Getting Girls Back

[trashKENNUT]

Read most of this post, very useful info, but I have 1 question for you.
I tried this with a girl a few weeks ago, and tried to be friendly and ask her how her life was going, to get her talking, she answered but was very cold, the conversation was something like.

Me: Hi, how are you doing?
Her: not much, work, study, you?
Me: I got a new job, and still studying too
Me: How's X thing going?
Her: Fine, I guess.
Silence
If I stopped talking, she stopped too.
She seldomly told anything herself. And after sometime she asked "why do you keep going on?" and told me that she was answering "not to be rude", and was giving short answers so I would get bored and go away.
The first few texts in a chat or something are more or less good, but it degrades quickly, should I make little conversation every few days? or how do I open her up? asking questions about herself seems to bore her, and asking opinions even more (what do you thing of X?).
Sometimes I can get a pretty good conversation talking about music, sharing links about some band or stuff like that, but if I try to change subject it gets cold again.

YOU SHOULD MAKE LITTLE CONVERSATION EVERY MANY DAYS, not one whole day to open her up. For girls whom you have breakup with, or a bad scenario, for every one step you take, if she backs off, even the most subtle, backoff 6 steps. (normal girls, pull back three steps (just a metaphor people saying about three steps)

Anyway,

Don't do "How you doing", questions about her life and deep diving. Just small talk and little humor, sometimes, will do. "Hey, i hope you doing good, <add a little humor that is not offensive>". Girls who break up with you might find you retarded, and some will be even piss off if you too hard, so you have to be careful, but i have seen even the most angriest of girls, melt overtime.

You doing double effort every time you trying to get girls back. Don't go in depth about music, and whatever. She knows you want her back. She even ask why are you persisting. Just be gradual, not overwhelming.

Zac

 

[girlsfollow]

Read most of this post, very useful info, but I have 1 question for you.
I tried this with a girl a few weeks ago, and tried to be friendly and ask her how her life was going, to get her talking, she answered but was very cold, the conversation was something like.

Me: Hi, how are you doing?
Her: not much, work, study, you?
Me: I got a new job, and still studying too
Me: How's X thing going?
Her: Fine, I guess.
Silence


Zac

You shouldn't be trying to build rapport over text as far as I know - you should leave it a week or two after she sent you that text - then initiate and move onto suggesting a hot chocolate sometime ASAP! no playing around over text it just irritates

 

[TheWiseFool]

If me and a girl have gone two years no contact and the only way I will be able to communicate with her is over facebook, should I just add her and send little messages here and there to her since building rapport shouldn't be over text?

Also, if new threads were created off this one, can someone link me to them?

 

[trashKENNUT]

Hello everyone,

Chase has an article on getting women back. It will be an additional great tool or better than this one.

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-g ... riend-back

Zac

 

[Franco]

Everyone,

As Zac mentioned, Chase later made a detailed article on this topic that covers most of what this post was trying to achieve. That article can be found here:

How to Get Your Girlfriend Back

As a result, this topic will be locked. If you would like to discuss this in more detail, please start a new topic.

Thanks,

Franco