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Hey guys,
This one is aimed at guys struggling starting out with approach anxiety or just being a little quiet and not used to talking to people.
I was reading another Pick Up blog recently and there was a good article on what he called "Social Robots". I won't rehash the whole thing but the basic idea was that some guys getting into this just tend to be shy or lack social experience. All things you can learn, but end up relying on lots of lines and routines they pick up from some schools of seduction. On the other hand the guys who DO do well with women tend to be the guys who are just good with people in general... they make everyone like them and feel good, man, woman, child, old, young, etc...
Anyway, ever since I was a kid, I'm probably what you'd call in introvert. Not a total recluse or anything, I had plenty of friends and played plenty sports, etc... but I did and still do just enjoy my own company. I find being around people 24/7 to be draining. When it comes to women, I love spending a Saturday evening at home with some dinner and a movie but the problem was always that I didn't really "like" going out to bars and clubs to meet the women in the first place! Dilemma!
Well, things have obviously improved for me. Pickup is something I can do when I feel I "need" to now but no longer feel I "have" to all the time, as I've improved my skills....
So what's the point you ask?
Well if you're not used to talking to people daily as you're on the go, how can you smoothly seduce women as you go? You need practice.
When I was 15 I took a part-time job in retail. I helped me come out of my shell a lot. I HAD to talk to everyone and deal with all sorts of people, nice and difficult. But approaching was easy. I was told what to do and what to say to customers by my boss... but as I got more comfortable, I was able to go off script and make friends of or regulars or some of the nicer customers who'd just chat about sports or the weather or whatever.
Anyway, the point is it's an easy way to just be talkative for a certain number of hours a day and bring you out of your shell in general with strangers.
I was volunteering this weekend with a friend and it got me thinking because I had not been really working with the public in quite a while. But it was fun and refreshing again.
For the younger guys, a part-time job at a store or a home depot or whereever is great, earn a few bucks and push yourself to talk to strangers more.
If you already work another job, just think about volunteering a few hours at night time to something which gets you chatting to people. Maybe those signup people on the street, maybe helping the homeless, anything at all really that gets you out there chatting and riffing with people... it just gets you in the mind of being social.
Later when you're at the bar or anywhere else, it feels a little less intimidating to open a conversation with a stranger...
Hope it's an idea which might help some guys out... do think about it.
This one is aimed at guys struggling starting out with approach anxiety or just being a little quiet and not used to talking to people.
I was reading another Pick Up blog recently and there was a good article on what he called "Social Robots". I won't rehash the whole thing but the basic idea was that some guys getting into this just tend to be shy or lack social experience. All things you can learn, but end up relying on lots of lines and routines they pick up from some schools of seduction. On the other hand the guys who DO do well with women tend to be the guys who are just good with people in general... they make everyone like them and feel good, man, woman, child, old, young, etc...
Anyway, ever since I was a kid, I'm probably what you'd call in introvert. Not a total recluse or anything, I had plenty of friends and played plenty sports, etc... but I did and still do just enjoy my own company. I find being around people 24/7 to be draining. When it comes to women, I love spending a Saturday evening at home with some dinner and a movie but the problem was always that I didn't really "like" going out to bars and clubs to meet the women in the first place! Dilemma!
Well, things have obviously improved for me. Pickup is something I can do when I feel I "need" to now but no longer feel I "have" to all the time, as I've improved my skills....
So what's the point you ask?
Well if you're not used to talking to people daily as you're on the go, how can you smoothly seduce women as you go? You need practice.
When I was 15 I took a part-time job in retail. I helped me come out of my shell a lot. I HAD to talk to everyone and deal with all sorts of people, nice and difficult. But approaching was easy. I was told what to do and what to say to customers by my boss... but as I got more comfortable, I was able to go off script and make friends of or regulars or some of the nicer customers who'd just chat about sports or the weather or whatever.
Anyway, the point is it's an easy way to just be talkative for a certain number of hours a day and bring you out of your shell in general with strangers.
I was volunteering this weekend with a friend and it got me thinking because I had not been really working with the public in quite a while. But it was fun and refreshing again.
For the younger guys, a part-time job at a store or a home depot or whereever is great, earn a few bucks and push yourself to talk to strangers more.
If you already work another job, just think about volunteering a few hours at night time to something which gets you chatting to people. Maybe those signup people on the street, maybe helping the homeless, anything at all really that gets you out there chatting and riffing with people... it just gets you in the mind of being social.
Later when you're at the bar or anywhere else, it feels a little less intimidating to open a conversation with a stranger...
Hope it's an idea which might help some guys out... do think about it.
