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I was wondering this as I have suffered through the following:
I had been thinking and reflecting a bit on my interactions with women and I felt like there is a certain place you get to when there is tension. Like when you do sleep with her and become that sexual option to her. Like for me personally, it is about friction and tension. You don't exactly hate her but you want to be rough with her if you guys catch my drift.
Like mentally, when I have had nights where I did pull and close, I wasn't trying to be nice to the girl but something happened in my head. Like some primal or caveman side of me came out. In some interactions, I have noticed this sort of tension.
One time in college, I was horny, and I had to pass something to a girl that sit in a giant lecture hall with me and was right next to me. I just held on to it instead of passing it and she grunted while she grabbed it. The few girls around us looked with their eyes wide open but I so wanted to smash, didn't end up smashing though.
Just last week, I went out to a cliquey venue in a somewhat of a bad boy attitude I guess. Or more of "fuck these people" type of mindset. Not bitter per se but more like "yeah whatever dude". I bumped into a girl and knocked her drink over and kept walking. Then I looked back and I kind of jogged over to apologize, ending all the tension, and she said "no ur good that drink was shit anyways".
But it is almost like all along, when going out, I was out to talk to girls, get their numbers, and see where that went. But recently, I wonder if there is a shift that needs to happen in order for guys to consistently get laid when doing cold approach.
Like getting in touch with your primal and beast side.
Like you almost want her to hate you to some degree but not dislike you completely.
I feel like I am almost there....or maybe not.
- Lots of dates that don't turn into lays
- Lots of nights out that do not result into any meaningful lays
- Daygame sessions with numbers and IGs that go nowhere
I had been thinking and reflecting a bit on my interactions with women and I felt like there is a certain place you get to when there is tension. Like when you do sleep with her and become that sexual option to her. Like for me personally, it is about friction and tension. You don't exactly hate her but you want to be rough with her if you guys catch my drift.
Like mentally, when I have had nights where I did pull and close, I wasn't trying to be nice to the girl but something happened in my head. Like some primal or caveman side of me came out. In some interactions, I have noticed this sort of tension.
One time in college, I was horny, and I had to pass something to a girl that sit in a giant lecture hall with me and was right next to me. I just held on to it instead of passing it and she grunted while she grabbed it. The few girls around us looked with their eyes wide open but I so wanted to smash, didn't end up smashing though.
Just last week, I went out to a cliquey venue in a somewhat of a bad boy attitude I guess. Or more of "fuck these people" type of mindset. Not bitter per se but more like "yeah whatever dude". I bumped into a girl and knocked her drink over and kept walking. Then I looked back and I kind of jogged over to apologize, ending all the tension, and she said "no ur good that drink was shit anyways".
But it is almost like all along, when going out, I was out to talk to girls, get their numbers, and see where that went. But recently, I wonder if there is a shift that needs to happen in order for guys to consistently get laid when doing cold approach.
Like getting in touch with your primal and beast side.
Like you almost want her to hate you to some degree but not dislike you completely.
I feel like I am almost there....or maybe not.
