Noteable impact in attention grabbing and hooking as well as overspeaking people at times when needed - eg. the types that keep interrupting)
ill look into core vibes too as a fundamental of what i give up. i have a few i know works but would like to get into some that work even better and maybe have some variety.
sexualising my presence
i am a spectacle to be witnessed (non arrogant just enjoy the beauty and expand into my own sexuality - let the girl feed it)
sensualised micromovements - sensualised feel expressed in lips, body etc
pursed lips
relax eyelids
doing little slowly - calling attention to myself/my doings while amping up sensualised micro movements as a momentum(jim morrison)
contained it all, needs to be balanced and attuned to her. dont do it too early w. most girls if theyre not in that phase where sexual activation is useful.
The usuals:
Shape up - i feel more than good w. my body just need to loose a few. Intermittent Fasting is my way. I am sick which i have been for awhile but will see if i can do just a lil very moderated exercise again.
Good style - my approach is tight, wellfit jeans, nice boots - chelsey stylish but more edgy, a shirt/top that gives a lil something, accesories are refined, silver neclace and Bracelet or double silver neclace(one inside the other), classy elegant watch, hair cut uptodate and sends a signal that i groom and keep myself in order,
Groomedness - keeping it tip top too.
Above is my list atm. what are your focus areas or key things to look at here?
