In high school I was not great with girls so I decided to buy Chase's book before I left to a college away from my hometown. I am at the seducer level and so far I have done great with picking up girls and having encounters with them. Due to my inexperience, I have noticed that I gain feelings towards the women that I have sex with very easily. This backfires because I then begin to chase and my emotions always get the best of me. For example, I was at a party last week and I noticed that one of the girls that I had sex with a couple of days before that was also at the party. I noticed that she was all over and making out with some guy so my immature self started drinking way too much than what I had planned. To make a long story short, I was furious by the end of the night which affected my vibe and made me cut off that girl while also making a fool out of myself. Another example, that is not as drastic as the previous example, was one day a girl came over to my dorm to have sex in between classes and after the encounter, I began to chase her which drew her away. I just need advice on how to keep my cool and not gain feelings so fast. I have not gone to the second portion (romancer) of Chase's book because I still want to fully master the seducer section. Also, I am fairly new to the game so I believe that I may be overwhelmed with how much attention I get from all of these girls. I believe that my problem is that since I'm new, I still have insecurities and have not grasped the full confidence in a relationship aspect. It also might be that I am too nice and therefore do not have control.
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Hey aaron
I think you just answered your own question. It's pretty normal when you first start to get success with women. My advice would be - when you feel needy and chasey, don't fight your feelings. Just sit there, meditate and be present with it. The more you try to fight against your feeling, the more it's going to persist, so you need to let go at first.
The long term strategy for not gaining feelings quickly would be to keep meeting more girls until everything feels pretty normal to you and sleeping with a girl is not a big deal to you anymore.
Embrace sexual freedom and see it as a good thing. If a girl (who's not your gf) slept with you, you should be ok when she wants to go sleep with other guys. Therefore the best way to keep a girl coming back to you would be amazing sex.
The most important thing is to ground yourself to a larger purpose than women, so you don't get suck into these needy feelings because you have more important things on your mind than her.
If you want to start a new relationship with a girl you slept with, GC has very articles on these!
- Smith
I think you just answered your own question. It's pretty normal when you first start to get success with women. My advice would be - when you feel needy and chasey, don't fight your feelings. Just sit there, meditate and be present with it. The more you try to fight against your feeling, the more it's going to persist, so you need to let go at first.
The long term strategy for not gaining feelings quickly would be to keep meeting more girls until everything feels pretty normal to you and sleeping with a girl is not a big deal to you anymore.
Embrace sexual freedom and see it as a good thing. If a girl (who's not your gf) slept with you, you should be ok when she wants to go sleep with other guys. Therefore the best way to keep a girl coming back to you would be amazing sex.
The most important thing is to ground yourself to a larger purpose than women, so you don't get suck into these needy feelings because you have more important things on your mind than her.
If you want to start a new relationship with a girl you slept with, GC has very articles on these!
- Smith
Smith,
Thanks for the advice, brother. Like I said, I'm new to girls even giving me attention because in high school I was just really into school and activities that I never made time for girls. That hard work landed me in a bad ass university with beautiful white girls everywhere. So you might understand why I get all excited when these girls give me attention haha
Thanks for the advice, brother. Like I said, I'm new to girls even giving me attention because in high school I was just really into school and activities that I never made time for girls. That hard work landed me in a bad ass university with beautiful white girls everywhere. So you might understand why I get all excited when these girls give me attention haha
Hey aaron,
I've got similar problems handling my emotions, in addition to what already has been said, maybe you want to try not sleeping with girls you see on campus on a regular basis, until you're experienced enough to handle it. For me, this makes it easier to "fuck and forget".
- wardog
I've got similar problems handling my emotions, in addition to what already has been said, maybe you want to try not sleeping with girls you see on campus on a regular basis, until you're experienced enough to handle it. For me, this makes it easier to "fuck and forget".
- wardog
wardog,
Yeah man, I need to work on that because the amount of attention that I receive is crazy. I may just be overwhelmed. I'm just trying to be great at what I do and this is a major obstacle that I need to get over. I'll take my time with it.
Yeah man, I need to work on that because the amount of attention that I receive is crazy. I may just be overwhelmed. I'm just trying to be great at what I do and this is a major obstacle that I need to get over. I'll take my time with it.