You want to be careful with projecting too much sexual energy, it depends on situation.
Some scenarios:
* You project too much sexual energy > She'll see right through you, she'll know right away what you want > she'll put up lots of barriers (or rejects you right there). Remember, girls are very good at reading body language.
* You'll project too much sexual energy but you don't have any/low experience > she will 'read' your body language and decides to have sex with you > you get stuck at some point because you don't know what you are doing > she will realize right away that you are a fake > auto-rejection. You will never hear from her again...
* You will project too much sexual energy > lots of girls will get excited > None of them will go with you because they don't want to be called sluts. OR, they know you are simply too easy, which simply means that there is no challenge for them > autorejection...
* You project too much sexual energy and you might have some/good experience > she will want to try something kinky, say BDSM (while you have no experience in it at all or don't expect it at all) > she will dump you on the spot. Yet, if you didn't project too much sexual energy she would have 'normal' sex with you... I knew this one hot girl, she was rather conservative, very nice, you would say "Nice Girl" the same way as you say "Nice Guy". You would just never even think that she would sleep around while in relationship with another guy (who was also a Nice Guy). So one day I mentioned something about slaves (it wasn't in the sense of racism though, rather just a sarcastic comment), and she kind of started to dig into it, asking me to explain myself. At that time I knew she was quite attracted to me but I just didn't know nor was ready for it, so by the time I realized what is she actually talking about and what she wants, she was already gone... She WAS interested in sex outside the relationship, but not the 'regular' type, since she already had enough of that one... Perhaps the 'nicest' girls have the kinkiest desires...?
* You look too horny > she will put up lots of barriers just to make you chase her, e.g. she will make it seem that you have a chance > she will make it everlasting game...
The above is all relative though, it depends what you want (quick lay, relationship,...), what's your skills, and also what is she looking for at that particular time. For example, if she is looking for a quick fun and you project sexual energy, she'll be in your bed in < 10 minutes, no effort... If you do the same at e.g. work, you might become quite popular - yet many girls may be avoiding you while being attracted to you at the same time, because they simply don't want to be seen arond the guy who is getting laid all the time...
So you definitely want to experience, you want to learn to express this sort of energy, but IMO you are signaling too much that you are on the 'hunt', that you want to get laid...
On the other hand, IMO the best approach is to be rather neutral, sort of 'mystery', distant, even passive, yet always ready to take her to your place. You sort of want to project this energy, but only at it's minimum. This way she's got to put her own energy to figure out who you are, or if you really want to have sex - or just casually watch movie at your place. It's a challenge for her to find out the 'unknown' about you, and women love the challenge...
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As far as jerking off, it is actually healthy. It is also all relative, it depends on your overall desire for women. If you are jerking off too much, you will want to have sex with women but you will not have enough energy to pull her in the bed. You'll know that you can jerk off to hundreds of pussies in no time, so why waste time on one pussy, who can reject you any time? So that's too much, you are living in fantasy world, once you get to that point you are probably already addicted. Your boner will not get up either, so cut back.
If you don't jerk off and you can't control yourself, you will be walking around like a loaded gun. Too fucking horny and no pussy, because girls can 'read' that you are on hunt and they will simply run away. You may end up being some pervert, priest who is molesting young boys, even a guy who can't take his failures with women, so he goes out to take lives of others. See the numbnut Elliot Rodger last year... Very dangerous... Sexual energy is our primary driving force, it is LIFE itself, so don't fuck with it, it can easily screw your head...
So like everything else, the key is being moderate. Not too much and not too little. You want to go out and be horny enough to go after women, and have a boner you can rely upon... On the other hand, jerking off couple times per week (if you don't have access to pussy) does actually have healthy benefits, including lowering of depression and prostate health...
