Getting harder to find the distinction picking up and being social

[Smith]

Hey guys,

After reading Chase's article on how naturals pick up girls, I have decided to commit that into my daily life, which makes me stop stressing about "approaching girls" because it's just socializing. It makes me thing "what the hell is an approach anyway? I was just talking to that stranger." However, as I found myself to be more sociable with strangers, I don't know what's pick up anymore?
Is the only difference just me being slightly more sexual and more physical? because the way I have conversations with most people are pretty similar, so that's the only thing I could think of.

- Smith

 

[Troy]

Smith,

Approach = talking to anyone

Personally, I don't like the term pick up because it's so pua sounding. I don't know. Maybe the pick up industry made me think that way because of how they taught game. The cheesy pickup lines and weird funny hats. Some of you reading this may have already realized I didn't like pick up terms from a long time. I only use them to get my point across in a post since they are universally understandable on girls chase and " pick up " shiver. Smith, on the forums it's OK to say you picked up that girl. In real life, ditch that mindset. You only talked to that girl because you were being social or you like her.
Yes talking to girls you want to seduce is different. How ? Well do you talk to your male friends and touch them the same way? No. Do you talk to your Mom rough and tough like you do with your bros? No. Do you talk to cute girls you like the same as you do with siblings? No

It's all about calibration. The person you are talking to makes you change your vibe, words and body language. That's why being with girls won't make you great with making male friends and vice versa. Or why bring nice and cuddĺy and submissive with your Mom won't get you too far with getting girls ( most will friend zone you).

That's why we advocate the more social experience in different situations with different people is the better you become OVERALL at socializing. Just socialize, and calibrate to each person. Just talk and don't look at talking to girls as a approach. It's just the beginning till you give EM mad orgasms

Troy

 

[Smith]

Hey Troy,

great points! Especially with what you said about the different vibe you project when you're interacting with different people. I can really see how being social is a good baseline if you want to get good with women. I remember RSDTodd said the benefit of talking to everyone is that it trains you to have a conversation just for the joy and connection and to give value. I can really see that's starting to affect my interactions with women now. I remember when I started out more than one year ago and I was only talking to hot girls, it was unconsciously training my brain - "You only talk when you want something." That breeds some bad conversation habit, like talking to fast and not pausing. When I went out today, I experimented around and sort of got a feel on how to switch to sexual from social if I want to, and it's not that hard =) just be present and feel aroused.