Game and life

[Toby2030]

Lifestyle development and my goals for this year. In progress...

University

Goal: Grade average > 8

• 7-8 hours of sleep every night + flight mode when sleeping (use melatonin if you can’t fall asleep)
• Light therapy while studying + f.lux over Philips hue
• Pomodoro technique when studying, use of montone music with noise cancelling headphones
• Nootropics with alpha GPC, L-Theanin, Bacopa, Vitamin B12, L-Tyrosin and vinpocetine. 2 weeks, 1 week break, repeat.
• Daily creatine intake
• Cut off energy drinks/sodas and only use coffee + butter when in need of energy
• Focus on class teaching > lectures
• Focus on tests and assignments throughout the year, and only use reading as a lookup tool for solving your tests and assignments.

Health

Goal: Putting on 3 kg of muscle before 1/8.

• Hitting the gym 4 times a week – 5/3/1 bbb
• 3000 calories daily
• Minimum 1,8g protein pr kg every day
• Daily face routine

Game and SC
Coming soon....

 

[Carousel]

• 7-8 hours of sleep every night + flight mode when sleeping (use melatonin if you can’t fall asleep)

You may consider L-tryptophan - it is a precursor to melatonin rather than interfering directly in the signal loop. There has been some concerns about long term use of melatonin but I don't know the exact status of this debate. I have used both and I must say that tryptophan seems to give a long, good sleep while melatonine gives a shorter and deeper sleep, so I would prefer the former. Although sometimes I can't sleep from just tryptophan. Vit C and D and B complex (not just B12) may also be relevant as they aid the conversion of the amino acids into neurotransmitters ref. your nootropics.

Goal: Putting on 3 kg of muscle before 1/8.

• Hitting the gym 4 times a week – 5/3/1 bbb
• 3000 calories daily
• Minimum 1,8g protein pr kg every day

This may also be of some interest, it would probably not hurt with a higher protein intake although the evidence is all over the place.

Protein Requirements for Hypertrophy » Bodyrecomposition

A look at why the popular suggestion that protein requirements for athletes can be met by consuming 0.25 g/lb/meal four times per day is bafflingly wrong.

bodyrecomposition.com

What is BTW the point of 3000 calories on non-training days?

 

[DarkKnight]

No use zinc picolinate and a good dosis of good quality magnesium. You will sleep deep and like a baby. It's the same effect as the ZMA which was really popular some time ago.

 

[Chrance]

No use zinc picolinate and a good dosis of good quality magnesium. You will sleep deep and like a baby. It's the same effect as the ZMA which was really popular some time ago.

holy shit I do this too. Used to use ZMA but found buying zinc and magnesium in a grocery store easier. No need to go back to ZMA.

 

[Toby2030]

Thanks for the input guys! I’ll look into L-tryptophan, zinc picolinate and magnesium in the next week's time. I don’t really use melatonin that often but in cases where I have to get up because of exams etc. I use it.
Regarding my protein intake, as you say, the evidence is a little everywhere. I’m normally around 2,2g per kg every day, so it won’t really be a problem. And as far as I know, most evidence says at least over 1,8g per kg, but over is fine too.
Yeah, you might be right that I have to cut down on my calories on non-training days. I’ll plug that into myfitnesspal right away!
Thanks again guys!

 

[Toby2030]

SC
- Sniper approach. Who do I need in my life to move forward in other areas, what can I provide them, and how do I gain access to them?
- Remember to text and engaged friends with small seeds for events. I talk to a lot of people but tend to forget people that mean a lot to me.
- More networking

Life planning and development
- Optimize my goal plan monthly. 3 months, 6 months, 12 months, 5 years, 10 years
- Map my weekly tasks out and plug them into google calender every Sunday night
- Daily - reflect on the day and plan for the next day
- Weekly mentor group call
- Weekly book club group call
- Control my thoughts to control my actions, to reach my goals
- Daily meditation -> headspace

Startup
- Mentor group call every 14th day
- Close 3 clients before 1/5 at minimum 1100 dollars each per month

Game
Work on:
- Sex talk -> transitioning -> using assumptions and escalating them if she accepts the frame, open loops,
- Sexual tension -> read glows log, focus on feeling not doing,

 

[Toby2030]

I have already reached my goal closing 3 clients – waaaay better than expected. How easy it really is got me thinking – if I can earn money during what I love already now, why should I spend 4 more years studying to do the same thing. If I can close 3 more clients and keep my existing clients, I would already earn more than a Master of Science with years of experience in my field would (my goal education). And having to work less. The question is if I should focus on building my own business or spend the next 4 years studying to do the same but have a good degree. Hmm.

Double LR from my skiing trip in France is coming up later..

 

[Glow]

I have already reached my goal closing 3 clients – waaaay better than expected. How easy it really is got me thinking – if I can earn money during what I love already now, why should I spend 4 more years studying to do the same thing. If I can close 3 more clients and keep my existing clients, I would already earn more than a Master of Science with years of experience in my field would (my goal education). And having to work less. The question is if I should focus on building my own business or spend the next 4 years studying to do the same but have a good degree. Hmm.

Double LR from my skiing trip in France is coming up later..

Hey man,
i can relate to your thoughts.

Fyi i started my own company halfway through my master. i extended my master to focus on it and later i sold it. But alongside this i went back and finished the master. partly cause it was a character thing for me to finish what i started. it was a joke at the end for me as i outranked most students having been active in real lifes endavours. so i literally just read the books, came to a few of the sessions and nailed the exams. But the education as a whole has further evolved me on more civil sorta elements so i appreciate and feel good in having it today. It allowed me to both work in strong positions in multinationals and do my owns. just to say it might be a broader resource that enables a lot and in itself is a resource and interest. i feel it gives me a certain weight in life as a thinking man amongst others. and in my civil standing due to the educations role. Also later when things were not going well due to events outside my control it was nice to lean back on. Huge investment. but also a strong platform of substance and resource for many things.

Just my experience w. it for you to consider.

 

[Toby2030]

Fucked two girls this week.
I could easily feel that my escalation were very rusty. I did not set a good enough sexual frame. Nevertheless, I did some sex talk and sexual prizing, which in the end made her isolate us. First to a separate room, and then to the bedroom. I did not feel any sexual tension, which is a huge no no. I can feel that there's a lot of things that I have to focus on again after corona is over.

- More use of EC
- More cutting space and physicality
- More push-pull and disqualifications towards a "us" frame
- Better transitioning towards sex talk and better execution. I'm not completely sure how I should pull it off for the best effect. I contrasted myself from one of her previous lovers who were really bad in bed, and talked about how I like to do it instead. I'm looking forward to work with Riker's Language course.

It's the arousal key that I'm lacking atm.

 

[Toby2030]

Status from this week:
- 1 girl flaked on our date and we are trying to rearrange
- I was on a date wednesday with another girl, she chased me, I deep dived, we had heavy sexual tension, good frames set, but she resisted going to my place. I might have had too much of a fuckboy vibe. Overall, the frames I set were decent but I felt that she wasn't completely bought in. We have a new date next week.
- One date later today (saturday)

Remember for tomorrow:
- Everything is sex -> arousal
- Work NLP into my sex talk -> start it with a weasel phrase, use more adjectives+adverbs (descriptive language), and sprinkle in embredded commands and trance words, and then link it to me (this/these when positive, these/those when negative, with me etc)
- Start compliance ladder early (get her used to moving around)
- Seed the pull idea as early as possible

 

[Toby2030]

LR:

We met at a part very close to my apartment. I had a bottle of wine and a small speaker with me. Very talkative girl, and very sexual open, which I like.
....
Her: "My ex BF would love if I were a virgin"
Me: "Seriously? I don't agree."
Her: "Why?"
Me: "I would rather fuck a girl with experience than a girl without experience"
Me: "Imagine this, you meet two guys, the first guy he's very handsome, and interesting and you end up going home with him. Your clothing gets off, he just touches your pussy for 30 seconds, and that guy then begin fucking you like a robot.
This other guy, is very handsome as well. You feel relaxed in his presence, and the more you talk to him, the more intrigued and aroused you become. His touch is light, he kisses your neck and bites your ear, but do not kiss you leaving a void for you wanting more. You go home with him as well. The two of you have a long foreplay where he kisses you from top to bottom but avoid your breasts and pussy. You feel more and more aroused. He goes down on you, and looks into your eyes with passion. He then procced to fuck you animalisticly in different rhythms and positions very hard. The harder he fuck you, the more you feel aroused. Who would you rather have sex with?
Her: The second guy of course!
Me: That's the same way we guys feel. We would rather fuck someone who gives us a good experience than someone who don't.
Me: When did you have your next exam?

- I tried to use the format from one of Teevester's gambits and freestyled an answer. I feel like I did decent but it might have been a bit too explict. I need more experience calibraiting that.
- Moved her from our meet location, to the grass, to a bench and then home to me with the excuse of bad weather.

 

[Velasco]

Congrats on the lay @DML

- I tried to use the format from one of Teevester's gambits and freestyled an answer. I feel like I did decent but it might have been a bit too explict. I need more experience calibraiting that.

Can you provide more detail here on how did she react after this (to me its strange because as you say, she came off as very sexually open). And what you did here to calibrate to her reaction. I'll sent this to Teev if you'd like feedback from him.

 

[Toby2030]

@Velasco At the end I felt like she hesistated slightly when I used more and more descriptive language, and embredded commands. I tried to cut it off as quickly as possible at that point - not making it too weird.

Her reaction afterwards was pretty good. I felt a slight increase in her attraction level - she initiated physicality right after this. I'm not near unconscious competence yet when it comes to NLP and sex talk, I had to think a lot to deliver it as I did. It might have felt a bit mechanic. I have to work a lot on my delivery and tonality.
Feedback is always a good thing, if he has anything to add I would love to hear it.

 

[Toby2030]

@Bacchus Sorry for the late answer. I thought it was a good combination but I'm probably wrong. I will focus on implementing NLP when I'm making her feel allowed to have sex with me instead as you suggested, thanks!
You are probably right about me rushing through his course. I have too many balls in the air atm, and have rushed a lot of things I shouldn't have rushed. I'll keep that in the back of my head, and go back to his course again.
Thanks again for the feedback, and sorry for the late answer!

 

[Toby2030]

LR:
My second date with the girl I didn't fuck got postponed and we had it tuesday this week. We met up at a park, enjoyed the weather and ate pizza together. She was very shit testy - she apparently know one of my former fuck buddies. However, I reframed everything pretty good and passed most of her tests, and tried to sprinkle some resistance removing frames into the conversation - I had quite a lot of resistance from her side because she's friends with one of my previous FBs. I ended it with that girl because she wanted more from me, which I weren't interested in.

Me: "Girls get slut shamed, and I'm not a fan of that"
Her: "That's so true!"
Me: "A lot of guys brag about who they have sex with, and tell it to everyone around them. I like to be more low-key about who I have sex with. I think it's a thing between the girl and I, and not the whole world. In that way, the girl can be 100% herself, and do exactly what she wants to do, without any consequences. I value women, who are 100% themselves very much, and by being lowkey girls are so."

We venue changed to a cocktail bar, and I started moving the conversation towards more sexual topics, and increased the sexual tension. I tried to work on fractionating between rapport and sexual topics.
Me: "Sex is such a natural thing. I love girls who are sexually open and can talk about what they like in bed. It makes the sex way better."
Me: "What's your favorite sex positions?"
Her: "I'm a huge fan of missionary and cowgirl. It just hits me in the right spots"
Me: "Those positions are very hot. A lot of people talk about how boring missionary is, but there's sooo many different variations that spice that sex position up. It's actually one of my favorites as well. Have you ever tried having a pillow under your back while in the missionary position?
Her: No, I never tried that
Me: That's a shame, it's a very stimulating position and hits completely different than a standard missionary. Nevertheless, hows your exam preperation treating you?"

...
Me: "You have the most innocent expressions, but I have a feeling that you are into rough sex"
Her: "I love rough sex. What about you?"
Me: "I love all kinds of sex. Rough sex, soft sex - everything. I like to experiment a lot, and I think that variety in the bedroom is very important.
Her: "That's true. It can become really boring if everything is just the same
....

We ended up kissing at the bar, and I seeded the idea of drinking wine at my balcony. She agreed, and we went to my apartment. And then we had sex.

- Less detailed sex talk, and decent fractionation. It's actually easier than I thought to pull off. However, it of course still need a lot of work.
- My ability to remove resistance was pretty good.
- I need to become more smooth at my transition phases
- More work on sexual tension.


I meet up with the first girl that I fucked in my corona revive experiment at my apartment and we ended up having sex. I think it will be the last time.


I answered a girl I got on instagram around 6 months ago's IG story yesterday, and we have arranged a double date. First double date for me, which probably will be fun.

 

[Toby2030]

Dating
Work on:
Stumbled on Glow's post about elicitation. Genius motherfucker. A skill that I will work on that is a perfect skill for transitioning into sex talk and setting resistance removing frames. A lot of what's inside Riker's course compliments this quite a lot.
- NLP -> Riker's course -> Pacing and leading, contrasting, rich descriptions
I have had quite a lot of one night stands and fwbs over the last couple of years. By now, I haven't had any long term mono relationship yet. I think it's about time that I try looking for that.
I decent amount of dates lined up. However, I feel that I'm about to run out of new girls to hit up for dates. I'm looking forward to when everything opens up again.
1. With the girl from the previous LR
2. Double date
3. Girl from same campus I met through SC
+ casual sex with my 2 rotation girls

I met a girl that lives quite far from where I live. Model, really smart and really really hot. I failed to seduce her 1,5 months ago. I forgot to # or social media close her but she started stalking my IG stories. I started following her and she followed me back. I hope I can get her on a date. Will probably hit her DMs soon.

Business and uni
Business is boomin'
The last month has been hard. Exam prep mixed with working has destroyed my sleep schedule. A lot of days I've worked from 9 am to 6 am in the morning. I've not been very effective at studying during corona and that have paid its price on how much I have to catch up on right now. Luckily, the courses are not that hard this semester. Nevertheless, I have to structure my time better. No more clients.
I closed my 7th client, which will make me 5250 dollars after taxes each month. As a student that's a lot. I don't want to end my student lifestyle, and I fear that my increased income will affect my spending. I want a regular student life like everybody else. I don't want to be known as the rich kid, which probably also would affect my game negatively. No one of my friends know how much I make, and I think I should continue keeping it that way.
Therefore the money will be invested from the start - I'm not into the flashy lifestyle.
- 1500 dollars each month in low risk stocks for retirement in 30-40 years.
- Buy my own apartment instead of renting -> Invest in more apartments in the future

* Create a better work life balance
* Prioitize uni more.

Health
I haven't worked out in a long time. I haven't eaten well and have consumed too much fastfood. Too much work and studying got in the way. It have just been easier to order something than to cook a lot of the days. I have lost a couple of kgs, but will hopefully gain everything back when the gyms open up again, and I get past my exams. I don't eat enough in stressful periods.

 

[Toby2030]

I was on a date with Miss Instagram a little over a week ago. That's probably the highest social value girl I've been on a date with. 85k instagram followers and model. I had a hard time getting sexual tension with her, and felt like I had some kind of resistance. I felt like I delivered my sex talk pretty good but I did not have the effect I wanted on her.

Her: "I've never had an orgasm"
Me: "That's actually common. I'm actually very jealous of girls when it comes to sex, but it's really a double edged sword.
Her: "Why?"
Me: "Do you want the negative or positive first?"
Her: "Let's just start with the negative, and get that out of the way"
Me: Well. A lot of women today can't really reach a orgasm. A big part of it is because of pressure from society. Girls can't reach orgasm because they
1. aren't comfortable with their own body.
2. aren't comfortable with the guy they are having sex with, or
3. can't get aroused enough.
Her: "That's sooo true. I have been close to an orgasm multiple times but it's just like when I reach the point just before, I can't let my body let loose"
Me: "Yes it's a shame. Sex is the most natural thing in the world, and I believe that girls should feel allowed to act on their desires just like men can, without getting shamed for it. I both find that the most natural thing, but I also find it very sexy. There's too few girls who really show their sexuality"
Her: "That's right. I often get a lot of insulting messages on my IG pictures because I show off my body. I'm so tired of that.
Me: "That sounds awful, and something that guys should stop doing. But do you know why I'm really jealous of girls?
Her: "No?"
Me: "Girls are able to get way more orgasms than men. Girls can actually get 8 different orgasms. Breast orgasm where you get your nipples pinched or licked, clitorial orgasm which can be reached with circular movements or a guy that goes down on you, to G-spot *demonstrating with fingers*, and even full body orgasms. The reason why it's a double edged sword is because most women can't reach all of them because they don't feel like they can act on their desires. But once they learn to act on their desires, they open a world to way better sex.
*She don't say a word, but hold eye contact*
Me: "Which sport did you say you did?"

I tried to escalate the vibe and up the sexual tension during the date but she defused the tension. We ended up parting ways, and have texted a little but I don't think she's ready for a date #2. I'm slowly switching over to a full SMMA focus on my game. Since it's what most advanced guys follow here, this might be the quickest way for me to reach a higher level. I sensed that I probably had a social frame problem during the date, which I probably also have to work on, as well as sexual arousal.

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One of my fuckbuddies are pushing for us getting exclusive. I'm actually considering if that might be a good move. I've still never been in a relationship, and have tried to stay away from that because I feared it would hinder my game success. I'm at a level now where I can manage a relationship but I fear that I can't evolve my game while in a relationship
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I've lost 5kg and worked too much. I don't have a sleeping schedule atm which is destroying me. Starting a business and getting 7 clients straight away have been too much. I often work from 10 am to 6 am - hence why I'm always on here on the most fucked up times. I passed all three of my exams at uni and got my last grade about a week ago. Decent. But I can feel I have to cut down on work, it's not helpful for me + I have to go to the gym again.

Riker's course is something that's on hold for now. I don't have the time atm to implement it as it should be implemented.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@DML dude! I think your timing was off on the sex talk, and you broke the tension when you could have cemented it in my opinion. Breaking tension is good if you're going to go back but I think this fell off a cliff here dude.

She was on a date with you, agreeing with your observation on society, framing yourself as a sexy guy, got her intrigued, dropped the orgasm bomb and then cut your thread and probably didn't go back? It feels unfinished to me, I think you could have held eye contact with her after, she was aroused here and would have filled in the void if you let the tension grow, then dissolve it if needed. I think you could have even framed this that you're the dude to give her this experience.

But a lot of girls won't experience this, they're too self conscious to let themselves go or they're not comfortable with the dude. The dude needs to know what he's doing and he can unblock this mental barrier.... something like that says it's disappointing that girls won't ever experience this, but you could experience this with me without explicitly saying it.

I also think you could have had a better impact baiting this rather than just reeling them off. Girls can have 8 different types of orgasms..... wait, if this has piqued her interest she'll ask or give you a look, then deliver it. Just an idea, I don't think this would have been a huge difference.

As for a relationship, they are a different ball game,a different experience that could be beneficial. If with the lockdown you aren't able to meet many girls it might be a good time to gain this experience. Also just because she's your main girl doesn't mean you can't meet other girls dude, this could actually improve your game if you take this opportunity.

It's like having 2 fuck buddies at once, you're outcome independent, your more confident because of this and if you decide to still approach and meet girls, keep your skills sharp you can gain a lot from this if you go into it with the right mind frame dude.

 

[Toby2030]

Verbal framework

Credits: Glow and Riker

Start A Conversation

- Intrigue and mystery

• Lie/withhold information
• Pacing
• Intentional show of not qualifying
• Not fully answering her questions
• Open loops
• Rainbow ruse
• Very light disqualification/mixed signals -> “My attraction for you just went this low”.
• Poker face facial expression

Manage the Conversation
Goal: Move the conversation in a good direction

- Steer towards fun, exciting and interesting topics

• Asking what she does and eliciting values
• Nudging further into topics she brings up through active asking into these in stimulating ways
• I things from your world. Experiences and themes she can mirror which you use as bait to into conversation topics you want

- Steer towards engaging her emotions and imagination in a positive way

• Stimulating her responses through emotional stimulation – descriptive language -> lots of adjectives and adverbs, variations in pace, and with a calm and relaxed voice from the chest AND linking positive emotions and her emotional states to you.
• Techs eg mini cold reads, statements, pacing and leading towards light resistance removing frames, drama, breaking rapport, listing, contrasting, push-pull

- Steer towards romantic, fascinating, seductive things

• Through weasel phrases into SOTS or sex talk
• Sexual prizing
• Removal of resistance

Direct the Conversation

• Pay attention when good subjects come up (SOTXs)
• Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT
• Move towards SOTs
• Stay there as long as you can

Use the language tools

• As much as possible
• Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs

Fractionate

• If you take a wrong turn, back up
• If you move back to a general topic, start over

 

[Skills]

I was on a date with Miss Instagram a little over a week ago. That's probably the highest social value girl I've been on a date with. 85k instagram followers and model. I had a hard time getting sexual tension with her, and felt like I had some kind of resistance. I felt like I delivered my sex talk pretty good but I did not have the effect I wanted on her.

Her: "I've never had an orgasm"
Me: "That's actually common. I'm actually very jealous of girls when it comes to sex, but it's really a double edged sword.
Her: "Why?"
Me: "Do you want the negative or positive first?"
Her: "Let's just start with the negative, and get that out of the way"
Me: Well. A lot of women today can't really reach a orgasm. A big part of it is because of pressure from society. Girls can't reach orgasm because they
1. aren't comfortable with their own body.
2. aren't comfortable with the guy they are having sex with, or
3. can't get aroused enough.
Her: "That's sooo true. I have been close to an orgasm multiple times but it's just like when I reach the point just before, I can't let my body let loose"
Me: "Yes it's a shame. Sex is the most natural thing in the world, and I believe that girls should feel allowed to act on their desires just like men can, without getting shamed for it. I both find that the most natural thing, but I also find it very sexy. There's too few girls who really show their sexuality"
Her: "That's right. I often get a lot of insulting messages on my IG pictures because I show off my body. I'm so tired of that.
Me: "That sounds awful, and something that guys should stop doing. But do you know why I'm really jealous of girls?
Her: "No?"
Me: "Girls are able to get way more orgasms than men. Girls can actually get 8 different orgasms. Breast orgasm where you get your nipples pinched or licked, clitorial orgasm which can be reached with circular movements or a guy that goes down on you, to G-spot *demonstrating with fingers*, and even full body orgasms. The reason why it's a double edged sword is because most women can't reach all of them because they don't feel like they can act on their desires. But once they learn to act on their desires, they open a world to way better sex.
*She don't say a word, but hold eye contact*
Me: "Which sport did you say you did?"

I tried to escalate the vibe and up the sexual tension during the date but she defused the tension. We ended up parting ways, and have texted a little but I don't think she's ready for a date #2. I'm slowly switching over to a full SMMA focus on my game. Since it's what most advanced guys follow here, this might be the quickest way for me to reach a higher level. I sensed that I probably had a social frame problem during the date, which I probably also have to work on, as well as sexual arousal.

________________________________________________
One of my fuckbuddies are pushing for us getting exclusive. I'm actually considering if that might be a good move. I've still never been in a relationship, and have tried to stay away from that because I feared it would hinder my game success. I'm at a level now where I can manage a relationship but I fear that I can't evolve my game while in a relationship
________________________________________________

I've lost 5kg and worked too much. I don't have a sleeping schedule atm which is destroying me. Starting a business and getting 7 clients straight away have been too much. I often work from 10 am to 6 am - hence why I'm always on here on the most fucked up times. I passed all three of my exams at uni and got my last grade about a week ago. Decent. But I can feel I have to cut down on work, it's not helpful for me + I have to go to the gym again.

Riker's course is something that's on hold for now. I don't have the time atm to implement it as it should be implemented.

This was pretty good, why do you think she didn't close?